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Coping With Being Alone
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Posted 10/27/14 , edited 10/27/14
I don't really have that issue a lot of the time, since I am either at work or diving into my other hobbies like martial arts and DnD, both of which are rather social activities in their own way, which take up about 70% of my week.

Though I do get that feeling a lot when I am at home on my off time and when it's all said and done it doesn't bother me anywhere near as much as it should. I normally absorb myself into my reading/studies/gaming/drawing/writing/watching etc and unconsciously block out the world entirely while I do so, unintentionally excluding myself from everyone else.

Digressing slightly from the topic (but still tangentially related), my Dad has expressed concern about when I do the above and as a result wants me to be 'more social' when he invites his friends/neighbors over. This (ironically) makes me seclude myself more, not because I want to be rebellious but just because I don't really want to 'be more social'. At the moment I'm not sure how to deal with it but I think the solution will come to me with time.
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Honestly, i find it hard enough to find time do make myself happy. The last thing i need or want is a relationship. That and im also a borderline sociopath. I find it easyer to to deal with computer issues and watch anime and play rpgs, than it is for me to deal with people.
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I have the viewpoint of if I meet a girl naturally that would be best, but if not and I get to the point where I feel lonely I'll actively try to meet someone.
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Alone can mean so many things. People that are surrounded by people but still feel alone. Or maybe not having a single friend makes them feel alone.

I once truly felt alone when 2 of my childhood best friends passed away when i was 23 and when i was 28. By 28 I had no close friends irl, was single and didn't think id ever make friends that could be like my old buds.
Those friendships took time, and I pretty much gave up on finding friends. I moped around online for years till I found a chatroom with similar interests and I made some decent friends.
In the end I found someone, who broke down all my walls and became my best friend and my wife. Maybe the coping was me always searching for someone to talk to, I feel like i'm doing that again but on Cr now, I feel better so i been making more of an effort to comment in forums, add people and have conversations. I guess that's my Coping.
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I usually just daydream when I feel alone, it's pretty fun to become lost inside of yourself.
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Lol I came here to see if there were any tips xD nope
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With anime, I suppose.

That probably sounds terrible, but it's kind of true. If I can watch a happy-go-lucky show that puts a smile on my face I can generally forget about all my troubles for the day. I suppose it's one reason why i'm such a big fan of lighthearted slice of life shows. And a lot of the times I grow attached to the characters in these shows. I learn their quirks and habits - their likes and dislikes - and it feels as though they've become real friends and I don't feel so lonely.

I'm sure that sounds horribly depressing if not downright worrisome to most people, but I honestly stopped caring quite a while ago. I'm not about to relinquish my little kernel of happiness because it indirectly depresses someone else. I like it a lot more than my previous coping mechanism, which was basically working myself to death. I'd rather be happy and depressing than overworked and depressed.
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Alright, alright. Real time....

I don't cope with it. I just wait until it passes, hunker down until the storm wears away. Worst case scenario, I shut down my emotions.
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Music used to be the way for me. But eventually I just ranted my problems in my head then after that ignored the fact that I ever had problem to begin with.

But since I'm used to being alone with no one to lean on, it doesn't really affect me.

One thing I thought of though is I hate the fact that when I'm driving with my friend, they start to rant out their depressing problems. It's really unsettling. That's why being alone is the best.
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TeeBuddy2 wrote:

Music used to be the way for me. But eventually I just ranted my problems in my head then after that ignored the fact that I ever had problem to begin with.

But since I'm used to being alone with no one to lean on, it doesn't really affect me.

One thing I thought of though is I hate the fact that when I'm driving with my friend, they start to rant out their depressing problems. It's really unsettling. That's why being alone is the best.


Yeaaah. They'll complain about something, usually a girl in one case, and I feel abnormal because I don't deal with my problems by ranting like they do. I internalize it.
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I don't need to think about this, really. It's become my way of living life for now. Prefering it this way too.
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I never feel alone, because there's always the internet to keep me company. My friends are usually online at work and at home anyway. The only time I feel alone would be when the internet stops working. If that happened, I would end up talking to my housemates until it turns back on so that's not really lonely either.
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Often times it's and internal struggle with me on whether or not I like being alone. There are times when there's nothing more that I want then someone to come over and just be like hey let's chill and watch a movie. On the other side of the spectrum I have such terrible social anxiety I went to the hospital after I had my 4th socially caused panic attack, and subsequently got put on ativan. Since then I am now off the ativan without ever having gotten addicted thankfully and only take a mild anti-depressant called ciprolex. This causes my emotions to become dulled so it's pretty hard for me to become excited about anything but it also keeps me from getting sad about my being alone. I don't really have a way of coping with being alone I guess, I strive to make plans to fix being alone and then when they happen I just want everyone to go away. The mind is a place that we'll probably never understand. Also hey whaddup crunchyroll people this is my first post lol.
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Posted 10/28/14

Phersu wrote:

How do you cope with being all by yourself, with nobody to lean upon or share yourself with? How do you manage when you have to hide and wall yourself away from others?

Discuss.

Personally, I don't need to cope with it, as I prefer it this way.


I withdraw into the recesses of my mind.
Posted 10/28/14
It's pretty easy, this thread should be "coping with people" because that's much harder.
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