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Posted 10/30/14 , edited 11/3/14
There is a time and place to hit on a woman, those are at bars, parties, and concerts. Their is never a reason to hit on a woman in the street. Has for the children on here who don't see why this is a big deal, perhaps some education and perspective is necessary. The US military, in the middle of a very nasty rape scandal; Colleges in America, all have problems with sexual assault and rape, from greek societies and sports programs; police departments in several states have come under attack for how they treat rape victims, covering up rapes, and even knowing allowing their officers to rape sex workers. These are all things in American culture today that are happening and all stem from one problem in the culture, the belief help by some men that women are their sexual playthings. The keep going till she says yes or at least doesn't say no mentality. Now this belief is not help by most men, but enough of us do turn a blind eye and act like this is a feminist problem and not a cultural problem. All problems of equality are a cultural problem. Now I am well aware that cat calls do not equal rapes and a creepy guy shouldn't be treated as a rapist, but just as with racism and homophobia, the best way to comeback the bigger problems, is to first bring them to light and then ask ourselves if this is what we want American culture to be.
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There is a time and place to hit on a woman, those are at bars, parties, and concerts. Their is never a reason to hit on a woman in the street. Has for the children on here who don't see why this is a big deal, perhaps some education and perspective is necessary. The US military, in the middle of a very nasty rape scandal; Colleges in America, all have problems with sexual assault and rape, from greek societies and sports programs; police departments in several states have come under attack for how they treat rape victims, covering up rapes, and even knowing allowing their officers to rape sex workers. These are all things in American culture today that are happening and all stem from one problem in the culture, the belief help by some men that women are their sexual playthings. The keep going till she says yes or at least doesn't say no mentality. Now this belief is not help by most men, but enough of us do turn a blind eye and act like this is a feminist problem and not a cultural problem. All problems of equality are a cultural problem. Now I am well aware that cat calls do not equal rapes and a creepy guy shouldn't be treated as a rapist, but just as with racism and homophobia, the best way to comeback the bigger problems, is to first bring them to light and then ask ourselves if this is what we want American culture to be.


I don't understand why you went off writing all that based on a bad video. Also 'we' don't need to discuss anything, American culture has nothing to do with me nor the majority of others. This isn't even a problem, it's just a bunch of people sitting on tumblr all day looking for the next 'thing'. People so buried in there fake digital life that simple human interaction falls under the same basis of generally inappropriate stuff all under the word 'harassment'. Damn some girl checks me out I better completley blank her out, fuck her, I look good for me not her, she better check her privileges. God forbid a girl thinks I'm cute. Also fuck what I think to, we should all just float around like zombies, because retarded femnazi videos like this can so easily pusade other morons who can't think for themselves. Also, to you, it's only acceptable to hit on girls at bars, parties or concerts? lol. I don't want a one night stand thank you.

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- "Hi beautiful"
- "Have a nice evening"

BREAKING NEWS; WOMEN HARRASED IN PUBLIC. PLEASE SHARE ON TUMBLR AND DONATE THANK YOU
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Posted 10/30/14
never had a problem with this.

guess there's an advantage to being ugly...

must be so hard to be beautiful...
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It's sad that we've come to an age where a stranger can't tell someone they walk by to have a nice day without being accused of sexual harassment. A decade ago some of the men in that video would've been labeled as kind gentlemen. Of course some of them were just immature jerks, but you can't assume every guy that tells you to have a good morning wants to rape you, especially not when you're as unattractive as the girl in that video. I see strangers crossing each other in the streets all the time saying "god bless you" and it has nothing to do with looks or gender.

Stranger: Good afternoon, miss.
Woman: HELP! POLICE! THIS MAN WANTS TO RAPE ME!
Stranger: I was just saying-
Police: What's the problem here?
Stranger: I'm moving back to Canada...
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It's sad that we've come to an age where a stranger can't tell someone they walk by to have a nice day without being accused of sexual harassment. A decade ago some of the men in that video would've been labeled as kind gentlemen. Of course some of them were just immature jerks, but you can't assume every guy that tells you to have a good morning wants to rape you, especially not when you're as unattractive as the girl in that video. I see strangers crossing each other in the streets all the time saying "god bless you" and it has nothing to do with looks or gender.

Stranger: Good afternoon, miss.
Woman: HELP! POLICE! THIS MAN WANTS TO RAPE ME!
Stranger: I was just saying-
Police: What's the problem here?
Stranger: I'm moving back to Canada...


Yeah, if only that were the happy limit of a cop's involvement. To be honest, I've reached a point where I don't speak to women in public whom I don't know, especially if I'm in uniform. Just too much room for misunderstanding, whether genuine or deliberate. And don't get me started about how many females seem to think that they can get out of traffic tickets by automatically saying that the officer demanded sex/threatened rape. That accusation has become practically reflexive.

I'm not trying to be insensitive (well, maybe a little with the previous kittens-in-a-sack post), but I don't really understand how such a contrived video with such an artificial, self-induced element of paranoia has generated so much discussion.
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I currently live in a big city. It's not common here for strangers to really talk to each other so I do get wary if someone tries. I've had to grow up pretending to be blind and deaf when I was a teen because there were all those vulgar calls every single day that I ventured out of my home. Then there was the stalker we had to call the police on. Oh and the creepy taxi driver, I actually started walking rather than take taxis to school because of that. I've experienced what is actually sexual assault and indecent assault in public so I won't be stopping to chat to strangers. I did manage to elbow a pervert in his crutch when I was 12, hit the stalker when I was 14 and had to throw away a dress when I was in my early 20s because semen, yes semen in daylight in the street ended up on it. If a guy should assume I haven't answered him because I'm stuck up then that's his problem.
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Posted 10/31/14
To me i find it very annoying and creepy even though this happens to me once in a while i feel like punching the guys right in the face but then if i engage in a conversation with them most likely they're gonna start asking me all these questions that would probably make me uncomfortable.
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My views on this are conflicted. I kinda take it as a compliment when it happens to me, but at the same time I assume any guy who does it is some kind of creeper. And the thing is, it's usually a 40+ or 50+ guy doing it. Gross
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Posted 10/31/14
Seeing videos like that makes me glad that I have small boobs and tend to dress in baggy nerd shirts. I don't get cat calls or anything when I'm out because I'm not deemed attractive enough for it. Sometimes in work clothing (my work is business casual so I gotta dress up just a little), when I'm on the job people will try to tell me whatever, but it's very uncomfortable. And that's just people saying I look nice. I can't handle things like that at all.

I do have friends that get stuff like the cat calls and whatever out on the street when they're going places though, and it really angers me to know that so many people think things like that are acceptable. Like what bravo said on the first page, there really shouldn't be anything difficult about just approaching someone instead of yelling things at them. It comes off as rude and creepy and it's unwanted attention.
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Posted 10/31/14
I know this white redhead who went to Japan and a Japanese dude followed her to her house and said he was interested in her fashion sense, lol.

Shit happens sometimes. For people like me, I'm very easily bothered by other people when I go outside but it's not as though I blame it on the population.
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Yes there is no problem with how american culture views women, the reason that was pointed out is because this video was shot in America in response to that culture, it's called contest. When pointing out the climate which led to this video being shot and giving it context causes men to compare women to Nazis then obviously their is a problem. Honestly does that seem like an appropriate response to an argument, if you are from England ask someone over 60 what the real Nazis were. Also these men weren't trying to talk to her, they were hitting on her, I doubt that any of them wanted anything beyond a one night stand. If it's not a problem then ignore it, the rest of us will move along.
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Posted 10/31/14 , edited 10/31/14
These people weren't hitting on her. Since when is catcalling considering hitting on someone? I thought hitting on someone was an effort to introduce yourself and get someone's number, not simply engage in the "chase" for the hell of it. Some of the dudes followed this woman. That's pretty creepy.

Is this a problem of "white male culture" (yes, I know many of the people in the video aren't white, but leave it to some people to inevidibly say these dumb comments somewhere in this world) which undoubtedly some wanna be activist will say? No, so fuck tumblr. And honestly, the whole collective guilt or responsibility argument is a bunch of bullshit. It's people's right to talk to you on a public street. Rude? Possibly, depends on the circumstances. Here in the video, it was rude if not creepy.

Also, this whole call for a group having to have a wide open discussion is such trash. Since when is the male population a monolithic social group that decides norms? Culture is way more freaking complicated than that. Besides, to even begin the discussion would require that all men view themselves as part of the "greater community of men." And from what I gather, most men don't see things that way. I rest my case with the theories of Benedict Anderson's Imagined Communities .

All that being said, the only way this will likely ever stop is for some brave individuals to taser next guy whole literally follows them on the street. When word gets out, people will back the fuck off, since they don't wanna get tased.
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DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

BREAKING NEWS; WOMEN HARRASED IN PUBLIC. PLEASE SHARE ON TUMBLR AND DONATE THANK YOU
#Feminism.

BREAKING NEWS: YOU DIDN'T EVEN TRY.

If must have been easy to neglect everything else in the video hmm? For someone who doesn't care, you sure have a whole lot of shit to say. I'm pretty sure the women who have their own experiences don't need to be convicted that it has happened to them. If you don't care, then go away. Think for only yourself and quit telling other people to not worry about problems that clearly pisses you off.
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Posted 10/31/14 , edited 11/1/14
Very creepy, bothersome and uncomfortable. I know that feeling when I saw this video. But if it's actually a girl, Punching a creeper would make me laugh. lol.

Also, donations. I was wondering what for. And people also talking about feminism. Which is strange that this video has nothing to do with feminism.
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Posted 10/31/14
I have two ways you can look at this

You could become a teacher in Psychology and change maybe 4-5 classrooms of students.
Even if you change a couple of classes it wouldn't make a difference, it is a natural way of trying to converse with the attractive woman.

Have you noticed where it took place?
This is New York city we are talking about, a big crowded city with people of all classes.
It is the same on Miami, Las Vegas, and any other big city area.
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