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Posted 11/1/14


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What are the biggest mistakes you've made in your time? I'm looking for a new job while still studying, I'm worried about my future and my emotional well being.

Sigh... At least I still look well kept and pretty on the outside, my strongest rule is that I can never get like, ugly, fat, etc.... Superficial, I know.

My top 3 biggest mistakes.

1. Qutting my waitress job

2. Quitting my IMS job

3. Not offing myself before a lot of people cared about me

Oh, yikes... I think I may need a hug...
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My dad once told me that no matter what you choose to do, the longer you stick with it the better it will turn out.

I don't know if he was talking about his personal experiences being a father to me or if he was just saying he finally didn't mind that I'm working a dead-end job and living with other poor adults even as I approach my thirties.

He doesn't know I once tried to kill myself. He doesn't know that hearing those words were worth all the years I continued on even though I felt like I was letting him and everybody down.

Quit a job if it's what you have to do. Stick with your life and the people around you and try to appreciate how you have a place in all of it. Even if you hate what you've done with it so far.
Posted 11/1/14


One would be quiting a certain part-time job I adored with flexible hours while as a student years ago and basically could have done in my sleep. I had a lot of good friends while I was there and at school that I deeply regretted forgetting to keep in touch with.

Also I have had bouts with depression and times where I wanted to off myself as well, and I'm thankful I was talked out of that mindset, too..

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I had a girlfriend during my sophomore year in high school and we've done some demoralizing stuff that I wish I could forget. After we broke up I just became lifeless. I never planned to do anything before marriage but I definitely blew that one. I also spent a lot of money on her and some other people too. I guess wasting my time and money on girls in high school was my biggest mistake. So many things I could've bought instead... lol I've experienced some horrid stuff but not enough to affect me on a daily basis.
Posted 11/1/14
I read the title as "mating mistakes" and was like whaaaaaaaaat.
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For me it was dropping out of college. I really wanted to be a comp sci major because jobs. However I hated it, but I tried to stick with it anyway. Eventually I became so burned out I just shut down. Ultimately I ended up dropping out. Should have changed my major to something I might've enjoyed more. I might have graduated...it might have been a useless major....but then maybe I wouldn't have self-esteem issues as well. Of course I still have a lot of things going for me, so I can't say it's all bad. However, I'm still not sure if I'll ever truly be happy.
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I say my #1 mistake happened in early May last year when I stupidly burst into a sprint barefooted on concrete, my achilles tendon wasn't quite right after doing that and that set it up for a mid-July grade 3 tear (after I thought it was fully recovered). That cost me my mobility for over a year and my shot at the NFL Regional Combines earlier this year.

Mistake #2 would probably be May 2012. A co-worker had asked me out 3 times and I stubbornly turned her down because I wanted to focus primarily on training (no distractions) and I was also too concerned with my own financial situation. From what I could tell she was a really good person I hadn't seen any malice from her in any situation. I didn't even offer any reason either.... regardless of the outcome I handled that situation very poorly.

Prior to all of that I was in a bad spot before that as I had been a social outcast near the end of high school and when I was finally pulling myself out of that rut I fell even deeper after a torn ligament in my right ankle. I had a 3 year span where I was isolated and developed strong social anxiety that would manifest physical symptoms. The one thing I did right though was that I didn't trap myself into despair and I kept pushing forwards despite it all. Faith kept me going...

My advice is to take a long hard look at yourself and then a look at successful people... don't look necessarily at what they do but rather what they don't do. They also surround themselves with positive influences and they take the negativity in stride, they will listen to it without acknowledging it. Just stay relaxed and never stop improving, don't listen to others... focus on your ideal self and make it happen.

Keep grinding, you will strike diamonds
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During my final year of high school I lost thousands of dollars on online poker over a span of 2 months, which amounted to more than half my savings from a year's worth of part-time work (which was 30-40 hours a week of torture to my back). From this mistake I've learned to never consider gambling as a career, because my personality prevents me from thinking rationally during a poker game despite vigorous study of chance and probability. My biggest regret was that I could've invested the time spent on that job to studying in order to achieve a higher score to get into a better university (I transferred to a better one later on). I fucking loved the job (waitering at the one of the busiest restaurants I've ever seen), and I intended to work there full-time after graduating (they were offering me a managerial position), but I had to quit due to injuring my back which gave me no other option besides tertiary education. In the end, I'm glad that it turned out this way.

The more mistakes you make, the wiser you become. You should analyze where you went wrong and make sure you don't repeat the same mistakes again.
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sounds like its time to grow up and realize your not a kid anymore, adult life can suck but inless your born rich or absolutely beautiful person your gonna hate it
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If you had asked me this a year or two ago I probably would've had a completely different answer for you. I was down on my luck for quite a long time and it seemed like every decision I made was a bad one - from relationships, to schooling, to friendships, to money matters and other such things. But now I can say, from a much better point of my life, that looking back on it they may have been 'mistakes', but I wouldn't have grown into the person I am today without having a few setbacks and bad situations.

For instance, I dated a lot of really lousy guys. That included someone who threw knives at me once during an argument, someone who raped me, and someone who was very emotionally clingy while being very domineering over my life (where over time I realized I wasn't around friends much or doing other things outside of being around him because he was so controlling). I can say that yes, those were horrible points in my life... but I can also say those experiences helped me to understand what to look for when starting new relationships or looking into dating others after those things happened. I know a lot of bad things to look out for and thanks to that I've dodged a lot of other people that I really know aren't the best to be with. It's helped me put those thoughts into my other friendships as well, since no matter if you're dating or you are friends with someone it can still be a negative friendship overall due to the way one or both parties treat each other.

I can put that sort of learning into other parts of my life too. I've been through some bad stuff, and I've been through things that I brought on myself as well as things I didn't. But in the end, those situations are only for a while, and when you're through them you know more about yourself and about how to react and/or how to be able to get through bad times. I think it's an important part of life and an important part of maturing and growing up and being able to help yourself.
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Having crushes lol.
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23 / M / Somewhere in rura...
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Never learned how to study. Now I'm in an extremely hard major and having to rely mostly on what I pick up and being able to bs my way through.
How I handled my last break up. I ended up hurting pretty much everyone around me horribly, lost all of my closest friends, and to top it all, I was a cutter back then.
Following someone who wasn't afraid of committing criminal acts and who was a meth head.
Trying to go "just a little farther" when the truck I was driving was acting up. Ended up blowing the engine, had never driven a truck that didn't tell you it was in 4 wheel drive, and this one didn't and I didn't think to check.
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Yoyo dieting
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My biggest mistake was when I stopped caring about school during my junior year. I fell into a depression of some sorts which lead me to just giving up. In school I always had a smile in face but I was hurting so deep inside.
Posted 11/2/14
Biggest mistakes...

Not finding something and going to school while I still had interest in things.

Being such an asshole to the person I cared about most in the world and not fixing it while I had the chance.

Spending so much money on pointless things in a useless attempt to fill the emptiness inside that I usually try to forget about.

Allowing so many people to walk all over me for years and thinking it was no big deal. It's a much bigger deal than I ever want to give it credit for.

So many more that I've tried to forget.
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