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I'm sincerely sorry for all that's happened to you. I wish you the best and pray for your well being. I know it really isn't much but it's the most I can do. I know I don't know you at all, but should you need someone to vent to I'm here as well. Even if things are bad right now, I hope you are able to cope and make the best out of this situation.

As for mistakes,

I should have let go of the past far sooner. I held onto it only to hurt myself and the ones I loved over and over again. Lashing out in revenge didn't make things any better, but rather produced outcomes I only regretted.

I passed up many, many chances to simply enjoy life. Declined so many invitations, and turned down so many possibilities just to be cooped up by myself.
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Magical-Soul wrote:

Sigh... At least I still look well kept and pretty on the outside, my strongest rule is that I can never get like, ugly, fat, etc.... Superficial, I know.



not superficial. as for me, a lot of my depression comes from my body image. and keeping fit is good for more that looks.

so, i wouldn't worry about it, as long as you don't judge others who may be over weight.


edit:

wow just read the spoiler.

well, homeless... been there, done that. dont worry. women, esp young women dont stay homeless long, and if worst comes to worst, begging on the street will keep you warm and fed.

its very important to remember whats really important in your life.

jobs and crap dont really count. you need to eat, and sleep and famiily. all else is expendable.

jobs come and go, losing one is not the end of the world.

homes come and go, losing one hurts like hell, but you can live through it and be stronger for it.

stay strong and have a plan for everything.


you. will. live. through. this.


life gets better. keep at it.

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Posted 11/2/14
I've made ALOT of mistakes. far to many to write but the one mistake ive never made was not learning from them.
Try seeing an opportunity from those mistakes, you never know what can come from them
Posted 11/2/14 , edited 11/2/14
OP, picture yourself and your life as being in a car and in that car other cars will tailgate you (regrets) and the road can be bumpy ahead (doubt) but as long as you don't panic in your car and drive... nothing can touch you in most cases. just stay in your car and don't bail when it gets too tough (suicide) or a serial killer will off you on a rainy day (reassure yourself). even when the car gets into trouble.. use your phone and call for professional help, don't try to get out and fix it (don't be too proud) lol because you'd most likely suck at it (less experienced). have a destination and make that destination a flexible umbrella (no pressure) that can go twirl around and it's made out of rainbows that even when rain hits the colors follow the light and make the distance to that umbrella smaller. (i just made this up so excuse my weird thinking..i'm at a loss there lol)
Posted 11/2/14
^That was... beautiful.
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damonthegreat wrote:

sounds like its time to grow up and realize your not a kid anymore, adult life can suck but inless your born rich or absolutely beautiful person your gonna hate it


Sounds like to don't know how to solve problems without using money.
Posted 11/2/14 , edited 11/2/14
Meeting a girl who I felt deeply for and realizing that all along she was what we like to call an Ice Queen... Just an all around terrible experience. If I was the Doctor and could rewrite my timeline so I never met her, I would 100% do it.


My trust is destroyed, especially in women, and it's sad because I know it's unwarranted to not trust every girl I meet because a handful were horrific. There's a reason I've never been in a serious relationship, and I know it's my fault



Posted 11/2/14
I didn't make any major mistakes that are keeping me up at night... or that I regret. But my mentality has always been... mistakes help you grow as a person. You can't improve as a person or become intriguing if you don't make any mistakes. And the next time you make that mistake... it'll hurt less? idk. I'm just rambling.

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I'm in a love-hate relationship with my science degree. On the positive note, I gained a wealth of knowledge that I would have never been able to achieve by myself...

...on the negative side, I felt like I've wasted time studying this degree, because... during that time I could have worked a fulltime job and saved lots of money.

It's one of those "the grass is greener on the other side" moments. A lot of people I've talked to would love to be in my position, to have this degree and work in a public sector. But I keep telling them, it's not really that amazing. If you have the perseverance, you could do it too. It's not rocket science.

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at the end of the day, you have to be happy with what you've got. it could have been worse. you could be born without an arm or leg.


You just have to learn to appreciate what you have achieved so far, and learn to become a humble person. Don't expect much out of other people or life. Life isn't an anime, not everyone is nice to you or willing to help you, or willing to be your friend.


Argh, I sound like a psychologist or something
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Being so in love with someone that you can't even focus on school and your grades go down.
Posted 11/2/14
Daaamn. Too bad you got that guy fired, maybe he would of hugged you.
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IshokuOsero wrote:

If you had asked me this a year or two ago I probably would've had a completely different answer for you. I was down on my luck for quite a long time and it seemed like every decision I made was a bad one - from relationships, to schooling, to friendships, to money matters and other such things. But now I can say, from a much better point of my life, that looking back on it they may have been 'mistakes', but I wouldn't have grown into the person I am today without having a few setbacks and bad situations.

For instance, I dated a lot of really lousy guys. That included someone who threw knives at me once during an argument, someone who raped me, and someone who was very emotionally clingy while being very domineering over my life (where over time I realized I wasn't around friends much or doing other things outside of being around him because he was so controlling). I can say that yes, those were horrible points in my life... but I can also say those experiences helped me to understand what to look for when starting new relationships or looking into dating others after those things happened. I know a lot of bad things to look out for and thanks to that I've dodged a lot of other people that I really know aren't the best to be with. It's helped me put those thoughts into my other friendships as well, since no matter if you're dating or you are friends with someone it can still be a negative friendship overall due to the way one or both parties treat each other.

I can put that sort of learning into other parts of my life too. I've been through some bad stuff, and I've been through things that I brought on myself as well as things I didn't. But in the end, those situations are only for a while, and when you're through them you know more about yourself and about how to react and/or how to be able to get through bad times. I think it's an important part of life and an important part of maturing and growing up and being able to help yourself.


Your old situation sounds a lot like what I'm going through at the moment, every decision I make goes horrible south, which is bad news because I used to be good at a lot of things...

I'm normally an excellent cook, but ever since I started night-shift, I couldn't really focus very well in the day time, so I ended up causing a ire that was a decent size, it reached the ceiling, but I put it out fast enough to where you won't even know a fire started.

I haven't cooked since then.

As far as relationship goes, I've had pretty bad ones, I've gotten hit(a lot), my money suspiciously stolen, I've gotten raped a few times when I was 17 and twice this past October.

I can't even function at the moment, my little sis will call me for breakfast, lunch, etc and I will respond but never actually go eat anything, I was NEVER in a position of being taken care since I was 16, I've handled myself since then, but now that I'm borderline psycho and can't even lose a video game without crying a little....

I'm mostly surprised by the fact I can still competently write code and program,it's the only thing I happy doing at the moment. I don't know how you fixed yourself, but you should give me some tips, I think I've already snapped, I can't get any worse...
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I've never been in a situation like this before, but if you'll excuse me from trying to give advice from on top of a pedestal.
1. Start off by thanking your sibling for taking care of you.
2. Find other people in the same situation and talk to them. Even if you can't find people in worse situations, talking to people is supposed to help get things off your chest.

Personally I think one of the worst things that can happen to a person is to make them think that both they and the world are rotten to the core. People don't deliberately do things they think are bad, and the world doesn't particularly have any strong feelings on the matter. So try thinking positively, by which I don't mean think everything is gold and shiny and the world is a lovable wonderful place, but rather, that things can be better, that you can make them better, that the people around you want to do better, and that you can help them do better.

You should also start cooking again, since it seems like you enjoy it, and it'll make you feel better to keep your hands busy. If you're worried about something catching fire, ask your sister to help you out and make sure you don't burn the place down.

So basically, try rephrasing things from "I can't get any worse" to "this is rock bottom, so doing something can only make things better."
And I sincerely hope you went to the police when you got raped.
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Posted 11/2/14
Slacking in my studying. I'm in university now, still made it with my grades. But if I wasn't being so lazy all the time, I could have better grades.
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