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choosing the wrong major T_T and school. lol. in major debt for a major i can't do anything with
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Otaku-ish wrote:

Having crushes lol.

Seconded.

I regret some of the ways I've dealt with friendships. I accidentally say something too harsh because I don't have a filter and bam, no friends. When I really mess up, I destroy relationships in a way that they can't really ever be the same again.

I also tend to be really lazy and indifferent with school. This sucks, because I have about 8 more years of this.

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Posted 11/2/14
Having multiple breakdowns over a period of six years.

Letting my impulses and emotions overrule my decisions.

Lagging for two years in high school and getting behind.

Living with my mother for most of my life, even though I hardly had a choice. She was awful to me and i should've chosen to get out of her residency earlier, but I thought I could persevere and it ended up scarring me.
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Nobodyofimportance wrote:

I've never been in a situation like this before, but if you'll excuse me from trying to give advice from on top of a pedestal.
1. Start off by thanking your sibling for taking care of you.
2. Find other people in the same situation and talk to them. Even if you can't find people in worse situations, talking to people is supposed to help get things off your chest.

Personally I think one of the worst things that can happen to a person is to make them think that both they and the world are rotten to the core. People don't deliberately do things they think are bad, and the world doesn't particularly have any strong feelings on the matter. So try thinking positively, by which I don't mean think everything is gold and shiny and the world is a lovable wonderful place, but rather, that things can be better, that you can make them better, that the people around you want to do better, and that you can help them do better.

You should also start cooking again, since it seems like you enjoy it, and it'll make you feel better to keep your hands busy. If you're worried about something catching fire, ask your sister to help you out and make sure you don't burn the place down.

So basically, try rephrasing things from "I can't get any worse" to "this is rock bottom, so doing something can only make things better."
And I sincerely hope you went to the police when you got raped.


I thanked both of sisters profusely, but I still don't feel comfortable with them giving me such a cushy pillow to fall back on.

I recently got my IMS job back JUST today, my manager was thrilled to have me back, and even though I'm back to work at a better job, I'm still don't feel out of the woods yet, getting some kind of job was only a stepping stone, I'm still pretty messed up.
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Mistakes are all part of the learning process. I once turned down a job because it was part-time and I couldn't face change then, looking back I can see how it'd progress to full time work. Oh well, I got there in the end.
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Magical-Soul wrote:


IshokuOsero wrote:

If you had asked me this a year or two ago I probably would've had a completely different answer for you. I was down on my luck for quite a long time and it seemed like every decision I made was a bad one - from relationships, to schooling, to friendships, to money matters and other such things. But now I can say, from a much better point of my life, that looking back on it they may have been 'mistakes', but I wouldn't have grown into the person I am today without having a few setbacks and bad situations.

For instance, I dated a lot of really lousy guys. That included someone who threw knives at me once during an argument, someone who raped me, and someone who was very emotionally clingy while being very domineering over my life (where over time I realized I wasn't around friends much or doing other things outside of being around him because he was so controlling). I can say that yes, those were horrible points in my life... but I can also say those experiences helped me to understand what to look for when starting new relationships or looking into dating others after those things happened. I know a lot of bad things to look out for and thanks to that I've dodged a lot of other people that I really know aren't the best to be with. It's helped me put those thoughts into my other friendships as well, since no matter if you're dating or you are friends with someone it can still be a negative friendship overall due to the way one or both parties treat each other.

I can put that sort of learning into other parts of my life too. I've been through some bad stuff, and I've been through things that I brought on myself as well as things I didn't. But in the end, those situations are only for a while, and when you're through them you know more about yourself and about how to react and/or how to be able to get through bad times. I think it's an important part of life and an important part of maturing and growing up and being able to help yourself.


Your old situation sounds a lot like what I'm going through at the moment, every decision I make goes horrible south, which is bad news because I used to be good at a lot of things...

I'm normally an excellent cook, but ever since I started night-shift, I couldn't really focus very well in the day time, so I ended up causing a ire that was a decent size, it reached the ceiling, but I put it out fast enough to where you won't even know a fire started.

I haven't cooked since then.

As far as relationship goes, I've had pretty bad ones, I've gotten hit(a lot), my money suspiciously stolen, I've gotten raped a few times when I was 17 and twice this past October.

I can't even function at the moment, my little sis will call me for breakfast, lunch, etc and I will respond but never actually go eat anything, I was NEVER in a position of being taken care since I was 16, I've handled myself since then, but now that I'm borderline psycho and can't even lose a video game without crying a little....

I'm mostly surprised by the fact I can still competently write code and program,it's the only thing I happy doing at the moment. I don't know how you fixed yourself, but you should give me some tips, I think I've already snapped, I can't get any worse...



A lot of it was just that I kept telling myself 'it'll get better' and reading a lot of psychology books about other peoples' lives and what they went through and overcame. By repetitively telling myself that I was in such a hole that seemed like rock bottom, the only way to go was up, it helped me through a lot of stuff. Also telling yourself that it's okay to make mistakes, that you're young and have a full life ahead of you, and that there are a lot of people out there that have made much worse messes in their pasts and they're beyond it now... all that stuff helps.

Relationship-wise - it's important to take those situations that you've been through and ask yourself more questions when you start taking an interest in someone new. You know the behaviors the other person went through that led to them being aggressive, so look for that in people that you're interested in or people you just start dating. I got out of a couple relationships just because I saw a few (light) red flags and decided that I didn't want to stick around for them to become major ones. I now look at people and ask myself 'do they like their parents why or why not? what reasoning do they have for feeling this way, or have they not wanted to tell me?' 'do they have friends?' 'do they like animals?' 'how have I seen them treat others?'. The more positive signs you can see in someone elses' life, the better chance you have of having chosen a good person. Of course it doesn't work 100% of the time, but it's definitely something to look for.

Definitely get yourself to start eating healthier. You'll start feeling better physically and that can do a lot on your mental state too. The past few years I've cut out eating fast food and a lot of junk out of my diet. I'm working on getting rid of soda too. The more stuff that's bad for me that I put out of my diet, the better I feel physically and for some reason it makes my mind feel a bit lighter too. It tends to put me in better moods. Though it could also be because I have a phobia that's really bad that unfortunately can tie into flavours of foods and stuff so that may be what it is (but it couldn't hurt to get rid of stuff that's super bad for you anyways, your body will at least like you for it). Don't put off eating and don't skip meals. It's never good for you. *hugs*

Well make sure you keep doing coding and programming then, it's important to have those happy moments even when you feel like everything else is shattering. When I was at some bad points that's when I picked up different hobbies. The latest was my anime figure hobby that turned into a really huge delight whether I'm in a bad mood or a good one. I have issues where when I'm really feeling down, I buy shit. So people will look at me and be like 'oh god how the hell could you afford 400+ figures?! those are expensive!!' and all I can think is '... well that group I pre-ordered instead of killing myself... and that group I ordered secondhand because I had a really bad fight with an ex... ' (and then tell them 'hey, I've been collecting for a long time!' ahahaha). On a serious note though, if you have something to look forward to it can help you get through days that you don't think would be worth it otherwise. So whether that be pre-ordering something, or having a television show or a movie you realllly want to see, or anything in between, it's a really good thing. Make sure you always have something to look forward to because it'll be like that light at the end of the tunnel that reminds you it's not all bad.
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Posted 11/2/14
Biggest mistakes... I know I have.. But I couldn't remember.
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Spending money in places where I shouldn't have. Where it wasn't a necessity. Such as, for instance, my $1,000+ anime and manga collection.

Which I still have.

Ah, and also saying apparently rude things when I thought I was being helpful. Countless times.
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a lot but i alwayz correct them -grabs cr points and leaves-
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Posted 11/2/14
Falling in love with an asshole boyfriend. Broke up o/c. He never seemed satisfied.
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Oh, yikes... I think I may need a hug...


Can't give you real hugs, just print my text out in paper and do whatever girls do.

Send me a PM if you're serious, cause that's like a new fetish I'm willing to explore .-.
Posted 11/2/14
I've failed many times at many things. It's how we learn and grow.
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I've made far too many mistakes to even bother listing them. I've found that they are experiences in learning.

So when you make mistakes, learn from them! remember them but don't dwell on them.

Try not to repeat the bad ones too often.

Sometimes it is a good thing to move along and find something else.

That's how I look at it.
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I try to reflect on mistakes but not linger on them.

School, I've made many mistakes in my path as a student

but there is one mistake that is the exception, that I can't seem to fix

I'm always late

I need to be faster, my time management is terrible, like seriously. Such as Huge procrastinator.
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Posted 11/3/14
Steel is forged by beating the hell out of it with a hammer, not hope.

I've made many mistakes, and I would make them all again.
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