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Do you sometimes feel alone even though you have friends?
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21 / M / Australia
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Posted 11/2/14
I have a few good friends that I hang out with fairly often, but when I'm at home by myself I definitely feel lonelier than I probably should. I guess it's more boredom than anything.
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Perhaps you're just a more introverted kind of person?

I can count on one hand the people that I know and can really feel comfortable being around. They have their own lives and do their own thing so it stinks from time to time when it seems like everyone's busy at the same time and we're not able to do as much together as I'd like.

Ultimately, everyone feels lonely from time to time. I don't think it's a bad thing. Just make sure that you don't rely solely on friends and outside sources to keep you grounded and happy. Don't think of this more solitude period in your life as a bad thing and instead use it as a chance to get to know yourself and be comfortable with yourself, by yourself. If that makes any sense.

Keep in touch with the friend that you have and be there for her when things settle down and don't become so busy. You focus on living your own life as best you can and remember that being by yourself isn't and shouldn't be a bad thing.

"Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again." -Anais Nin

"Now, more than ever, we need our solitude. Being alone gives us the power to regulate and adjust our lives. It can teach us fortitude and the ability to satisfy our own needs. A restorer of energy, the stillness of alone experiences provides us with much-needed rest. It brings forth our longing to explore, our curiosity about the unknown, our will to be an individual, our hopes for freedom. Alone time is fuel for life." -Dr. Ester Buchholz
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javamoon wrote:

Perhaps you're just a more introverted kind of person?

I can count on one hand the people that I know and can really feel comfortable being around. They have their own lives and do their own thing so it stinks from time to time when it seems like everyone's busy at the same time and we're not able to do as much together as I'd like.

Ultimately, everyone feels lonely from time to time. I don't think it's a bad thing. Just make sure that you don't rely solely on friends and outside sources to keep you grounded and happy. Don't think of this more solitude period in your life as a bad thing and instead use it as a chance to get to know yourself and be comfortable with yourself, by yourself. If that makes any sense.

Keep in touch with the friend that you have and be there for her when things settle down and don't become so busy. You focus on living your own life as best you can and remember that being by yourself isn't and shouldn't be a bad thing.

"Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again." -Anais Nin

"Now, more than ever, we need our solitude. Being alone gives us the power to regulate and adjust our lives. It can teach us fortitude and the ability to satisfy our own needs. A restorer of energy, the stillness of alone experiences provides us with much-needed rest. It brings forth our longing to explore, our curiosity about the unknown, our will to be an individual, our hopes for freedom. Alone time is fuel for life." -Dr. Ester Buchholz


I'm not that introverted because I rather get out.
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36 / M / Denver
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Posted 11/3/14
I never feel lonely, but I'm alone in lots of ways. The two are not the same thing.

I think when I used to feel that way, I had unrealistic expectations of what friendship (or love) could, or should be like. I'm betting lots of people have that problem.
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20 / M / California
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Psh, friends betray you. You don't need them. Once you hit college, you lose almost all your friends you've made in high school. Then once you're done with college, the same happens. Just a repeated cycle.

I just tell myself it's only natural to feel that way and move on with life.
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22 / M / Greed Island
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Happens all the time since it's easy to make a friend, but it's tough to find one or many that just happens to have the same tastes as you do.
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25 / F / New Jersey, USA
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TeeBuddy2 wrote:

Psh, friends betray you. You don't need them. Once you hit college, you lose almost all your friends you've made in high school. Then once you're done with college, the same happens. Just a repeated cycle.

I just tell myself it's only natural to feel that way and move on with life.


Interesting.
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21 / M / Canada eh
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"You know you're attached to someone when you've gotten so used to talking to them on a daily basis and they've become a part of your happiness. But when you guys don't talk, it's like a part of you is gone and you just start to miss them uncontrollably."

This is me right now.
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Posted 11/3/14 , edited 11/3/14
It is often true that people have different friends throughout different times in their lives. Grade school, high school, college, first job, second job... such is life. Circumstances change, people change, interests change, people move to other places, and sometimes you just feel like so much is going on around you while nothing is happening with you.

I think a good thing to think about is what do you do when you are feeling lonely? Do you reach out? Even just putting your shoes on and heading out for a walk can make you feel less lonely. When I would feel lonely and there was no one available to hang out with, I would just head out and "shop" without actually spending any money. Sometimes, just being around people can make you feel less alone. And who knows.... you might just meet someone new.

Anyhow, it's up to you to do something about your feeling of loneliness. Maybe coming on here and posting about your feelings is a first step. You got people responding so you know you aren't the only one who maybe feels like this sometimes.
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17 / F / Canada
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Posted 11/3/14
Most of the time, im with crowds and i've never felt lonelier.. I feel better when its one or two people or just myself.
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Posted 11/3/14
Qualeshia, just one busy friend is not even enough to feel lonely properly! lol
Get more friends asap!
(I don't mean like collecting them for numbers of course, just trial-n-error to get more friends you really are happy with)
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I have few friends and i constantly feel alone.
Posted 11/3/14
lol friends, who has those
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23 / M / The Land of the Free
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Posted 11/3/14 , edited 11/3/14
Happens to me a lot, probably because a lot of my friends aren't into the things I like as much.
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20 / F / South Africa
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Posted 11/4/14
Hm, friends..? I used to have those
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