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Posted 11/5/14

Phersu wrote:



Randompyrate wrote:

It's not bad and it's not good. It's just a thing you either have or don't have.
Male virgins are stigmatized because they're seen as somehow less manly than others. Female virgins are stigmatized because they're seen as... defiled or unpure, I guess? I honestly couldn't say for sure- the logic of people who hold these views is just beyond my ability to fathom.

But yeah- disease free is what matters.


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I prefer the term....... 'wizened.' :/
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It's the 21st century guys, i think you're over thinking it.
People may tease you but i have a few friends in their 20s who are virgins and they dont care, i mean they're people who would have no trouble at all getting a girl.
Just do what makes you all happy and who cares about these imaginary stigmas.
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I was going to add a little side joke here but I changed my mind.

I'm honestly not regretful or drooling over the fact that I am still a virgin in my twenties, hell I haven't even had alcohol.

The only thing that weighs on my mind is what the hell do I do when I meet someone I'm actually interested in, ha.

It is a stressful thought, but actually not a big deal.

To all those other virgins out there, don't worry about it. Just be honest when the time comes. If they don't like it, they don't deserve to add your v, to their deck.
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Posted 11/5/14
I think it's stupid to stigmatize people on being virgins it's just plain not right.
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I'm married & have 4 kids, so clearly I'm not a virgin.

That said, looking back at my life - I wish I saved my first experience for my wife. I wish I could say that she, the woman I plan to spend the rest of my life with, is the only one I shared that intimacy with. But, I shared that with other women before her and, honestly, I regret it.
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Posted 11/5/14
Well if you guys want sex so bad you just start dancing with the ladies more often you won't get anywhere with women if you don't show them your a wolf.
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Posted 11/5/14
Taylor swift can get jiggy with me anytime baby ooooo yeahhhhhh.
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Posted 11/5/14 , edited 11/5/14
The value of virginity is determined by the partner.

A male virgin might be been seen as inferior by females hinting low quality and bad genes, making other females also avoid him.
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Female virginity used to be the only way a male could be sure that the children are actually his.

If the instincts are applied to oneself a male will behave in a way close to his idealized female, keeping himself for the perfect mate.
A pattern that likely developed in the time-frame we refer to as civilization. This will only work well in a male dominated society, but also serves a stabilizing function independent of the surrounding structure as long as the partner shares the values.
The knight keeping himself for the maiden he will never be able to touch is a good example of this ideal.

A female dominated society will often also apply the Instincts of selection of one sex to both males and females decreasing the value of female and eliminating the ideal of male virginity.
A female acting like her idealized male might display her superiority in relation to other females by showing that she is able to get everyone she's interested in, considering her virginity as a neglectable or negative trait.
It's also an interesting coincidence that the most STD prone areas of the globe have historically been ruled by female oriented tribal structures...

Off course In both cases there is also the instinct of the other sex present, in varying quantities.

We currently live in a world that starts to get further away from the societies that were present for the last couple of thousand years, the values getting more feminine, and therefor less virgin friendly.
There is no longer a strict tradition surrounding the behavioral patterns, but it's unlikely that female virginity will be considered as something negative by males anytime soon, it used to be the only way to be sure ones genes are passed on.
Male virginity on the other hand gets its value from the culture rather than instincts, however if seen as a stigma, unlike the female lack of it, it can be more than compensated for by the display of more up-to-date superiority, like financial or mental capability.
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Honestly I think it's just the way society views the different sexes. Males are typically demanded to be masculine and sexually active, and that's something we're used to, while for a woman it's shamed. I do not know WHY we have these stigmas when it comes to sexuality, but we just apparently do.

I'm still a virgin since I'm waiting for someone to come along that I can trust to do that sort of thing with, that's about all there is to it in my case.
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I'm not gonna say I'll stay one till marriage, but as a guy, I think it's more reasonable for guys to lose their virginity because there is no physical change, whereas there is a physical change with women. I won't take a girl's virginity unless I marry her, but I'd have sex with a non-virgin (without STDs of course)
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metalshiflet96 wrote:

I'm not gonna say I'll stay one till marriage, but as a guy, I think it's more reasonable for guys to lose their virginity because there is no physical change, whereas there is a physical change with women. I won't take a girl's virginity unless I marry her, but I'd have sex with a non-virgin (without STDs of course)


Women physically change by losing their virginity? Huh. How, pray tell?
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Posted 11/5/14 , edited 11/18/14
It's a stupid thing to get worked up about. Sex only means something while you still are a virgin. After that it's just life and to be expected.
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Posted 11/5/14

Genbu89 wrote:


metalshiflet96 wrote:

I'm not gonna say I'll stay one till marriage, but as a guy, I think it's more reasonable for guys to lose their virginity because there is no physical change, whereas there is a physical change with women. I won't take a girl's virginity unless I marry her, but I'd have sex with a non-virgin (without STDs of course)


Women physically change by losing their virginity? Huh. How, pray tell?


Hymen breaking. A rather painful change, by most accounts.
Posted 11/5/14
I'd refuse. Too much responsibility and hassle in general. You have to understand that's no religious bond, just biological interaction.
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Posted 11/5/14

Shnooze wrote:

Honestly I think it's just the way society views the different sexes. Males are typically demanded to be masculine and sexually active, and that's something we're used to, while for a woman it's shamed. I do not know WHY we have these stigmas when it comes to sexuality, but we just apparently do.

I'm still a virgin since I'm waiting for someone to come along that I can trust to do that sort of thing with, that's about all there is to it in my case.


Don't trust anyone. Be paranoid. They're watching you.
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