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Be proud of who you are!
Posted 11/15/14 , edited 11/15/14

piratequeen369 wrote:

What's the purpose of this? It sounds awfully phoney.


lol, that's what your post reminded me of.
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severticas wrote:


piratequeen369 wrote:

What's the purpose of this? It sounds awfully phoney.


lol, that's what your post reminded me of.


Tbh, I have no words... I was trying to be serious XD

That's a horrible song, who would listen to that?
Posted 11/15/14 , edited 11/15/14

piratequeen369 wrote:

That's a horrible song, who would listen to that?


that's nice haha. i remembered the lyrics. why does a person need to make someone stay? maybe they like them.. maybe they have a relationship. but in the first place, before you've even got to talk to them, why feel the need to make them stay..? if it's a task and a plan.. then you're not doing yourself any favors. correct me of wrong.
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piratequeen369 wrote:

That's a horrible song, who would listen to that?


that's nice haha. i remembered the lyrics. why does a person need to make someone stay? maybe they like them.. maybe they have a relationship. but in the first place, before you've even got to talk to them, why feel the need to make them stay..? that being yourself is a problem... then you're not doing yourself any favors. correct me of wrong.


Ah, I see what you are saying. I can't really appreciate music like that because it sounds really... as I said, phoney. Sorry. I can't be myself easily and that stops me from making friends easily, if I had this mentality, I'd have no friends at all. This is what I meant.
Posted 11/15/14 , edited 11/15/14

piratequeen369 wrote:

Ah, I see what you are saying. I can't really appreciate music like that because it sounds really... as I said, phoney. Sorry. I can't be myself easily and that stops me from making friends easily, if I had this mentality, I'd have no friends at all. This is what I meant.


haha it's cool. that's alright (not being yourself easily), in a way, it is still all part of being yourself. it's the smart thing to do when the end result is what you wanted.
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haha it's cool. that's alright (not being yourself easily), in a way, it is still all part of being yourself. it's the smart thing to do when the end result is what you wanted.


Yeah, thanks, glad you understand, there aren't many people like you on the internet :)
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I have to disagree with what Will said. Other people have their own lives to live, if everyone thought the way Will Smith did, we'd all be fucking anti-social, waiting for the right people to come along and "stay." He is quite an outgoing person so socializing might not seem like a chore or a challenge to him so it would seem as if the right people just appear and "stay" but for people who have a bit of social anxiety, those who aren't as outgoing, you make the people who you need realize that you're actually an interesting person, that you are worth staying with.


I see where your coming from in your comments. But the part about making people realize that your an interesting person by being yourself is way different than doing the same thing but acting like someone your not by thats my take on it. I understand everyone will feel differently about this due to the situation their in or the person they are, which another reason I made this thread. I wanted to put what I thought out there and see what every thought about it and get a discussion going. As I said before I do understand what your saying. It can be hard for some but as long as your not trying to be someone your not then when you show people how interesting you are they will see you and not some mask.
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This is the same vacuous naive advice we've been told for years by everyone. It disregards the fact that many people have issues that they need to work on, that many have personality issues that prevent them from connecting with other people in a positive way. If you don't have these problems then yeah, it's easy to say "just be yourself", because it works for you. But for the rest of us there has to be room for honest self assesment, recognizing harmful attitudes, etc in order to improve ourselves. It goes without saying that faking interests, trying to fool others into thinking you are someone you are not, etc. is a bad idea, but so is thinking that you are fine the way you are and just sit and wait for your perfect match/friends/whatever fall from the sky to love you regardless of your faults, while doing nothing to overcome them.

It's like this dude giving advice to someone who can't find a girlfriend:




Posted 11/15/14
I think its a good message albeit a bit naive. If everyone was true to themselves, everything would be much simpler, dating especially. To live in that world would be great.
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Is that enough?
Posted 11/15/14 , edited 11/15/14

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I see where your coming from in your comments. But the part about making people realize that your an interesting person by being yourself is way different than doing the same thing but acting like someone your not by thats my take on it. I understand everyone will feel differently about this due to the situation their in or the person they are, which another reason I made this thread. I wanted to put what I thought out there and see what every thought about it and get a discussion going. As I said before I do understand what your saying. It can be hard for some but as long as your not trying to be someone your not then when you show people how interesting you are they will see you and not some mask.


no such things as masks... just ideas. when you think you are faking it, it's just that you're being a you that you can't particularly find sustainable and feel forced to bring out. you can take it easy or force the repressed part of you just to get past some gates.
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Posted 11/15/14 , edited 11/15/14

severticas wrote:


Zachary765 wrote:

I see where your coming from in your comments. But the part about making people realize that your an interesting person by being yourself is way different than doing the same thing but acting like someone your not by thats my take on it. I understand everyone will feel differently about this due to the situation their in or the person they are, which another reason I made this thread. I wanted to put what I thought out there and see what every thought about it and get a discussion going. As I said before I do understand what your saying. It can be hard for some but as long as your not trying to be someone your not then when you show people how interesting you are they will see you and not some mask.


no such things as masks... just ideas. when you think you are faking it, it's just that you're being a you that you can't particularly find sustainable and feel forced to bring out. you can take it easy or force the repressed part of you just to get past some gates.


I can agree with this to a point. But there is a point where you try to hard to be someone your not to fit in where you begin to not be yourself anymore. There is a point where it goes to far. And if your forcing it out that's not really being yourself. Being yourself should never feel forced

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Posted 11/15/14

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As I said before I do understand what your saying. It can be hard for some but as long as your not trying to be someone your not then when you show people how interesting you are they will see you and not some mask.


Yeah, I agree. That means we're on the same page. Now if someone could just tell me how I could be myself, that'd be great...
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Also people doubt on who they are, that's why we have so many people with arrogance and superego. They thin they're so cool that they don't admit that they do nerdy stuff like being an otaku. People today just want to be powerful in an easy way, but it doesn't work that way.
and don't forget Levi's motivational quote

Never regret your choices, learn how to overcome them.
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