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As I said before I do understand what your saying. It can be hard for some but as long as your not trying to be someone your not then when you show people how interesting you are they will see you and not some mask.


Yeah, I agree. That means we're on the same page. Now if someone could just tell me how I could be myself, that'd be great...


I wish that was something I could help you with that but I feel there isn't much someone else can do for someone in that situation. I guess it's something you learn as you go through life. The only thing I can say is do what makes you happy. I feel as long as your happy with yourself and life then It attracts happiness.

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Also people doubt on who they are, that's why we have so many people with arrogance and superego. They thin they're so cool that they don't admit that they do nerdy stuff like being an otaku. People today just want to be powerful in an easy way, but it doesn't work that way.
and don't forget Levi's motivational quote

Never regret your choices, learn how to overcome them.


I've definitley seen people like this and it's sad to see :/ also that is one of my favorite quotes!

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I see where your coming from in your comments. But the part about making people realize that your an interesting person by being yourself is way different than doing the same thing but acting like someone your not by thats my take on it. I understand everyone will feel differently about this due to the situation their in or the person they are, which another reason I made this thread. I wanted to put what I thought out there and see what every thought about it and get a discussion going. As I said before I do understand what your saying. It can be hard for some but as long as your not trying to be someone your not then when you show people how interesting you are they will see you and not some mask.


no such things as masks... just ideas. when you think you are faking it, it's just that you're being a you that you can't particularly find sustainable and feel forced to bring out. you can take it easy or force the repressed part of you just to get past some gates.


I can agree with this to a point. But there is a point where you try to hard to be someone your not to fit in where you begin to not be yourself anymore. There is a point where it goes to far. And if your forcing it out that's not really being yourself. Being yourself should never feel forced



...think you're missing the point. if you have social anxiety (which is something people have tried to overcome)..then the process of trying to be outgoing can be daunting. it feels out of character but even the person you are trying to bring out will not work if you did not believe in it. if at some point other people think you've lost the plot...or such things, it doesn't matter. you know yourself that if you were bad at it, you wouldn't become comfortable later on doing it and people would most likely not have "stayed" because obviously other people can feel a fake. coming to like it is not a sin and you don't owe it to the person you were before to repent.
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I have to disagree with what Will said. Other people have their own lives to live, if everyone thought the way Will Smith did, we'd all be fucking anti-social, waiting for the right people to come along and "stay." He is quite an outgoing person so socializing might not seem like a chore or a challenge to him so it would seem as if the right people just appear and "stay" but for people who have a bit of social anxiety, those who aren't as outgoing, you make the people who you need realize that you're actually an interesting person, that you are worth staying with.


idk I would like to think there is people out there for everyone even the anti socials so to speak,plus you will realize that there are certain folks that will come up to you that are friendly and outgoing that makes you want to talk etc.
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piratequeen369 wrote:

I have to disagree with what Will said. Other people have their own lives to live, if everyone thought the way Will Smith did, we'd all be fucking anti-social, waiting for the right people to come along and "stay." He is quite an outgoing person so socializing might not seem like a chore or a challenge to him so it would seem as if the right people just appear and "stay" but for people who have a bit of social anxiety, those who aren't as outgoing, you make the people who you need realize that you're actually an interesting person, that you are worth staying with.


idk I would like to think there is people out there for everyone even the anti socials so to speak,plus you will realize that there are certain folks that will come up to you that are friendly and outgoing that makes you want to talk etc.


well, I've never come across those folks before.
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I wish that was something I could help you with that but I feel there isn't much someone else can do for someone in that situation. I guess it's something you learn as you go through life. The only thing I can say is do what makes you happy. I feel as long as your happy with yourself and life then It attracts happiness.


Right, thanks, I was sort of hoping someone would say they know a fool-proof way to be yourself but I guess it doesn't exist. Nice avatar by the way, One Piece is awesome
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Who I am absolutely sucks though.
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I don't think it matters. People wouldn't know anyway.
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Not many seem to understand this but being present and accepting of yourself is the key to your problems. I've noticed that failing to be myself is one of the biggest triggers to my anxiety and some bad habits. I've struggled a lot with reconciling my true nature and it can be a painful process; but through accepting our present moment emotions a whole new word opens up. Resistance to what is, is one of the greatest sources of pain. I'm a painfully awkward person as well, but it wasn't until I accepted that I've found peace and even a few friends and lovers. I know what it feels like to feel bad about yourself but you gotta learn from those feelings and try to not get stuck into any emotionally damaging habits or thinking patterns. I am lonely sometimes too and for anyone else who is, you are not alone. I think acceptance of yourself (even the bad) and reaching out really help with these things. I think loneliness stems from feeling no one really knows you, hence why it is so important to be yourself. You gotta love yourself for true, fulfilling change to occur.
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piratequeen369 wrote:
Right, thanks, I was sort of hoping someone would say they know a fool-proof way to be yourself but I guess it doesn't exist. Nice avatar by the way, One Piece is awesome :)


-sigh- are you a go-getter?
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piratequeen369 wrote:
Right, thanks, I was sort of hoping someone would say they know a fool-proof way to be yourself but I guess it doesn't exist. Nice avatar by the way, One Piece is awesome :)


-sigh- are you a go-getter?


I am not. My anxiety gets the better of me when I try to be one. I try anyway even though I have no hope left. Sorry, if you were hoping I'd say yes or something.
Posted 11/15/14

piratequeen369 wrote:


severticas wrote:


piratequeen369 wrote:
Right, thanks, I was sort of hoping someone would say they know a fool-proof way to be yourself but I guess it doesn't exist. Nice avatar by the way, One Piece is awesome :)


-sigh- are you a go-getter?


I am not. My anxiety gets the better of me when I try to be one. I try anyway even though I have no hope left. Sorry, if you were hoping I'd say yes or something.


yes i was, you're forgiven. dismissed... -waves you away-. lol i kid. guess, that's a bummer.
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So over my years of being in school and going through everyday life I have noticed something that saddens me quite a bit to be honest. That would be people not being true to themselves and to who they are as a person. I see so many people daily that try so hard to alter who they are as a person just to get that one person in school to like them or to fit into that one click of popular kids. Its upsetting to see this really. The way I see it, if you feel that you have to go to such lengths to change who you are and even make yourself a little unhappy to get someone to like you or to be accepted in a group then they aren't worth your time. Here is one of my favorite quotes that goes well with this.

"Don't chase people.
Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard.

The right people... the ones who really belong in your life, will come to you. And stay."
-Will Smith


Just be yourself and let those people that are worth being in your life come to you. Never should you have to change who you are for someone who cant accept you the way you are. But this also starts with loving who you are and being proud of who you are. Never be ashamed of who you are either. Your all unique and amazing in your own way and you should be proud of it!

I just wanted to put my thoughts out there on this and maybe see what some of you thought or maybe see some of the situations you have been in or seen.

And remember, Love yourself and be proud of who you are. You are YOUnique!



-Zachary


I agree on the point of being true to yourself but quoting someone else's MO is contradictory. I'd make my own individual quote. Thankfully it seems that other school systems around the world don't have the same sort of pressure as US ones about fitting into cliques.

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severticas wrote:


piratequeen369 wrote:


severticas wrote:


piratequeen369 wrote:
Right, thanks, I was sort of hoping someone would say they know a fool-proof way to be yourself but I guess it doesn't exist. Nice avatar by the way, One Piece is awesome :)


-sigh- are you a go-getter?


I am not. My anxiety gets the better of me when I try to be one. I try anyway even though I have no hope left. Sorry, if you were hoping I'd say yes or something.


yes i was, you're forgiven. dismissed... -waves you away-. lol i kid. guess, that's a bummer.


:) Thank you for whatever you were trying to do, though, much appreciated
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piratequeen369 wrote:

:) Thank you for whatever you were trying to do, though, much appreciated ;)


well, i did want to tell you that you are one. but that's telling and won't make you see it. that part does not have to coexist with success. the wanting and trying makes up the bulk of it.
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