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Posted 11/17/14
For freshman year, my roommate was my best friend, and my ex girlfriend was tied to both of us. Lost almost every friend I had that year.
For sophomore year, I ended up with three Tea Party hillbillies. They discovered alcohol while I was there and were generally dumb and obnoxious.
For junior year, I gave up on people and moved to a private apartment. I was completely alone that year and it was miserable, not to mention dangerous.
For senior year, I came back to the dorms. My first roommate was a wiccan, he was pretty chill. Present roommate is a pretty heavy Christian, and in a paraphrase of his words, the Holy Spirit prevents him from doing bad things. For all of that, and presumably as long as he keeps his faith, he will be one of the nicest people I've ever met. For the case that he doesn't keep his faith and starts acting crazy, I have mutually assured destruction insurance in place, he knows exactly enough of my past to know I am not to be trifled with.

As to how to handle them, it depends on what outcome you want. Most universities have roommate mediation counseling. They don't generally report drug use and can be helpful.
If you want his balls on a wall, report him to the RA, make sure you have no contraband though, as the RA, Hall Director, and police will probably search the ever loving hell out of your room.
Usually there is a roommate contract written, so talking about violations is a step in the right direction.
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I had them for four years during college but it was a very different experience. We were in a military college (toughest in the country) so we had bigger things to worry about most of the time. And when I changed roommates my second year I got with some awesome guys who were big geeks/gamers like me so it was a very different experience.

I'd recommend looking at your schools bylaws though because usually you can request at least a certain number of roommates transfers (I know the schools where I live usually allow one a year or semester) just in case things like your situation happen.

If the guy was annoying or just being a jerk then I'd say get some good headphones and ignore him but when drugs and alcohol are involved it can hurt you legally with the school. Look out for yourself here man and go talk to the school counselor or housing director directly and ask to remain anonymous. Better to be safe and get out of an obviously very bad situation than to stick around and let it bite you later.

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Posted 11/17/14

Phersu wrote:

Have any? How do you deal with them?

Mine is a total tool. He's an ex-drug addict who gets on my nerves and is such a hypocrite.

Woah, woah, Phersu! You say. Discriminating against ex-drug addicts?

Nope, and I really should put 'ex' in air quotes, since he still smokes pot everyday. I discriminate against him, not ex-druggies, because he's a total tool. He even broke part of my blender.

So, he knocked over my blender I was soaking in water and basically wanted me to clean it up. I did nothing and let him do it, which he complained about and kind of made me feel insulted. So, I called him out on it. Then this happened.

'Are you going to stop leaving your blender out with water in it?'

'Are you going to stop being an ---hole?'

'I'm not changing.'

'Then I'll keep leaving it out.'

He then knocked it over, chipping some of the plastic off the bottom, while saying oops. I did the same to something of his.

Seriously, though. How do you deal with roommates?

Discuss.



A lot of universities will allow you to change dorms if it is interfering with your education or may lead to violence... You might need to stick it out until winter break but I'm sure you could find another room if you contact a RA and discuss this issue with them.
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Something to also remember when dealing with situations like this, you are likely paying for this education through student loans or getting help from your parents or out of pocket. You are paying to be there and not to room with some guy who is making the experience miserable for you. Don't let yourself stay in a bad situation for no reason mate.

-Ronxz
Posted 11/18/14
Not sure what that's like. I simply suggest not having one.
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My first year in college my assigned roommate had a criminal record, was an alcoholic, and never went to class or showered. One of the only times the bastard actually went to class he locked me out of the room while I was in the shower, so I had to spend three hours in the hallway giving every girl in the dorm (their floor was above ours) a free show wearing nothing but a towel. I missed a class and security never showed up to let me in the room despite calling them three times.

After complaining my way up the administrative chain of command, by the end of the first semester they moved him out of my room and I had a single for the rest of freshman year at no extra cost. For the rest of my time in college I roomed with a friend of mine.
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Posted 11/18/14
By moving out...
(I will be leaving my current residence and going to CT very soon, lol)
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Posted 11/18/14
What does smoking weed have to do with being a drug addict
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I'm living at home for my freshman year of college. Sophomore year I plan to move into a dorm. I'm gonna ask a couple of friends if they want to room with me.
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Posted 11/18/14

Phersu wrote:

Have any? How do you deal with them?

Mine is a total tool. He's an ex-drug addict who gets on my nerves and is such a hypocrite.

Woah, woah, Phersu! You say. Discriminating against ex-drug addicts?

Nope, and I really should put 'ex' in air quotes, since he still smokes pot everyday. I discriminate against him, not ex-druggies, because he's a total tool. He even broke part of my blender.

So, he knocked over my blender I was soaking in water and basically wanted me to clean it up. I did nothing and let him do it, which he complained about and kind of made me feel insulted. So, I called him out on it. Then this happened.

'Are you going to stop leaving your blender out with water in it?'

'Are you going to stop being an ---hole?'

'I'm not changing.'

'Then I'll keep leaving it out.'

He then knocked it over, chipping some of the plastic off the bottom, while saying oops. I did the same to something of his.

Seriously, though. How do you deal with roommates?

Discuss.



How? By not having any... ever.. when i was younger i worked myself to the bone and lived in meager conditions just to afford to live alone.

My friends would all brag about how little they pay for rent and stuff because they have roommates but its just not worth it to me. If you want it bad enough you can make it happen. Might have to pick up a second job or your first depending on your condition.
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I've had several housemates. I've dealt with lazy, irresponsible roommates, messy roommates, controlling roommates, and excellent roommates.
I've had to get rid of all of them, with the exception of one. She and I got along fantastically.

The scenario you're depicting while irritating, is minor and childish on both ends.

How do you deal with roommates? With maturity, communication and compromise. If that's impossible, you move out, live on your own or get a new roommate.
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Posted 11/18/14

wonkywilla wrote:



I've had several housemates. I've dealt with lazy, irresponsible roommates, messy roommates, controlling roommates, and excellent roommates.
I've had to get rid of all of them, with the exception of one. She and I got along fantastically.

The scenario you're depicting while irritating, is minor and childish on both ends.

How do you deal with roommates? With maturity, communication and compromise. If that's impossible, you move out, live on your own or get a new roommate.


But he started it!
Posted 11/18/14
The thought of living with a stranger for over a month sends shivers up my spine.
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We generally understand each other. If we keep complaining that somebody keeps leaving the dishes out then somebody is eventually going to do them. People will also buy you a new thing if they break yours.
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Posted 11/18/14
My very first roommate:
Standard dorm. We were both gamers and seemed to have a fair amount in common. Seemed like it wouldn't be too bad. NOPE. Our entire room was covered in trash emanating from her desk. We opted for bunk beds. I was on bottom. She would eat in her bed and I would find forks, wrappers, and crumbs in mine. She didn't appear to use toilet paper or ever wash her hands. Everytime she took a shower idk how but she left an enormous lake puddle in the middle of the bathroom floor. Never talked to ANYONE that wasn't online or on the phone. Would act like I didn't exist for weeks on end only to speak to me out of nowhere. All around freaking AWKWARD.

This year has improved a lot. Now I'm in an on-campus apartment where I have my own room, but share the apartment with 3 other people. Recently one of my roommates proved herself to be a psychotic hoe. She kept bringing guys to spend the night. Something we all agreed against before the semester even started. We tried mediation which she absolutely refused, and gave her many chances to compromise. Eventually we called reslife, they told us to call campus police on her the next time. So we did and they had her boy toy escorted out. She then threw a psycho tantrum and vandalized quite a bit of my other roommate's belongings. From writing profanity on her car to putting her food in the garbage disposal. Hoe got kicked out and it's been peaceful ever since.

Good roommates are hard to come by.
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