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Male vs. Female Bullying...
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Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/27/14
So I was dicking around on the Crunchyroll forums when I found a thread all about where your bullies are now (http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-875947/where-are-your-bullies-now). I was actually kind of interested to hear a bit about these bullies, but it got me thinking of a strange question. Which is worse? Male bullying, or Female bullying? From my limited perception, male bullying is much more physical (attacking, harassment, etc.), while female bullying is far more on the mental end of things (rumors, teasing, lying, etc.). So, in your opinion, which one is worse?
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As far as I'm concerned, they're one and the same. My former "bullies" are male, and they apparently preferred what you consider "female bullying" tactics. Most likely because I was known to fight those who would lay a hand on me. They didn't want to actually fight a girl. They did occasionally try and use their size to intimidate me; however, it's very evident that, when irritated/angry, I'm borderline oblivious to the size of whoever messes with me, so I imagine that they didn't bother to utilize a tactic that's proven useless.
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Why don't we just call it non-physical and physical bullying? I've had my own fair share of physical bullying when I used to live in Kiev, and over here there are an absolute plethora of times where I've spectated fights between girls in my highschool. Of course it didn't really have much of an effect in the end, but it still does kinda mean there isn't any sort of distinct bullying between genders, only known tactics.

Anyways! Wouldn't it really depend on the person and what affects them as an individual? Physical bullying would be pretty damn harmful to your health, and your mental health would also be at stake with non-physical bullying. I can't really pick one.
Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/23/14
^I agree, both kinds are the same...although I have never been strictly bullied by a guy, I was intimidated by some boys when I was a kid.

I don't know what they wanted, they were my neighbors (I was like 7 and they were like 10 or so) don't remember how many but every time I was playing outside they would just follow me and make me feel scared...if I was eating something they would just take it out of my hands and eat it themselves, they would also look at me weird...I was truly afraid of them so I always tried to avoid them and hide myself if I saw them from afar....come to think of it, it sounds like bullying XD later I found out that the biggest one liked me...if that's how boys treat the girls they like ...

Then I was bullied by one 6 year old girl (my neighbor too...kids were mean in that place!!!!) just because she was jealous that I was the "girlfriend" of the boy she liked (my first crush and first love also my neighbor ). She and her friends would make fun of me, they would say I was ugly (and other things I don't remember) the worst thing they did was pull my hair when I wasn't looking though.

Then in high school there were some girls who thought they could get away with making fun of me for whatever reason until I told them something I don't remember...I was mad and tired of their bullshit so I think I might have looked scary at the time because they stopped talking behind my back...one of them even tried to be my friend later on.

The worst of all of them was this girl in my senior year...an outsider would think we were friends because she was talking really nice, smiling and even hugging me. But I never saw her before and we were never friends, one time we had a class together and she sat next to me then she started talking as if we knew each other for a long time . The reason why I think she was mean is because she sounded fake to me, she completely freaked me out and I didn't know if she was making fun of me or if she was really trying to be my friend. Seriously... I think she was the worst of all the bullies I had...she never called me by my name nor did she care to listen to me since she would only talk and talk...I also felt like she was treating me like a little kid. I was so fucked up by her that when I saw her I just smiled and let her talked...but inside I was like "what do you want??" , "get away from me please!!!!" . X_x I couldn't do anything to stop her like I did with the other bullies before, I think she was playing with my mind or something.

All of them made me feel intimidated, afraid, tired, confused...that's why no matter the sex or their tactics, all kind of bullying is equally bad.
Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/23/14
Considering this is a Vs thread I am not sure if it will be allowed but...Even just attacking someone physically messes with their head and is harmful to their mental health. Both forms are still equally bad though. Also, as Shnooze said, the whole physical and non-physical does not seem to be too dependent on what gender the people involved are. I'm sure there is a slight bias for women to attack emotionally and males to attack physically but I think these days the difference is small enough to be insignificant.



kirika202 wrote:

^I agree, both kinds are the same...although I have never been strictly bullied by a guy, I was intimidated by some boys when I was a kid.

I don't know what they wanted, they were my neighbors (I was like 7 and they were like 10 or so) don't remember how many but every time I was playing outside they would just follow me and make me feel scared...if I was eating something they would just take it out of my hands and eat it themselves, they would also look at me weird...I was truly afraid of them so I always tried to avoid them and hide myself if I saw them from afar....come to think of it, it sounds like bullying XD later I found out that the biggest one liked me...if that's how boys treat the girls they like ...


Yes, it is unfortunately common for young boys to treat girls they like rather poorly at those ages. Not sure why. When I first started reading that story I instantly thought "bullying but only because one or more of them liked you". I think at the really young ages most male on female bullying is because of that actually....
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The psychological form of bullying that girls often employ is far more traumatic than its physical counterpart that boys are known for. Bruises and broken bones can heal, but emotional injuries are far more difficult to soothe.
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Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/23/14
Well both male and females are exposed to physical or mental bullying. Males are more likely to take it to a physical level yes, but, There is a mental component to being physically attacked at school. Being if you were beaten up in front your class. (most physical attacks among students happen in public for the attention.) You might feel embarrassed to be seen by those who viewed the attack. Making you hate to go to school or even afraid, However it is the same with mental abuse. You might be embarrassed or afraid of going to school because you don't want to be ridiculed.

I could not choose between either of the two (Mental or Physical) On the fact that mental abuse tends to push people into a more self-destructive mind set. Where physical would be more likely to push you towards a destructive attitude. Both are equally horrible to me. I think all people have good in them and I wish more people would act on good actions. So anyone who would destroy themselves or others is equally saddening.
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Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/23/14
If i was a girl.. i would be terrified of being bullied by girls.

Men seem to often bully each other physically often getting out all the rage in one fight. Male on male bullying also seems to be short lived and often over stupid things,

However from my sisters experiences and things i have personally witnessed and or heard about, It seems alot of female on female bullying is more vicious and malicious. It seems to be very drawn out and often mentally damaging and abusive.

While this may not hold true in every case, it seems to me female bullying is often far worse than male bullying. (I was only bullied up until grade 9, where I lost it and slammed my bullies head into the changing room wall knocking him unconscious, so I never really got bullied after that point) It seems like male bullying is often aimed at guys that are deemed "weaker" and once they show the bullies they wont take shit, it stops. But it seems like female bullying is just plain out malicious.
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well not to sound sexist or anything, but from what I'm told and have seen, males tend to be more physical in abuse while females tend to go for the emotional abuse. not saying that both genders don't do both but I've seen them lean more towards those types of abuse. I would say that both are equal bad.
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Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/23/14
After being bullied by both I found the female bullying easiest to deal with.
For I'am bored and unfazed by mental bullying said by people who now nothing about me.
After a while I tune them out and don't listen to what they say its really boring.
If it was someone who knew me on a personal it would be a different story.

Most girls who have (or attempted) to bully me use mental bullying.
Most guys who have attempted to bully me use a little bit of both.
Male bullying for me is a little hard to deal with since they tend to use physical
and mental tactics at the same time. Its a pain to avoid being tripped,shoved, punched,or poked
while being taunted.

It all depends on what gets under your skin in terms of which type of bullying is the worst.
From past experience I would say its the physical for me, since defending yourself
is hard if you're tired or not very active.

Luckily my bullies are gone and I know how to defend myself now.


Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/23/14

AzazelOfNexium wrote:

If i was a girl.. i would be terrified of being bullied by girls.

Men seem to often bully each other physically often getting out all the rage in one fight. Male on male bullying also seems to be short lived and often over stupid things,

However from my sisters experiences and things i have personally witnessed and or heard about, It seems alot of female on female bullying is more vicious and malicious. It seems to be very drawn out and often mentally damaging and abusive.

While this may not hold true in every case, it seems to me female bullying is often far worse than male bullying. (I was only bullied up until grade 9, where I lost it and slammed my bullies head into the changing room wall knocking him unconscious, so I never really got bullied after that point) It seems like male bullying is often aimed at guys that are deemed "weaker" and once they show the bullies they wont take shit, it stops. But it seems like female bullying is just plain out malicious.


^ The words in red are true and I'm a girl who has been bullied by both genders.

Posted 11/23/14
The worst is when they team up.
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Posted 11/23/14
were all crunchyrollers bullied or what?
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The vast majority of the people who bullied me were male and it was limited only to mental bullying. Then again, they probably knew that as soon as they laid a hand on me they'd be beaten up because I was far taller than everybody else and knew Wing Chun.
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idk for me the girls and the guys both wanted to kick my ass so
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