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Male vs. Female Bullying...
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Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/23/14
It can go both ways

When I was like 8, kids (males) waited for me after recess was over so they could grab me and beat the shit out of me behind the gym and told me that they would kill me if i told anyone.. Lol that was pretty legit

But if you subtract the physical component I feel like female bullying would be worse.




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Posted 11/23/14
Never been bullied that much/very seriously, but from what I've observed: females attack in groups while males tend to be more one-on-one (or at least they pretend to be).
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Posted 11/23/14 , edited 11/26/14

Chopsuey9444 wrote:

The psychological form of bullying that girls often employ is far more traumatic than its physical counterpart that boys are known for. Bruises and broken bones can heal, but emotional injuries are far more difficult to soothe.


Speak for yourself. If someone broke my bones I'd find that highly traumatic both physically and emotionally.

Bullying is bullying there's no point in using gender to compare types of bullying. I agree with others in calling it physical and non physical bullying.
Posted 11/24/14
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i was never bullied cus..everybody thought i knew kung fu....soo i guess i was mentally bullied...but didnt care then dont care now. Asian jokes are overrated ... i laugh at how stupid they sound. Heres a tip if someone is trying to make fun of you.. just agree how "awesome" their joke was..and then poison their drinks with laxatives
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Posted 11/24/14

tkayt wrote:


Chopsuey9444 wrote:

The psychological form of bullying that girls often employ is far more traumatic than its physical counterpart that boys are known for. Bruises and broken bones can heal, but emotional injuries are far more difficult to soothe.


Speak for yourself. If someone broke my bones I'd find that highly traumatic both physically and emotionally.

Bullying is bullying there's no point in using gender to compare types of bullying. I agree with others in calling it physical and non physical bullying.


Trends lead to correlation. Most people who suffer physical bullying usually don't commit suicide, have nervous breakdowns later in life, or spend their adulthood in therapy. And yes, there is a gender discrepancy. Girls (majority) usually aren't shoving others, throwing toys/rocks, or playing much rougher on purpose in order to show dominance in a social hierarchy. I'm not trying to say that girls have their own form of bullying as do boys, but rather that one gender employs one form of bullying far more than the other.
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As far as I'm concerned there's merit in examining what differences may be present, but it's also my opinion that nobody ever wins in a game of misery poker. There's no point in asking "Who has it worse?", because even if you win that argument all you've really "won" is the title "Most Miserable". The only way to win a game of misery poker is to walk away from the table without even buying chips.

I suffered both physical and verbal abuse at the hands of my bullies. The extent to which the situation escalated was somewhat under my control, but I was never really in control. Fighting, running away, seeking help from authority figures, reasoning with them, threatening them, casting off my pride and begging to be left alone between sobs, nothing worked. Anything I did just fed their power trip, there was no way to win. My bullies were from either sex, though, so I may be an odd case. I was just the designated class punching bag. The girls would tease me, the boys would hit me, and no one but my loved ones ever tried to stop it (though the teachers were sure to give the boys a good scolding about how "You don't hit girls, you understand?"). Yeah. Didn't work.

It wasn't until we social outcasts started collecting into a group of our own that people started thinking twice about messing with us. By then the damage to my psyche had been done, and I don't think that damage is ever going to completely go away. Nevertheless, I resolved to be better than the people who'd tormented me in every conceivable capacity. I've done well in that regard, and I'll keep going. These days it's not for that reason I work so hard. It's because I want to be great for my own sake now.
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female i guess , messing with someones mind is a lot more deadly then physical pain. With male bullying all you have to do is grow a pair and knock em out then it stops not sure if that applies to female bullying tho.
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imbrreezzy wrote:

female i guess , messing with someones mind is a lot more deadly then physical pain. With male bullying all you have to do is grow a pair and knock em out then it stops not sure if that applies to female bullying tho.


Girls will attack other girls without a problem (though the verbal abuse usually comes first), and there are guys who genuinely don't care who they beat the crap out of. I had the misfortune of meeting such guys. If I had to say there was a difference, it's that guys more often skip the verbal step and get straight to the beating. That does not, however, mean that girls won't pull your hair, kick you, scratch you, or punch you to get a point across. It just gets to that point slower most of the time.

As for just toughening up fighting back...no. They just came in larger groups if I fought back. It was even worse if I actually managed to hurt one of them, because then they had something to prove and they had something they could show to their friends to rile them up more. I'm glad if that worked for you, but I and everyone I've ever known to be bullied had more tenacious punks than that in our midst.
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Posted 11/24/14

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imbrreezzy wrote:

female i guess , messing with someones mind is a lot more deadly then physical pain. With male bullying all you have to do is grow a pair and knock em out then it stops not sure if that applies to female bullying tho.


Girls will attack other girls without a problem (though the verbal abuse usually comes first), and there are guys who genuinely don't care who they beat the crap out of. I had the misfortune of meeting such guys. If I had to say there was a difference, it's that guys more often skip the verbal step and get straight to the beating. That does not, however, mean that girls won't pull your hair, kick you, scratch you, or punch you to get a point across. It just gets to that point slower most of the time.

As for just toughening up fighting back...no. They just came in larger groups if I fought back. It was even worse if I actually managed to hurt one of them, because then they had something to prove and they had something they could show to their friends to rile them up more. I'm glad if that worked for you, but I and everyone I've ever known to be bullied had more tenacious punks than that in our midst.


i guess strength in numbers comes in handy in ur situation i had quite a few friends at the time with the same mindset after bonding with them it was fair game so numbers didnt matter however those friends at the end of the day arent dependable so when the time came for a group on one scenario strategy would be your best bet no matter how "pussy" it would make you look thats when you need to put your ego aside and stop caring what people think 0(-_-)0 it also opens your eyes to who your true friends are and who was just using you but its a cold cold world all around
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Posted 11/25/14

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Trends lead to correlation. Most people who suffer physical bullying usually don't commit suicide, have nervous breakdowns later in life, or spend their adulthood in therapy. And yes, there is a gender discrepancy. Girls (majority) usually aren't shoving others, throwing toys/rocks, or playing much rougher on purpose in order to show dominance in a social hierarchy. I'm not trying to say that girls have their own form of bullying as do boys, but rather that one gender employs one form of bullying far more than the other.


Think what you like. Physical abuse doesn't not come without emotional abuse and both can lead to suicide. I happen to know that from a professional point of view.
Posted 11/25/14
Apparently it is equal in the end, since men and women coexist and work with one another when they shun.
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Posted 11/25/14 , edited 11/25/14
Bullying is bullying, it's a tragic thing that will create demons someone will have to fight off until adulthood, and sometimes beyond. There might be some subtle differences as pointed out above by BlueOni but also pointed out by BlueOni, there's little point in having a victimization war. I had bullies when I was younger but all of em hit the rocks careerwise and some of em are going into midlife crisis in their 20's. Some females had bullies in my school too and I ran into them when I was 18, two of them took up smoking and didn't want to catch up much, another didn't change at all.

When someone is bullied at an early age, it shapes their world view, and some of those with lesser amounts of mental and emotional fortitude will commit suicide. All those endless possibilities snuffed out by someone else's (the bully's) inadequacies is probably one of the most insulting things I can think of. Bullying should be actively discouraged regardless of gender, creed, culture, and racial origin.

I was fortunate enough to infiltrate the cool kid's circle, which contained some of my bullies, and I undermined some of their early relationships. I was pretty vengeful as a child. Guess that's where I adopted my "head for an eye" approach to payback.

Edit: Clarification, spelling edits.
Posted 11/25/14 , edited 11/25/14
People never bullied others in front of me... I've seen teachers make kids cry but that was a little funny to me... I think going to different schools and sometimes getting home schooled really helped me become someone who does whatever they like. E.g. You won't need other people's approval but you get it.. You don't care were you fit in so you could switch friends or have as many as you like and not think any of them as close friends. People can try to get on your nerves but you'd be wise enough to know that's actually what would get to them but not necessarily what you care about...they are just grasping for hurtful things to say. And because they are actually trying to think about your possible feelings and reactions to things, it makes it funny. In the end, you can't easily be manipulated and you can judge their aptitude and potential for being good at psychology as a major. Lots of benefits but in the end, you are sort of on your own and that's not a bad thing. Everyone is really on their own in the end.
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Posted 11/26/14 , edited 11/26/14

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