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Male vs. Female Bullying...
Posted 11/26/14

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The perfect way to create attraction.


But in worse case scenario, we'll end up getting pummeled down anyway.


Some people like it rough.
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Posted 11/26/14

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NintendoFan05 wrote:


kowaretatamashi wrote:

The perfect way to create attraction.


But in worse case scenario, we'll end up getting pummeled down anyway.


Some people like it rough.


I could imagine what is like. It's very sad.
Posted 11/26/14


This is why we must protect our children from dark futures with vicious cycles.
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Posted 11/26/14

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This is why we must protect our children from dark futures with vicious cycles.


Vicious cycles?
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Posted 11/26/14 , edited 11/26/14
In a nutshell.

Male bullying is more physical through physical altercation and outwear. In addition, bullies has the tendency to feel a sense of empowerment through overpowering those they perceive as weak. Following further, those are are perceived as weak might be due to intelligence, oddball, handicap, body size due to puberty, etc.

Female bullying is more emotional known as inclusion vs exclusion. For example, a girl wants to be part of the group or a group she feels her identity belongs; however, she gets rejected.

Side Note: Puberty plays a big part in a teens attraction to bullying.

For Males: Males who hit puberty early has a more positive effect; meanwhile, those who start later has a negative effect.

For Females: Females who hit puberty early has a negative effect; meanwhile, those who start later has a very positive effect.

Research those details on your own or take Adolescent psychology as part of Middle School Education or a field in teen psychology for social work, teens outrageous behavior, etc.
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Posted 11/26/14
Rather than "those deemed weaker", it seems more, "those who don't adhere to and defy their (the bullies) expected standards, and refuse to follow along"... at least in the schools and groups I've been in. The person being strong or not, the bullying tactics just change depending on the interest.

... an effeminate trait in a guy (may not even notice it themselves, and can't understand why they're being targeted), a lack of interest in a commonly popular subject or item (something that invokes a feeling of social disconnect in the group)... or vice versa to that, a noticed interest in a commonly disliked subject or item (again may not realize it themselves)...

Anything like that can start it off...

Tomboyish girl playing with boys often
A boy that (for whatever reason) developed a defensive protective nature over himself and/or his possessions
Having an unusual accent... that's a rather common one... I got hit by that one

... the moment something about them invokes a negative interest in them, it escalates from there.



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In my case, lets see... to start with:...

- I had a one line statement of mine repeated back at me in a weird voice and tone at every encounter (I never understood why till recently as it never really occurred to me they weren't poking fun at WHAT I said but HOW I said it...);

-I had multiple lockers need to be cut open by maintenance staff (at my expense) when hot glue was forced in the locks.

-had said lockers treated like a trash bin while sorting out new locks.

-had a vicious rumor circulated about me that spread beyond the school to people I have never met, and caught the attention of the school staff who called me to the counseling offices on the thought it might be true.

-was sexually assaulted by a group (over clothes, but I was pinned down and groped and such)... was reported, very little investigation (the instigator did eventually get expelled though... but much later on a vandalism charge).

... other than having a few additional embarrassing moments repeatedly dug up and thrown back at me (for no real reason and way too much to be banter), I think thats the most memorable of my being bullied... but alas, I never got beat up, or bruised or scarred physically... and almost all of the above was done by guys.
Posted 11/26/14

NintendoFan05 wrote:


kowaretatamashi wrote:



This is why we must protect our children from dark futures with vicious cycles.


Vicious cycles?


Like addictions.
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Posted 11/26/14

kowaretatamashi wrote:


NintendoFan05 wrote:


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This is why we must protect our children from dark futures with vicious cycles.


Vicious cycles?


Like addictions.


They just need to hide. That's all there is to it. lol.
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Posted 11/26/14 , edited 11/26/14
Men tend use hostile aggression, which is more physical.

Women tend to use relational aggression, which is a form of hostile aggression. It, however, relies on destroying a person's social standing and their relations with others.

Take your pick.


Bonus Info - In a fight, women tend to go for the face and hair, things we tend consider as our 'image.' Women fight to ruin your image, thus going for the face/hair/ect.
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Posted 11/26/14
Lol, the kinda bullying that happens in horror games like Misao.
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Posted 11/26/14
I think male bullying is slightly worse... but i wouldn't know.
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Posted 11/26/14
From what I've seen female bullying is worse male bullying like you said is mostly physical you just need to fight back I only bullied bullies mostly to prove how pathetic they actually are
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Posted 11/26/14 , edited 11/26/14
I'd say both forms are equally damaging, really. Especially since, in my experience, most bullying tends to come from people who you call friends.
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Posted 11/26/14
I'm going to take a wild guess and assume that female bullies are worse since they leave emotional scars.
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When I was younger I didn't really get how different I was or what the differences were. I had massive social deficits. I was continuously picked on, mocked, pushed, hit, etc. I was also called a retard pretty often. The teachers and my immediate family didn't really see it and odd as it may sound it didn't really occur to me to tell them. This began in Kindergarten and continued until about fourth grade. Part of why the adults didn't notice my issues was because I could converse fine with them. I had the reading level of a 21 year old according to official tests in second grade. I don't think it ever occurred to them that I was deficient in any area.

Toward the end of my fourth grade year I realized two things: I was larger than almost all of my class mates and I was strong for my size. The next time they tried to physically bully me I slammed one into the pavement, bounced another off the basket ball goal post, and punched another hard enough to make him lose part of his lunch. I got into a lot of trouble and none of the adults could understand why I did it. I said they had been picking on me, but I was told that it was no excuse. The bullies (male and female both) all stopped trying to use physical methods. They also stopped mocking me to my face, though I am pretty sure it continued behind my back. I started beating the crap out of anyone that tried to bully me physically in middle school as well. I also eventually learned ways to compensate for many of my social deficits so that I can seem almost normal. I came to the realization that my behavior was no better than theirs and switched to only using enough force to stop them from harming me and to convince them to stop. It mostly worked. There were still a few fights after that, but they were not nearly as bad.

Bullying didn't do as much psychological harm to me as it does to many people. I'm wired odd to start with. But it still hurt me, and I tend to be far more resistant and stoic in the face of almost every kind of harm than anyone else I know. I can't imagine being a normal person and facing that. It would be a kind of Hell on Earth I think. I am already teaching my daughter how to stand up for herself and others with far less violence than I used. I just wish all parents would do that. Bullying of any flavor is harmful, how much and which kind is worse just depends on how the recipient is built. Some endure the physical better, some endure the mental better, some can take a lot, some can't handle any. Sadly, most true bullies, the instigators and the pack leaders, are all victims themselves lashing out. It doesn't make it okay, but it does help illuminate the solutions. Stop it every time, and help the bullies find a better way to face their demons.
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