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Posted 11/24/14 , edited 11/24/14

AzazelOfNexium wrote:

Well, I wouldn't worry to much about it. I find alot of strictly hetero guys get paranoid about guys who they suspect to be gay.

Its not like him being friendly with you will magically turn you gay.

If you feel uncomfortable with him, just tell him know you don't talk about that stuff.

Be up front with people.

There is no problem with being friends with people who have a different sexuality than you, so you just let him know up front that you only like girls. If you tell him that, its not like hes going to try to "make you gay".

If he "flirts" with you, just take it as a compliment lol.

"Just be proud your so attractive you make people of the same gender appreciate your looks." - A friend of mine


I'm not afraid that i'll turn gay haha. I'm pretty confident in my own sexuality ^^
What i mean is him being overly clingy and ''teasing'', which i find quite exhausting when school is already a pain as it is.
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Well that's a normal feeling even when girls are clingy lol.

Just be upfront.

There were alot of guys and girls who were like that when i was in highschool, I would often just tell them "I was busy" or "really needed to focus on what i was doing" Most of them were understanding and pushed off.

Just be up front, the worst thing you can do is not say anything. If you dont say anything its worse for you and them.

The worst that could happen is they get upset for like an hour and then move on xD
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ReadingTheStars95 wrote:


Ryuouka wrote:


Lekayl wrote:

Make it clear that you like the ladies..If you talk strictly about girls he may leave you alone. Just stay away from conversations that may give him the wrong idea.


That's the thing, he talks about girls the most in the class, but i think that's his denial. I might be wrong though.


Are you sure he isn't bi/poly/pansexual?


He might be.
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just straight up ask him if he is gay and if he is intrested in you.
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AzazelOfNexium wrote:



Well that's a normal feeling even when girls are clingy lol.

Just be upfront.

There were alot of guys and girls who were like that when i was in highschool, I would often just tell them "I was busy" or "really needed to focus on what i was doing" Most of them were understanding and pushed off.

Just be up front, the worst thing you can do is not say anything. If you dont say anything its worse for you and them.

The worst that could happen is they get upset for like an hour and then move on xD


Since we are not that close, he'll just rub off anything that might seem serious you know?

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Yeah. There is also a possibility he will stop in a few weeks or so anyway. Most "crushes" if it is even a crush, only last like a few weeks.

I used to get pretty annoyed at this one guy in school who was like that. After a while he stopped and we become friends.

I found the best way to deal with it was just to ignore any of the "flirtatious" comments and only respond to normal questions.(just like you would, if he was actually a girl you didnt like)

School is enough stress at it is lol. and if worse comes to worse, just avoid him lol.

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Kiss him w/ a little tongue of course. If he kisses back, ask if he is gay in a seductive tone and you'll have your answer.

To answer the question seriously, don't give it any thought. If he is gay, then he is gay. If he asks you out, you can always decline and let him know you are not gay. If he is being too clingy, then let him know you need a little personal space. Responding honestly is usually the best way to go about things.
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^ That.
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Why not just ask? If he is tell him you're into chicks not..
ohoho I almost rhymed. But seriously don't beat around the bush.
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It sounds like you just need to more clearly define your boundaries.
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Tap that arse?
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ReadingTheStars95 wrote:


Ryuouka wrote:


Lekayl wrote:

Make it clear that you like the ladies..If you talk strictly about girls he may leave you alone. Just stay away from conversations that may give him the wrong idea.


That's the thing, he talks about girls the most in the class, but i think that's his denial. I might be wrong though.


Are you sure he isn't bi/poly/pansexual?


What is the difference between polysexual and pansexual?
Posted 11/24/14 , edited 11/24/14

qualeshia3 wrote:



What is the difference between polysexual and pansexual?


From my understanding it breaks down to simply pansexual = all genders/sexes while poly is just many of them but not really all of them.


Also, since it seems this thread won't be closed despite it being a personal thread I will go ahead and throw in my 2 cents.

The possibility of him being gay is completely irrelevant and I don't think you are ok with it as much as you claim because you feel the need to bring it up. Don't bother trying to put a reason as to why he is so attached to you into it because you don't know anything for sure. The reason doesn't matter if the only problem is that he is too clingy. Man up and simply tell him he isn't giving you enough space. Don't bother bringing any other crap into it and just leave it at that. If he tries to laugh it off as a joke then you take responsibility and forcefully distance yourself from him until he gets the point. It's not that difficult of a problem as to needing help from others.
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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:



What is the difference between polysexual and pansexual?


From my understanding it breaks down to simply pansexual = all genders/sexes while poly is just many of them but not really all of them.


How? I still don't get it.
Posted 11/24/14 , edited 11/24/14

qualeshia3 wrote:
How? I still don't get it.


From my understanding, pansexual means attraction to all people regardless of gender, race or appearance.

This is why I love pan sexual people, because they're the only ones who think I'm attractive besides my mum.
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