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The US is definitely a place where Asian guys are at somewhat of a disadvantage when it comes to dating interracially. It's slightly amplified by the fact that Asian girls seem to be in high demand, so to speak. I think this is due to the way Asians are portrayed in the media here. Obviously, some do date interracially but they are not the majority, judging from my experiences. A lot of women here just go "nah, Asians aren't my cup of tea" or "I just don't find them attractive" and point out some cases in which Asian men are dating interracially with great success. That's not how trends work and that doesn't mean nothing is wrong. Many Americans seem very ignorant when it comes to knowledge of other countries and they can't even differentiate between Thailand and Taiwan. It's pretty astounding sometimes. I'm often surprised how readily people here accept hearsay and incorporate it into their lives while they question all the wrong stuff.

Studies have been done on this and data gathered from dating sites show a clear preference for non-Asian men. Still, this is not the fault of the people who grew up here and were exposed to the media here. Different people in different countries have distinct preferences, too, and Asians are obviously doing very well for themselves. It's about which crowd you find and how you go about belonging to it. Preference for other men doesn't mean women won't give Asian men a chance. Sort of like how if you have a favorite drink, that doesn't stop you from trying, appreciating, and liking another drink. Of course, some girls will openly say they will never date Asian, but you have no business with people like that. There are plenty of people like that no matter which race you are. A hot, attractive person is a hot, attractive person regardless of race and preference, so you should play the hand you're dealt the best you can.

With all these points being brought up, at least this means there is awareness. Change is quite possibly on the horizon. It's not much to worry about, IMO.
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My friend is Japanese, and he is married to a non-asian woman.
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Dating?! Why you no, doctor yet?
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since the huge chinese population where I am, all of my previous bfs were chinese (three from shandong, one from taiwan)

I have no experience of what a white guy is in a relationship, but I know chinese international students:

1. language barrier, all of my previous bf only learned english for at least 1-4 years and we communicated well, but there was usually misunderstandings (that is why I am learning chinese)
2. parents and friendships, they are very very very close to their parents and other friends, so attention was divided, unlike my relationship with my german family where we hardly talk...they will definitely care about their parent's opinion and listen to them
3. money, international students have quite a lot of money (from their parents), so money was never an issue with them
4. more traditional and conservative, hence very very very polite....I really liked this
5. they will travel to china/taiwan for three months per year if they have the chance...family is very very important ~

but yeah ^^ hope this helps...umm...I don't know about other asian cultures, and I actually only seen one other inter-racial couple where he was asian and she wasn't...so I don't know....
Posted 7/23/15
The only time I ever see asians around here is in a few shops, they run them.
They are REALLY good at what they do too. I don't think I went to school
with any asians either, so no I haven't seen an asian guy with a caucasian girlfriend?
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I don't know her well, but this one girl in my Cultural Anthropology class I just took did a presentation on the Vietnamese culture, and was inspired by her boyfriend and family. She's really close with him and his family and loves Vietnamese food lol She's like a wavy haired brunette rocker chick with blue eyes, so it happens. I do see more of the opposite though. But when it all comes down to it, people usually look at personality in the end.
Posted 7/23/15
I am a Puerto Rican male with an Asian Fiance who i am marrying in December
I support interracial relationship's and everything although it is not common
for a Female to date an Asian guy (my sister does) but i really don't see it quite often
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nachteil wrote:

since the huge chinese population where I am, all of my previous bfs were chinese (three from shandong, one from taiwan)

I have no experience of what a white guy is in a relationship, but I know chinese international students:

1. language barrier, all of my previous bf only learned english for at least 1-4 years and we communicated well, but there was usually misunderstandings (that is why I am learning chinese)
2. parents and friendships, they are very very very close to their parents and other friends, so attention was divided, unlike my relationship with my german family where we hardly talk...they will definitely care about their parent's opinion and listen to them
3. money, international students have quite a lot of money (from their parents), so money was never an issue with them
4. more traditional and conservative, hence very very very polite....I really liked this
5. they will travel to china/taiwan for three months per year if they have the chance...family is very very important ~

but yeah ^^ hope this helps...umm...I don't know about other asian cultures, and I actually only seen one other inter-racial couple where he was asian and she wasn't...so I don't know....


Did any of your bfs have facial hair just curious don't mean to be noisy
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I was in one of these relationships and it is just like any other I suppose. He was under the impression however that most American girls weren't into Asian men for various silly reasons. He is very self conscious about it though and at our University there were only three other couples of the same combination so its hard to gauge what's a common issue.
Posted 7/23/15
why does race even matter?
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scoobydew wrote:


nachteil wrote:

since the huge chinese population where I am, all of my previous bfs were chinese (three from shandong, one from taiwan)

I have no experience of what a white guy is in a relationship, but I know chinese international students:

1. language barrier, all of my previous bf only learned english for at least 1-4 years and we communicated well, but there was usually misunderstandings (that is why I am learning chinese)
2. parents and friendships, they are very very very close to their parents and other friends, so attention was divided, unlike my relationship with my german family where we hardly talk...they will definitely care about their parent's opinion and listen to them
3. money, international students have quite a lot of money (from their parents), so money was never an issue with them
4. more traditional and conservative, hence very very very polite....I really liked this
5. they will travel to china/taiwan for three months per year if they have the chance...family is very very important ~

but yeah ^^ hope this helps...umm...I don't know about other asian cultures, and I actually only seen one other inter-racial couple where he was asian and she wasn't...so I don't know....


Did any of your bfs have facial hair just curious don't mean to be noisy


hihi, it's not noisy at all ~ and none of them kept their facial hair, they would always shave it

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In Australia you dont see many Asian guys with no Asian women, its usually the other way around if anything but its not unheard of. An Asian guy that i used to work with is going out with a white girl from the Netherlands and there was another Asian guy that had a white girlfriend, i think she may have had some Greek or Italian in her.
I do remember back when i was alot younger a really attractive white girl with brown hair used to seem to like Asian guys.
But yeah i mostly see Asian girls with white guys/no Asian guys or just Asians with Asians.
I work with alot of Asians including Indian and middle eastern and they mostly stick to their own it seems.
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My dad is Japanese and my mom is white
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Uhg... Jesus Christ not another one of these stupid threads... This question ranks right up there with "Should a white man be allowed to marry a black woman?" "Should Blacks not be slaves any more?" and "Should Jews be allowed to vote?"... Oi...

Stupid fucking people with archaic, red neck belief systems. You wonder why the world is going down the shitter.


True that, but all red necks are not like that lmao another stereotype. Stereotypes are the fucking worse.
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Morbidhanson wrote:

The US is definitely a place where Asian guys are at somewhat of a disadvantage when it comes to dating interracially. It's slightly amplified by the fact that Asian girls seem to be in high demand, so to speak. I think this is due to the way Asians are portrayed in the media here. Obviously, some do date interracially but they are not the majority, judging from my experiences. A lot of women here just go "nah, Asians aren't my cup of tea" or "I just don't find them attractive" and point out some cases in which Asian men are dating interracially with great success. That's not how trends work and that doesn't mean nothing is wrong. Many Americans seem very ignorant when it comes to knowledge of other countries and they can't even differentiate between Thailand and Taiwan. It's pretty astounding sometimes. I'm often surprised how readily people here accept hearsay and incorporate it into their lives while they question all the wrong stuff.

Studies have been done on this and data gathered from dating sites show a clear preference for non-Asian men. Still, this is not the fault of the people who grew up here and were exposed to the media here. Different people in different countries have distinct preferences, too, and Asians are obviously doing very well for themselves. It's about which crowd you find and how you go about belonging to it. Preference for other men doesn't mean women won't give Asian men a chance. Sort of like how if you have a favorite drink, that doesn't stop you from trying, appreciating, and liking another drink. Of course, some girls will openly say they will never date Asian, but you have no business with people like that. There are plenty of people like that no matter which race you are. A hot, attractive person is a hot, attractive person regardless of race and preference, so you should play the hand you're dealt the best you can.

With all these points being brought up, at least this means there is awareness. Change is quite possibly on the horizon. It's not much to worry about, IMO.


You're right about that, majority people follow the media and Hollywood.
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