How to get over a breakup?
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Posted 11/29/14
My girlfriend randomly left me, over a 9 month relationship. I was literally left in shambles... to not go into explaination, we did everything together from A to Z.

She just left, saying she "wasn't feeling love for the last 4 months"... why stick around? Breaks my heart. She goes to the same college as me, so it doesn't help that I know shes close by...

Also, lost my job the very next day. Got laid off...

How do I properly cope with this? I don't do intense emotional problems well, as I'm pretty old fashion...
Posted 11/29/14 , edited 11/29/14
Watch anime and find a new love.
Posted 11/29/14 , edited 11/29/14
Whenever I get depress, I sleep it off, conserving energy, and after a while, I do something since I can't sit still for long, but that's just me.


applestash wrote:

Watch anime, find a new love.


Not sure jumping in a new relationship would be the best idea, but I agree that there is more fish in the sea.

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My way to cope is to play a shit ton of video games. I do that for just about any emotional problem to be honest, even when I'm not having any
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PeripheralVisionary wrote:

Not sure jumping in a new relationship would be the best idea, but I agree that there is more fish in the sea.


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Time... and drinking.

Joking about the drinking. Not about the time thing.

Go out and try to do some new things that you didn't do with her than won't really remind you over her. Try to be distracted from it when you can, and when it creeps in when you're alone, occasionally let it, and work it out for yourself.

But yeah.. time. It's the only thing really.
Posted 11/29/14
Eat ice cream and get a cat.
Posted 11/29/14
Play eroge. No. Maybe. I don't know. Heh....heh....he....

I once made an entire album of music after this sort of thing happened to me. Try something creative I'd say
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I'm just posting this so ill get 500 cr points finally
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get a new job asap. ..but then you've mentioned college so i'm not sure how serious you were about your job. if it's a "good riddance" feeling, when it comes to the job you had, then it's maybe good to just take your time.

i don't do well with intense emotions either but it was unnecessary on her part to tell you that she's been thinking about it for a good 4 months. that could also mean that you'd be fine bouncing out and into a new one since you might tune out the girl's feeling lol. thumbs up! good luck.
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Watch a really long anime from start to finish. Eat a lot of chocolates and watch more anime. Buy a Dog. But whatever you do, no matter how tempting it is or how lonely you are: never ever never call your ex.

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In the words of the goon down the road from me, "erryitng gon be irie mon"
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time heals all wounds (unless you're haemophilic)
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tf2pyros wrote:

My girlfriend randomly left me, over a 9 month relationship. I was literally left in shambles... to not go into explaination, we did everything together from A to Z.

She just left, saying she "wasn't feeling love for the last 4 months"... why stick around? Breaks my heart. She goes to the same college as me, so it doesn't help that I know shes close by...

Also, lost my job the very next day. Got laid off...

How do I properly cope with this? I don't do intense emotional problems well, as I'm pretty old fashion...


That sounds really rough, especially since it seems it came as a pretty big surprise. I don't really have great advice, but some of the things others have mentioned seem like good short term approaches to help cope while you get accustomed, and move ahead with things.

I'm closing this thread because individual personal help threads aren't allowed in the forums, but if you want to get more responses you can post in the existing General Help/Advice Thread ("stickied" near the top of the General Discussion forum).
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