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Post Reply Difference between Catcalling vs Genuine Interest/pickup
Posted 12/2/14
Catcalling demeans and objectifies. It is rude, insulting, and shows a lack of manners and class.
Posted 12/2/14
I also like to add that judging someone's friendliness and whatnot based on their appearance is downright dangerous. It gets people killed. I assure you that if Ted Bundy was black he would've lured less women to their deaths. Not that I am saying black people are ugly, but you get my point.
Posted 7/15/15 , edited 7/15/15
Catcalling is highly inappropriate and makes people feel uncomfortable, not feel better about themselves, despite popular belief.
While a compliment is more appropriate, and makes people feel better about themselves.
Idk about you, but random guys (especially if they are grown ass men) telling me "Nice tits" is not a compliment in the slightest to me, and just makes me uncomfortable. I already feel kinda weird if I even receive any kind of compliment. Mostly due to low-self esteem & insecurity & social anxiety I guess. But its not like I don't like it, it does make me feel a bit better about myself.
But yeah, don't catcall anyone. Just call them cute, pretty, handsome, etc.
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Posted 7/15/15 , edited 7/15/15
It doesn't work most of the time, but I think the reason people keep doing it (other than simply because they feel like it) is that some people do respond positively. Not most, definitely, but some do. My theory is that it sort of becomes like gambling. There's a small chance to win big even though you lose most of the time. It happens more in clubs and bars, too, so I'm assuming it's more effective in an environment where alcohol is involved that just on the street or in some random grocery aisle. The loss of inhibition brought upon by alcohol helps people do it more and respond more.

Depends on the person calling and the woman, too. Some girls I know enjoy knowing that a random hot stranger thinks they are attractive. They might not want to go with the person right then and there, but they'll more readily give out a number and continue later on. The chance of this being pleasing to someone also seems to go up when they are drunk. Doesn't mean it's going to be a commonly-accepted courteous behavior, but it works sometimes, just saying. Oh, and the environment/culture is quite a factor as well. People in Tainan and Baghdad are probably going to be less responsive than people in California or Amsterdam or something.

To me, catcalling is a watered-down version of showing genuine interest that always involves something of sexual nature, whereas showing genuine interest usually involves some personality trait that a person likes.
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Posted 7/15/15
People with a genuine interest don't catcall.
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Posted 7/15/15
that necrobump though
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Posted 7/15/15
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Posted 7/15/15 , edited 7/15/15

anzn wrote:

Catcalling is highly inappropriate and makes people feel uncomfortable, not feel better about themselves, despite popular belief.
While a compliment is more appropriate, and makes people feel better about themselves.
Idk about you, but random guys (especially if they are grown ass men) telling me "Nice tits" is not a compliment in the slightest to me, and just makes me uncomfortable. I already feel kinda weird if I even receive any kind of compliment. Mostly due to low-self esteem & insecurity & social anxiety I guess. But its not like I don't like it, it does make me feel a bit better about myself.
But yeah, don't catcall anyone. Just call them cute, pretty, handsome, etc.


I'd say someone saying "nice tits" is less of a compliment (though I suppose there could be a situation where it can be that) and more of an acknowledgement to someones physical assets. Either way, disrespectful I've got to agree if that's how it's used. Though how someone takes it could vary greatly lol.

Catcalling is usually pretty obvious but I've often seen where someone who is genuinely complimenting another is misunderstood. I'd say context, the situation and any previous history with the people determines which it is. To a degree at least.
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Posted 7/16/15
All this really is about is the ever changing social evolution of what's considered publicly acceptable behavior.This tends to be very regional.
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Posted 7/16/15 , edited 7/16/15
I find it funny this topic was revived considering just yesterday on my way home from work I had a guy yelling out his car window for my number. Just turned up my Lindsey Stirling music and gave the ol' 2 fingered salute.

Most of the time, such things are harmless, if not flattering.

My only bad experience happened at a gas station where there was a group of guys in a car asking for my number, driving around me, and refused to take no for an answer.

"Damn gurl why you gotta be like that!"
"Why don't you smile?!"
"We not good enough for you? C'mon gimmie your number"

Posted 7/16/15 , edited 7/16/15
The methodology in them--Catcalling and wolf whistling is rude and inappropriate social behavior in most settings outside a bar or nightclub, generally thought to be anyhow. Ladies, we normally don't like that, only sometimes if we know like the guy.

Can only speak for me, I like my guys civilized and not acting like animals, your mileage may vary from female to femalehowever.
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Posted 7/16/15 , edited 7/16/15

PrinceJudar wrote:

I find it funny this topic was revived considering just yesterday on my way home from work I had a guy yelling out his car window for my number. Just turned up my Lindsey Stirling music and gave the ol' 2 fingered salute.

Most of the time, such things are harmless, if not flattering.

My only bad experience happened at a gas station where there was a group of guys in a car asking for my number, driving around me, and refused to take no for an answer.

"Damn gurl why you gotta be like that!"
"Why don't you smile?!"
"We not good enough for you? C'mon gimmie your number"



Time for this :)

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Posted 7/16/15
wait until you're panda called, the shame
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Posted 7/16/15 , edited 7/16/15
So, like, basically, I've never picked up a girl. The three times (not counting a middle school relationship that doesn't really count) I've been in a relationship with a girl, no shit, have started exactly the same way:

I'm at a social gathering.
I get tired of socializing.
I sit on couch.
Someone else thinks I'm suicidal because who the hell wants to sit alone on the couch at a party?
Someone sits on the couch and begins speaking to me.
He/she eventually says something I disagree with, I question him/her.
We begin discussing something interesting to us.
More people join, one of whom happens to be a girl.
The girl continues past everyone else.
At some point, I look up, and arrive at the interesting observation that I'm having sex.
Depending on how the next morning goes, we may decide to continue doing so in the future.

I fully understand that this is largely a result of the fact that I'm on the more attractive side of the population. Damn lucky too, because I don't think I could actually approach girls that I don't know before they do so first. I don't know how anyone does it, so I don't really have any opinion on catcalling. I did, however, have a drunk girl say "you're hot" and walk away, but I believe that qualifies as neither catcalling nor genuine interest. So I've no real experience to speak of here.
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