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14 Y/O killed after online meetup!
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Posted 12/5/14
That's a shame.

Also kind of surprising since I remember being taught basic "internet safety" back in Elementary school. I would think they would be even more concerned about teaching that kind of thing now that we've surpassed the era of having to leave your AOL chatroom because you need to use the phone.
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I don't think that people are any worse online compared to real life. Most people are generally good. What adds to the risk with online meetings is that people provide to much information, or they agree to meet up with this person in a nonpublic area. When you meet a person in real life most of the time it is through work, or school. But even then there are a lot of dangerous real life meeting places. If my memory serves me correctly Jeffrey Dahmer the serial murderer met a lot of his victims in night clubs. Yet society is mostly accepting of night clubs, while frowning on the internet.
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Posted 12/5/14 , edited 12/5/14

Davidvauhn wrote:


serifsansserif wrote:

I've met people from the internets. given out my address to them, etc. Hell, I've even flown to meet them, knowing I'd be staying with these "stranger" I've talked to for a year or two online. Never had any issues.

Sad, yes, using a little precaution? of course. but don't make isolated incidences or rare occurences dictate what the overwhelming majority turn out to be like.

EDIT: just because I didn't address it, what I said above is aimed at people over 18 meeting up with people. I definitely don't advocate anyone underage going off to meet random people. This goes for both on the internet or off. (which, my suspicions are that it's equally dangerous regardless of where you first meet them)


Well I'm 17 and meeting with a friend I've talked to for 3 years at a con in about 6 months, guess I'll be 3 months too young.


lol.. know a disclaimer when you see one.. ;)

I'm more worried about 10 year olds that might read what I say and think it's ok to just run out and meet random people from the internet. I'm not saying some caution isn't necessary. If a situation feels off, then you should probably avoid it. Common sense and all.

I just really don't like the paranoia that seems to be developing on the topic based on one kid suffering a terrible fate because... well, because. I stand by the fact that if you use common sense, 99% of the times people meet on the internet aren't going to lead to rape or death. You may meet some incredibly dull and boring people that are opposite their online persona, or, as the plethora of dating sites out there promise, you may meet your true love. You may meet some strange people, and maybe even some crazy people, but you do that every day in your normal life.

what's being shown here are some REALLY huge inductive leaps in rationality.


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Posted 12/5/14
It's kind of dumb that this kind of thing is even possible...
I've been to numerous offline meets, and the worst thing to happen is meeting someone with a bad attitude and/or personality.
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Posted 12/6/14 , edited 12/6/14
my condolences go out to that kid
Posted 12/6/14

mimosa_usagi wrote:

I don't think that people are any worse online compared to real life. Most people are generally good. What adds to the risk with online meetings is that people provide to much information, or they agree to meet up with this person in a nonpublic area. When you meet a person in real life most of the time it is through work, or school. But even then there are a lot of dangerous real life meeting places. If my memory serves me correctly Jeffrey Dahmer the serial murderer met a lot of his victims in night clubs. Yet society is mostly accepting of night clubs, while frowning on the internet.


exactly.

should we stop going to school in fear of school shootings? or shops? or movies? ridiculous.
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Posted 12/7/14 , edited 12/7/14
I heard about this. It's really sad. Granted, there are some good people out there on the internet. However, we never know who or what person is behind the mask. It's a huge mystery. And honestly speaking, that makes me wanna teach kids internet safety. And for those who determined to see that particular person you meet from the internet, I really wish some good things happening. I recommend having a body-guard.
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Posted 12/7/14
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Posted 12/7/14 , edited 12/7/14
I get the good will of the original post. But serously... you're 14 GD years old. YOU DON'T MEET PEOPLE ALONE. No matter how badass you think you are a grown ass person with bad intentions will fuck you up. "Old man strength" is a term for a reason.

I still don't meet online friends without at least a couple other people around and at a very public place and I'm a big mean ugly old man.
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Posted 12/8/14

PeripheralVisionary wrote:

Well, at least we know to take caution with real life meet ups.
Tips
-Never agree to meet alone
-Meet in a public place


it does say he struggled making friends in school so he probably didn't have anyone to go with him; this is one thing that prevents me from going out to bars etc more often, it's just not safe being alone + walking back to campus at 2-4am in a crime infested city is just awful.
I agree about meeting in a public place, whether it's a coffee shop or mall, at least you won't be isolated with a possible creep.
I just read another article about an older guy who went to meet someone from craigslist and she ended up killing him...she even said the murder had felt like a movie....what the hell goes on in some people's minds?
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Posted 12/8/14
I've met people from the internet IRL. Nothing bad happened to me. Honestly though, are your chances of meeting your murder that much greater on the internet than IRL. Well...maybe since you have access to a larger number of people...
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Posted 12/9/14
Disgusting. No excuse.
Posted 12/18/14
First,

That is a horrible thing. If only there were some way to prevent it. Not being sarcastic --- those that truly want to meet up with their online friends, I hope they just pick correct meeting places and only if they learn of their friend's true nature (still difficult). Rest in peace, I'd donate, but poor.


My bit...
After being part of many gaming communities, a couple of great guilds, and part of the anime community - I have never once met with a person I met on the internet. It isn't because I'd assume I'd die or anything - I have a RL friend that seems to meet up with plenty of guys she met online. I just think, "why risk it?" I've asked that for over 10 years.

I'm open to do a meet up at a convention though. Not because I saw this and to prove to myself it is fine. I just feel like I missed out on opportunities over the years. News stories are usually about the bad, but surely good experiences are to be had as well. You just have to do it smart, I hope. If I disappear, everyone knows what happened in February =/.
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Posted 12/18/14
I started using the Internet the same age as this kid but I never got into online gaming. Online gaming isn't the blame for this neither the mother but the 19-year old wanker who killed this passionate kid who was into technology, come on he could had changed the world somehow. All I can say is a that a mother is always right, the mother knew that the 19-year old wanker was a lunatic, he even posted pictures on his social media page, did that wanker even got arrested.
P.S. I don't mean to offend anyone by saying wanker, but this just irritates me.
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Posted 12/18/14
So anyone here want to meet up in real life?
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