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Need some life advices
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Posted 12/7/14
Hi boys and girls of the CR community ^^) / just as the title says... I need some life (maybe romantic) advices or point of view of some of you so well... Long story short~

I'm a 23 year old guy who confessed his love (a morning, moreless a year and a half a go) to very special person, at first she seemed happy (by its facial expressions it really seemed like a yes) but that same day much much later , she seemed with doubts and friendzoned me via fb. Days passed and up till now, even if I was friendzoned I'm now feel like a complete stranger for her with a broken relationship. And well, every now and then we now talk very few times, her strange reaction to my confession (in that moment) made me not to give up and still try hard... But well, now at days that seems impossible, it seems she moved on and well, I'm stuck...
I don't know how to move on, sometimes I think I need to meet some others girls and move on (but deep inside myself I'm afraid, I feel like I'm lying to myself, like seeking for a replacement of her)... Gotta admit, as you can see, as the 0 experience in love guy who is quite introverted and sometimes afraid of compromises ( I don't want to give up, she was worth it) but the way I'm dealing with this situation is lame like... Trying to forget her, acting normal yet feeling hollow (and strangely somehow, as an otaku I am, I always try to fill myself with anime) yea, maybe at my age I'm still inmature to be depressed up till now, so~ what should I do? Should I try to continue forgetting her? Anyways, that's my prob... Every kind of comment/experience is welcome...
Posted 12/7/14
If it happened a year and half ago, you really need to just move on.
Posted 12/7/14
I don't understand the problem.
You bet on the wrong horse, you're not getting your time back.
That is the gamble.
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Lesson 1: Life sucks. It will screw you over whenever you begin to feel good about yourself.
Posted 12/7/14
Do what you think you should do. And if you think it's time to move on, move on at your own pace. Sooner or later you will find someone who likes you & doesn't friend zone you..
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To me it sounds like she doesn't want to say no to you because she doesn't want to hurt you or lose a friend so shes sort of procrastinating.
Posted 12/7/14
here's my pseudo-philosphical take on it...

it's the nature of humans to want something we can't have, and once we have it, we no longer cherish it (at least not at the same level as when we didn't have it).
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Please, let her go. Stop, pulling the scab off. Yes, It's a big empty painful hole. It will take a long time for healing.

I was there in my early 20's too. Looking back, I had other parts of my life that needed work before trying to build a life with another. I stepped back from romance and pored my self into education and career. Around 26, I found a girl that needed me as much as I needed her. I was not looking for a relationship, at the time.

Give your self time to grow as a person.
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Posted 12/7/14
You asked a girl out a year and a half ago, got turned down and you're still not over it? You definitely don't need romance advice, you need general life advice and maybe a bit of therapy.

You're 23, ask out anyone who gets in your orbit who seems available with the goal of having fun not finding the romance of a lifetime. Clearly you're not ready for a serious relationship.
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Posted 12/7/14
move on buddy
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If you truly love someone, you want them to be happy. You have to want whatever she wants, even if she doesn't want you. So yeah, ya gotta let go. But I see no reason to try to seek out "replacement" girls. Humans are essentially irreplaceable. Just keep your distance, and whenever she pops into your head, make a silent wish for her happiness.
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If you still want to be with her and intend to overlook all the advice about moving (as she may have moved on as well), then I'd suggest restarting your friendship with her, and then see where it goes from there, just chat ask if you can meet up or something "as friends" to watch a movie or something.

Almost Anything is possible, I'm in an exotic relationship right now, because I chose not defeat.
Posted 12/7/14 , edited 12/7/14
Let her go, friend. Many people have been there, myself included. I am confident that everything will work out for the best. It may not seem like much, coming from a stranger on the internet, but I honestly believe things will be better even if not everything goes as planned. Again, from a stranger, it is a little heartbreaking. Just keep in mind not to lose sight on the big picture. You may miss out on opportunities not even related to romantic love.

I wish you the best.
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Posted 12/7/14
Lifes short, dont waste your time with others that don't feel the same way about you.

Don't even go looking for love, the mechanics of love don't work that way, i know it kinda sucks saying that, but literally you will eventually meet someone who's into you for the way you are and youll get along nicley.

Chasing some old tail that's given you the wishy washy treatment is more sad than an abandoned puppy, most women hate traits in men like that.

Find some other interests, go out, do some other social things, climbing, cycling etc.. , your sure to meet a true match that way.



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pacocap wrote:

Hi boys and girls of the CR community ^^) / just as the title says... I need some life (maybe romantic) advices or point of view of some of you so well... Long story short~

I'm a 23 year old guy who confessed his love (a morning, moreless a year and a half a go) to very special person, at first she seemed happy (by its facial expressions it really seemed like a yes) but that same day much much later , she seemed with doubts and friendzoned me via fb. Days passed and up till now, even if I was friendzoned I'm now feel like a complete stranger for her with a broken relationship. And well, every now and then we now talk very few times, her strange reaction to my confession (in that moment) made me not to give up and still try hard... But well, now at days that seems impossible, it seems she moved on and well, I'm stuck...
I don't know how to move on, sometimes I think I need to meet some others girls and move on (but deep inside myself I'm afraid, I feel like I'm lying to myself, like seeking for a replacement of her)... Gotta admit, as you can see, as the 0 experience in love guy who is quite introverted and sometimes afraid of compromises ( I don't want to give up, she was worth it) but the way I'm dealing with this situation is lame like... Trying to forget her, acting normal yet feeling hollow (and strangely somehow, as an otaku I am, I always try to fill myself with anime) yea, maybe at my age I'm still inmature to be depressed up till now, so~ what should I do? Should I try to continue forgetting her? Anyways, that's my prob... Every kind of comment/experience is welcome...
move on,there is plenty of fish on the sea or 4ever alone!

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