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Posted 12/10/14
People who have options do not need to settle. Attractive and/or wealthy people will play around until they find exactly what they are looking for.

If you want loyalty and kindness, don't date a model.
Posted 12/10/14
Any girl who wants and keeps a guy who treats her like shit especially if he's tall, dark and handsome needs to live in a Shoujo manga and not in the real world.
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If they're actually a nice person, they won't "finish last". If they're truly kind but not a total doormat, they'll eventually find someone. If they're an asshole who thinks they can get a girl just because they like her and because he's "nice" to her, then you're not entitled to anything.
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Posted 12/10/14 , edited 12/15/14
Everyone at some point has been friendzoned, Nice guys don't always finish last, I consider myself a nice guy and I've never finished last, It's all a matter of Confidence.
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21 / M / Canada eh
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Posted 12/10/14
It's more about confidence I guess. If you want to date someone, you have to make your intentions clear cuz if you half-ass it, then you'll obviously be put in the friendzone.

And yes, being physically attractive does help, but only to a certain degree. An ugly personality ruins a pretty face. There;s my two cents.
Posted 12/10/14

Phersu wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:

I'm a masochist, so naturally I gravitate toward sadistic people.
In certain cases, we do like our opposites. I for one want a buxom woman who'll humiliate me as her husbando.


Esdeath's mine! Back off.


I usually go for lolis but no. Esdeath is sexy.
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Posted 12/10/14
It should be obvious that doormats have trouble establishing and maintaining healthy relationships since that's a defining criterion for being a doormat, but one can be a "nice guy" or "nice girl" without being a doormat or a jerk. As for whether a doormat is weak, well...

It's true: many (I'd even venture to say most) doormats are sympathetic people who've simply been cruelly abused into submission and can now only sustain any sense of safety and/or self-worth by accommodating people beyond healthy limits. Does that make them weak? Not really. A human being is, at the end of the day, an animal. You can only torment an animal or person for so long, abuse them so much, before they eventually either take corrective measures (fight back or, if they can't win, start accommodating their abusers to avoid further abuse and possibly restore some sense of self-worth) or fall into total despair. Being a doormat is, ironically enough, a survival mechanism. It's a way to not give up. It's a maladjustment which needs to be corrected if at all possible (sadly it sometimes isn't), but it's not weakness.
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Posted 12/10/14

BlueOni wrote:

It should be obvious that doormats have trouble establishing and maintaining healthy relationships since that's a defining criterion for being a doormat, but one can be a "nice guy" or "nice girl" without being a doormat or a jerk. As for whether a doormat is weak, well.


Indeed, I find it stupid some people talks about nice guys as that automatically means a doormat, or a fake nice guy who complains when gets friendzoned or something.
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26 / M / Houma
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I'm kind to others but I often get called mean in a tone that isn't scornful but almost playful... am I doing this right?

Anyway, if I am asked something I will give an honest answer rather than telling them what they want to hear but I still focus on the positive. Honesty is the gateway to improvement and it also proves that you DO care.
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22 / M / Michigan
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It seems I'd fall into the nice guy category.

But in reality, I just don't want to waste time on a relationship that isn't going to last. So I just don't try. Dunno if I'll change or not.
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Posted 12/10/14
I think what we all want, boys and girls, is pretty simple.

Somebody sexy who is fun to be with.

If they aren't sexy to you, then they are friends.

If they are sexy to you but aren't fun to be with, you're gonna be miserable sooner or later. Fun to be with includes: chemistry, respect, similar interests or at least the ability to enjoy doing things with each other, and taking care of your damn business

Have a little self-awareness. If you want sexy, and you're not sexy, try to get a little sexier.

Also, there's a difference between being nice because you're afraid of pissing people off and being respectful because you're not a prick and empathize with people.

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I use to be a nice guy...very nice and doing things for others out of kindness if I gained nothing of it...but you know life fucks you over and you realize that being nice is pointless ^-^ now a days...people don't like me more time for anime for me :DDDDD
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Posted 12/10/14 , edited 12/10/14

Phersu wrote:

It isn't that girls go for bad guys. Girls go for strong guys who stand up for themselves and what they believe in!



Basically this.
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15 / F / Not Heaven
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Posted 12/10/14
Phersu, you are very... perspicacious .
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