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Posted 12/10/14 , edited 12/10/14
Sometimes being nice IS about avoiding trouble.

Sometimes what's nice is really about picking up the slack because someone else is inept and, quite frankly, you haven't the heart to tell them how you feel.

Sometimes, giving a gift can be juuuuuust the right thing to push someone over the edge.

*sigh*

I've had a long day of dealing with people's stupidity and self interest on ze internets.

Nevertheless nice guys aren't always weak. and sometimes nice isn't so nice. As for the wimmens? Too much thought goes into it. If they like you, they like you, if they don't, they don't. why overcomplicate it.
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Posted 12/10/14
Personally I think it takes more strength to be nice to people than it does to just let go and be a dick to everyone.
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Posted 12/10/14 , edited 12/10/14
It's easy to be physically attracted to someone; It's the mental attraction that seems to be the hardest.
At least, for me. Physical qualities is what piques my interest first, sure. But if I don't find you mentally stimulating, then my initial attraction wears off. I'm a really weird person so I want someone who can be on the same wavelength as me.
But nice guys don't finish last. Someone who knows what he wants but doesnt know how to get it finish last. (In my opinion )
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Posted 12/10/14

jeanius- wrote:

Personally I think it takes more strength to be nice to people than it does to just let go and be a dick to everyone.


Precisely.
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Posted 12/10/14
For some reason a lot of nice guys tend to be fugly.
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Posted 12/10/14 , edited 12/15/14
There's no such thing as "Friend zone" if a girl doesn't like simple she doesn't like you, you can't for someone to love you if they are not interested in you. I never been in a friend zone because I don't believe in those kind of things, simple as that.

Some guys tend to said that they are "Nice guys" when in reality all they doing is acting nice to get the girl they want, if you are really a nice guy, than you should be able to do the following things: Not get the person you care in trouble, able to respect that person feelings, support that person in everything you can, and be able to move on from bad situations.

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Posted 12/10/14 , edited 12/10/14
Actually, the way I see it, a nice guy wouldn't complain about being in the "friendzone". I really hate calling it that, but I guess i'll use it for lack of a better term.

I actually do look at "nice guys" who are upset that their love is unrequited as being weak. To me, love need not be reciprocated, and if you truly loved someone then you would wish for their happiness even knowing that you would have no part in it. What's nicer than that? What's stronger than that?

I don't look at people like that as being weak. The kind who admit that their love is unrequited and overcome that sensation, or even more impressively, use it to accomplish something (such as poetry, art, or some other skill).

I used people to emphasize women as well. Not just a male thing.
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Posted 12/11/14 , edited 12/11/14
they aren't really nice, its a myth
Posted 12/11/14

Arielgirl375 wrote:

For some reason a lot of nice guys tend to be fugly.


guess being good looking gives you the asshole trait and being ugly gives you the "only hope I have trait"
Posted 12/11/14
I used to be a "nice guy" but now as I get older through my experiences with women I am now becoming an asshole.

I getting this "I don't give a damn attitude". Used to be a shy nice guy but damn I am becoming a "fuck off" kind of person.
But I still rather be nice. It is a weird balance.
Posted 12/11/14

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Just respect a gal's right to say no. And you'll be cool in a lot of people's books. Especially that gal's.

I've had 2 friends who have asked me out within the past year, and one of them got upset because he was a "nice guy" and that I "just go for bad guys and I'm going to get myself hurt".

+ They both accused me of putting in them in the friend zone.



While I didn't really read into your words too much that Gif is killing me. haha wow
Posted 12/11/14 , edited 12/15/14
Being nice and being a bitch boy are two different things. You can always be nice and thats trill, but if you are a bitch boy once then your fucking done.The more you know kids, the more you fucking know.
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"Nice guys finish last." I never understood what that meant in social situations I always thought it just applied to sex. I've never had a friendzone where we both had feelings for each other be permanent. We usually start out as friends because, shocker, we want to hang out in a non-sexual manner. There's either feelings or there isn't, the friendzone is just a crock of shit made up by people who are too afraid to talk to their so called "friend" about how they feel for them.
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Posted 12/11/14

furytime wrote:


Arielgirl375 wrote:

For some reason a lot of nice guys tend to be fugly.


guess being good looking gives you the asshole trait and being ugly gives you the "only hope I have trait"


you might be on to something. now if only we could put good looking and nice together. and funny. throw that in there too. that would be my dream date. along with other stuff too
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Posted 12/11/14 , edited 12/11/14
From what I've seen, this is less and less true as the years start catching up. And, yes, OP is right. Don't confuse niceness with weakness.

And I don't think niceness itself is usually the lone/main issue. Usually it's a combination of things, like looks, lifestyle, interests, etc.

Still, being nice pays off. Even if it doesn't for your early relationships, cultivating a nice personality is beneficial for the rest of your life and for the workplace. You are more respected than if you are an aggressive and impulsive a**hole. TBH, I don't understand how those kinds of people live with themselves and I tend to think of them as animals rather than people and I don't like to help them. I don't know if they're just poorly socialized or have some kind of defect....either way, I just know I don't like being around them and I sure as hell don't want to help them. Nice people, on the other hand, are easy to like and to help. The benefits far outweigh the downsides so this should be a non-issue. And people who seem to think women owe them something for being nice aren't really nice. That's the opposite of being nice. And there's also a likelihood that she's not your type so just forget about it and move on.
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