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Can Two People Be Lovers But Not Friends?
Posted 12/11/14 , edited 12/13/14
I ask this, and this only, but can two people be in love with one another and not be friends? What I mean is, is being in a relationship essentially a step up from being friends, or are they two separate and distinct relationship? Do you have to be friends to be in a relationship? IS being someone's boyfriend a step up from friend? Sometimes?


Edit: I mean do they have to share common interests.
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Posted 12/11/14 , edited 12/12/14
You have to be friends obviously. In an ideal relationship, you become best friends, except they'll also touch your penis.
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Posted 12/11/14

jerbearxi wrote:

You have to be friends obviously. In an ideal relationship, you become best friends, except they'll also touch your penis.


W-what if you don't have a p-p-penis?
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Posted 12/11/14

Shrapnel893 wrote:

W-what if you don't have a p-p-penis?


Then you become a wizard
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Shrapnel893 wrote:


jerbearxi wrote:

You have to be friends obviously. In an ideal relationship, you become best friends, except they'll also touch your penis.


W-what if you don't have a p-p-penis?


Then you can strap it and tap it.
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Posted 12/11/14
I certainly wouldn't define such a relationship as love, lust perhaps, but not love. As far as friends go I have no idea how I will be able to make new friends without consistent presence. I like my job now and the money but I underestimated the exposure that school and retail jobs gave me.
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Posted 12/11/14
In the words of Ko from 50% off "they hate eachother, but they also fuck eachother!! (in reference to Haru and sharkboy's secret love affair in Free)


I have had a few "lovers" that I fucking hated, and im pretty sure they hated me too :P. Sometimes sex is just sex and nothing more xD
Posted 12/11/14 , edited 12/11/14
Over 50% of marriages end in divorce, so there's gotta something wrong with how love and friendship works.

My parents have been married for over 20 years and are honestly each other's best friend, so I would say it's possible but I've yet to see it.
Posted 12/11/14
If by friends you are describing the extent of your relationship, then yes, in fact they are mutually exclusive.
If, however, you mean someone you know on a personal level and can interact with more casually etc, then no.
Posted 12/11/14 , edited 12/11/14
In terms of romantic relationships I'd say it can be a challenge to remain friends in spite of the relationship. It's easy to get pulled into a comfortable routine, so much so that you end up responding rather than interacting.

This is assuming the relationship stemmed from friendship. If the interests of both parties is purely sexual then there's little point in maintaining anything beyond that. Can't really answer this objectively without first defining your terms though.
Posted 12/11/14
am not experience in love enough to give a useful answer

but am sure there are different expectations for friends and boyfriend. like I wouldn't get angry if a friend forgot my bday, but would be mad as a cow if a bf forgot.



Posted 12/11/14

AzazelOfNexium wrote:

In the words of Ko from 50% off "they hate eachother, but they also fuck eachother!! (in reference to Haru and sharkboy's secret love affair in Free)


I have had a few "lovers" that I fucking hated, and im pretty sure they hated me too :P. Sometimes sex is just sex and nothing more xD


This pretty much.
Whenever I have a one night stand I, 95% of the time, don't ask to see them again. It's just a one time thing. But hey isn't there a saying like your wife/husband is also your best friend or something like that?
Either way I personally find it difficult to start a relationship up when I don't even know anything about that person, and starting a friendship is a good way of getting to know people.

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Posted 12/11/14
Nanikore2 and his Frozen references are the answer you're looking for.

He's the guardian of love. Ask him.
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Posted 12/11/14
I don't really desire a relationship, but if I did, I would like to think of my significant other romantically and as a best friend.
Posted 12/11/14

mistletain wrote:

In terms of romantic relationships I'd say it can be a challenge to remain friends in spite of the relationship. It's easy to get pulled into a comfortable routine, so much so that you end up responding rather than interacting.

This is assuming the relationship stemmed from friendship. If the interests of both parties is purely sexual then there's little point in maintaining anything beyond that. Can't really answer this objectively without first defining your terms though.


She is a girl by the way.
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