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What do you think about public marriage proposals?
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Posted 12/13/14 , edited 12/13/14
@IshokuOsero

How do you know how the person being asked feels?
Did you ever stop to think that maybe the couple had seen a similar proposal and the person being asked had expressed the desire to be proposed to in such a fashion.
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Posted 12/13/14

MrMoondoggie wrote:

By public i mean like when you go to a Baseball game or a concert etc and somebody set it up so they can do this big public proposal and people clap and cheer whatever. I think it's kind of cruel to force somebody into that situation where they look horrible if they say no. Of course it has happened which then completely humiliates the person who was rejected but should they have done it in a way that tries to force the answer they want? Because that's what it seems like "Oh she;'ll never turn me down in front of thousands of people". I think something so personal should be done in private.

So what do you think? Have you ever proposed in such a way? Would you? Would you feel more inclined to say yes in that kind of situation?


I too thinks its just too much pressure.. you can really tell when the person being asked never even considered marriage until then... its a complete shock....

I mean if its something they both been thinking about for a long time then cool.. but the first talk of it is infront of a bunch of people.. ehh..
Doing it in private allows for some talking and consideration... things you cant do while everyone is watching.. An initial no can turn into a yes when done in private...

Did you hear about the surprise wedding story... thats some crazy stuff right there...

http://thechive.com/2014/10/28/woman-tricks-her-boyfriend-into-marriage-surprise-3-photos/
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Posted 12/13/14
I think it's better to do those kinds of proposals ONLY if you know that they're going to say yes. Like if you guys have talked about marriage and he finally decides to pop the question. I mean you can be creative if you don't know what they're going to say but try to not make it embarrassing for yourself.
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Posted 12/14/14
Depends on individual preference... and how certain you are that the other person will say "Yes!". Public proposals can put pressure on the person to go with it.

Personally, I would prefer something private.
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Posted 12/14/14
That'd be one reason to decide not to marry someone for me. A marriage proposal is supposed to be about two people privately asking if marriage is in their future. You're not marry the public just one special person. A wedding is the public affair, that's where others come in to witness the joyous occasion.
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Posted 12/14/14
these people who do public marriage proposals set the bar too high...
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Posted 12/14/14
erebody saying "what if he/she is rejected" well it's not that it is impossible but i think most folks who take the time, effort, and money to go about setting up a huge thing like that is pretty darn certain it's gonna be a "yes"

so, i don't really see an actual moral/social/whatever problem with it but as this guy said:


BASALISK1234 wrote:

I get really jealous of public displays of affection


Doesn't mean i want to end badly. in fact i hope it ends well. But I do get very envious... though personally i wouldn't want to be proposed to that way, i wouldn't like the attention lol
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Posted 12/14/14
I loved it when the women or the man says no. The look on their face btw her a good video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=22ec8o7p2bI
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Posted 12/15/14
I would NEVER do something like that. Being rejected in front of thousands of people is certainly worse than just being rejected. Otherwise, I just don't quite get it. I mean why does everyone have to be involved?
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Posted 12/15/14
I think that it is embarrassing. Especially if someone is rejected. I feel like public marriage proposals put more pressure on the person who is being asked.
Posted 12/15/14

Ele4me wrote:

My birth father did this to my mother my aunt says it was hilarious when she said no All in all I respect people who say no in that kind of situation..


I feel so bad for him xD That must be the worst feeling in the world.
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Posted 12/15/14
Seems romantic but I think they should only do something that spectacular if they're sure the person they're proposing to is ready for marriage and is willing to marry them. Otherwise, it would be something that would put pressure on the one being proposed and might be forced to say "Yes" because it's in front of many people. That's kind of unfair for the one being proposed to and if that person had the guts to say "No", it'll be a waste for the one who made the proposal.

If both parties are willing to spend the rest of their lives with each other and nothing stands in their way then something as romantic as this is really awesome. But if you'll ask me, I don't wanna be proposed to this way...
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Posted 12/15/14

applestash wrote:

I'd probably go with the flow and accept the proposal, then do everything in my power to find a way out of the situation over the next couple of months. While making excuses to postpone the wedding date, I'd secretly inform all my friends, family, and neighbors that it's not happening, and act it all out until I find the right timing so that I can fly as far away from the bride as possible so that she doesn't come and kill me.


why not just tell her right away? why not tell her right after the proposal in private...
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Posted 12/16/14
I find them touching but you actually shouldn't do that, I know if someone proposed to me like that I COULDN'T"T say no.
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Posted 12/16/14
Ideally, I hope to have a bite of toast, think for minute, and say:

"Hey, we should get married."
"Yeah, sounds good."

And continue breakfast.

My dream girl. Alas, I fear I've set the bar too high.
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