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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/15/14
Edit: So I want to reformat this forum because I feel that, when I overlooked the original wording, I severely messed up what I intended on asking in the first place. Just to avoid any confusion, here's a better question:

Do you prefer to date people who like anime or consider themselves anime otaku? Is dating someone that likes anime a priority? (by that, I mean do you seek out those who are interested in anime; doesn't mean you have to turn away anyone who wants to date you, but doesn't care for anime). Do you think a mutual interest in anime can create a closer relationship or does it not matter? Does it bother you if you date someone who hates anime?

Or do you prefer to keep your interest in anime separate from your love life or simply do not care?

I apologize for my original wording; I could see how that didn't sound right.



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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/15/14
I've never been with anyone before but I would definitely want someone who likes anime. I don't want to limit myself though.
Posted 12/15/14
prioritize on who makes you happy and understand you
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I personally wouldn't limit myself like that, and i do believe having mutual interest are important however their are more than one thing people can have in common. If you really want to that for yourself go for it but remember you could be missing out on a lot of great people.
Posted 12/15/14
It would be nice but it really shouldn't be a priority. I don't see how you can build a serious relationship if the trait you most admire about your partner is that they like cartoons
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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/16/14
Don't limit yourself on one thing like that.

On the contrary, don't date someone who hates it either
Posted 12/15/14
Not necessary. I can go out with someone who hates it. Common interests don't matter to me.
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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/15/14
I do not go for people who just like anime/manga. I think it is better to have an open mind to dating otherwise finding that one person is harder. Also, as long as they can relate to you and understand you, you don't have to both like anime. Sometimes if they like you enough they will get into anime with you or watch some with you because they like/love you.

Also forcing someone into liking anime is a little...well...I wouldn't want someone to force me into doing something or watching something because they want to change me into someone else...

So if you really don't think you could deal with someone who doesn't watch anime/is an otaku, then I recommend dating people who are otakus or moderately like anime.

But, don't limit yourself. Some people who relate to you on an emotional level may not be in the realm of otaku. (If that's what you are looking for).

Hope this helped a bit.。◕ ‿ ◕。
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Posted 12/15/14
I don't necessarily believe you have to limit yourself to only looking at people who are into anime. You can have a perfectly good relationship with someone who isn't into EVERYTHING you are into, so long as the other person actually lets you do these hobbies. Maybe I am wording it weird so here is an example:
Example 1) I used to be roommate with girl A a couple of years ago. Girl A was in a committed relationship with Boy B. Boy B loved to play video games and rock music. Girl A did not like video games or rock music. Girl A told Boy B that he had to either stop playing video games and listening to rock music or being in a relationship with her. As a result Boy B now only plays video games when Girl A is out of town. They are married now, and as sad as it sounds, all of the friends who know both Girl A and Boy B have a bet going around on how long its going to last.

Example 2) I also know Girl C from work, she is in a relationship with Boy D. Girl C is into anime and LARP, Boy D is into heavymetal music and board games. Their hobbies are not exactly the same but when Boy D goes to play board games with his friends, Girl C LARPS. They may not be SUPER interested in the other's hobbies, but neither one is DENYING the other their activities.


Hint. You want to go with something like Example 2
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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/29/14
I have been in quite alot of relationships and by far the worse one was with a fellow anime Otaku.

However I am also a more lone wolf kind of person so i prefer to experience my hobbies alone most of the time.

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TheMagicSpoon wrote:
If you really want that for yourself go for it, but remember you could be missing out on a lot of great people.


I'm with this guy, having mutual interests is great, but limiting yourself to a select people is not good.

Actually, I think it's a little selfish to only want someone who is as into something as you.
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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/16/14
My boyfriend and I have flipped areas of specialty. I'm majorly into anime with a little gaming, and he's majorly into gaming with a little anime. It's nice because we can both relate to the other's common interests as well as share new things with each other.

I'm not sure if I would date someone who doesn't like anime. Would a person who doesn't understand my bouts of nerdiness typically interest me or connect with me? I mean, it's not like I'd hate the person, but the thought of me being all excited about something relating to anime and it going completely over his head kinda just sucks. Because I usually want to share those types of things with the person I love.

It's kind of a kill joy really. I have lots of friends that aren't into anime, and while they're amazing people whom I love to have in my life, I won't pretend it doesn't suck a little bit to have it seem like I'm speaking a foreign language to them when I talk about a major hobby/area of interest.

All that being said, liking anime is by no means a major relationship requirement or basis of outright rejection. But being able to relate to your loved ones and share common interests is a pretty nice thing to have.
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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/25/14
sometimes, i really want a girlfriend. then i realize, that i like being single. then i realize that i enjoy having sex. then im in quite a conundrum huh?
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Posted 12/15/14

-mockingbird wrote:

prioritize on who makes you happy and understand you


Exactly ^ that's all that matters
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Posted 12/15/14 , edited 12/16/14
Well my boyfriend isn't into anime or gaming like I am. He actually like sports and being outdoors. We really are different from each other. I mean he was a popular jock in high school and I was a nerdy band/ theater geek who loved anime. Two completely different people but some how we fit and are really good for each other. I mean I've dated guys who like anime but it never works out because their idea of romance is from Shonen anime most of the time and wasn't always appropriate or made me feel uncomfortable. Like I couldn't have a normal relationship because they tried to make it like an anime. It doesn't bother me though that my boyfriend doesn't like anime, I have tons of friends that do so really it's no problem.
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