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I'm pretty open about almost everything, and I kinda can't shut up (I've tried), so my friends and acquaintances know a lot about me and what goes on in my life. But this doesn't mean that I trust everyone just because I'm super open. Actually, I've been let down so many times that I don't trust people and I think I'm so open because I don't really have anyone I can confide all of my crap to...and as a result, everyone knows my business to an extent. What worries me is when I get close to people and they start hearing about ALL my crap. It worries me because the last person I trusted like that completely ruined my trust. (On a scale from 1 to 10 on how much they ruined my trust.....let's just say that number is approaching infinity.) And I'm not quite sure if I should have leaned on that person as much as I did. Maybe if I hadn't told them everything that was going on in my life, we would still be friends and crisis averted right?

But back to the point; I'm starting to lean more on some of my friends and I'm worried that it'll have the same outcome as the last time I trusted someone.

So. How much do you guys trust your friends? And when times are rough, who do you go to?
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I trust them to not backstab me but I wouldn't want to rely on them for anything important unless it is absolutely necessary. I have a few scratches on my back because of this but I'm pretty thick-skinned.
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もずかしですね。


The older I get, the more friends I lose and so be it I guess. They say I'm different now, that's not a bad thing. Don't rely on other people, they will fail you.

Keeping friends is difficult isn't it.
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AiYumega wrote:

もずかしですね。


The older I get, the more friends I lose and so be it I guess. They say I'm different now, that's not a bad thing. Don't rely on other people, they will fail you.

Keeping friends is difficult isn't it.


Tis is wise words, do not kindle on just one group forever, spread avast and walk the Earth.

Find true friends that you can keep, and stay from ones that you can't believe.
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I do trust my acquaintances to a degree i don't think they would steal from me or actively seek to harm me but that's about it.
I do trust my friend with my live.
Posted 12/16/14
One of my best friends, pretty much my best friend though I don't want to scare them off by telling them [though they should know]...

I told them there are no secrets from "me to you." It feels very nice having someone like that. I know, I should save that kind of closeness with a romantic partner, but I am single right now. Even so, they don't gossip about me, they are always there for me and I completely trust them.

It is scary. Many years back I was stung by trusting too readily, but when you meet someone kind enough to share those things with, it is nice. You just have to let those kind of friendships naturally build and not force it.

Best of luck. To protect yourself, perhaps wait on it when looking for a romantic partner? That way random friends wouldn't hurt you and just potentially one person [who you should probably trust the most anyways]. I think that's what I'll do from now on.
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There is not a single person on this planet that knows the true me, except for me. I'm very guarded in the real world and tend to go with whatever flow I'm thrust into just so I can get out of it with minimal effort. Online friends know me best since I can be more myself under the protection of somewhat anonymity. I let people think I trust them, but I don't.
Posted 12/16/14
I have a few friends I trust indefinitely. I have history with them that makes me trust them, and I do believe they trust me in turn. I know what makes them tick, what kind of people they are, and they know exactly what I am, too. I'm thankful I have people like that, because it really is hard to come by.

That said; Trust is a gamble, and you don't come by such friends without rolling the dice.
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it's pretty much ask, and i'll probably tell

fortunately most people only care about themselves and don't bother asking beyond the surface questions
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Friends? Don't you mean punching bags?

Oh yea, I have those. Stick'em on two ends of a bar. Benched a Jacob and a Sam yesterday. A Juliet and a Sara the day before.
Deadlifted Bobby. Squatted Trent.

Tis' the life of Kaizodo...
Posted 12/16/14
I'm a "go it alone" kind of person. It has nothing to do with trust, to be honest. I can trust people fairly easily. It's just the kind of person I turned out to be, I guess. I've always been and felt alone so I never really learned to rely on other people too much. I keep my problems and my secrets to myself at all times. Nobody knows my issues and I prefer to keep it that way.
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Posted 12/16/14

kaizodo wrote:

Friends? Don't you mean punching bags?

Oh yea, I have those. Stick'em on two ends of a bar. Benched a Jacob and a Sam yesterday. A Juliet and a Sara the day before.
Deadlifted Bobby. Squatted Trent.

Tis' the life of Kaizodo...


I Lol'd so hard at this because it's very true.
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I have a couple people I'd trust completely with my life and all. A few more that I trust to a decent extent. The rest of it is a crapshoot.
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Everyone had a lot of great things to say, and I don't really want to spam this topic with replies to everyone. And to be honest, I'm not sure what to say. It's definitely something that I need to contemplate and think about some more. I've definitely had my back stabbed more than a few times.
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If my friends were caught for organized crime where I was an accomplice who had managed to stay low, I'd be pretty confident to say that my name will be spilled within 1 hour of interrogation. At least for 95% of them.
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