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Post Reply To what extent can you trust your friends?
Posted 12/16/14
As I grow older, I trust people less.
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Posted 12/16/14 , edited 12/16/14
I have a best friend. Let me explain what that means. By "best friend"; I mean someone I can push down 30 flights of stairs, break every bone in his body, and we could both have a laugh about it when I call him in the hospital from my prison cell.

I hated his guts when we first met. Still do. So much so that I cant live without him. We both have the same dark and salty humor and we are so much alike that people mistake us for brothers. We Airsoft, go to the movies, make horrible jokes that even Daniel Tosh wouldn't even touch, and get drunk as lords just for fun.

Anime? He gets me "special anime" on request.
What's that? My car is busted? I got a guy for that.
Hey did you see the news? (Insert horrible, awful, dark joke here)

A women could dump me for him and we would still be tighter than Kamina and Simon. I should know because that actually happened. Got over it and now, after all the crap she put him through, I'm grateful and we laugh about it now! I think of him as a battle buddy I could not only to depend on for WWIII but start and WIN it as well. I may not know what marital love feels like but when my best friend tells me that I would be his best men instead of his own brother...well that gives me feelings my other married friends can only dream of as they deal with their nagging ladies! I guess his name is going down as my personal security question for my bank account. I thought that was nice of me till I found out he did the same thing for his. Now its almost gay so I'll stop there.
The question you ask shouldn't be "To what extent can you trust your friends?" In my case the question should be "To what extent would you still be friends?" and that...isn't a question I could answer.

Even after 30 flights of stairs.

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Posted 12/16/14
Ive learned not to put so much trust into friends. This "friend" of mine was the only person i would actually be open with, no one else. In the end he used it against me and stabbed me in the back. Since then Im back to keeping to myself.i feel its better that way.
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Posted 12/16/14 , edited 12/16/14
Not to the extent where they lead me to a trap.

"Hey, Nacchi. There's a phone call waiting for you?"

"Ok!"

**gets in the room**

WHAM!!

Pie on the face.





Oh, I hate antiquing.
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Posted 12/16/14
that depends on what kind of friend they are too me and how close we are
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Posted 12/16/14
I can count the best friends I have on one hand and all the people I trust on two hands.

There are just some things I do NOT trust people with....

I have never had a multitude of friends except when I was younger.

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Posted 12/16/14
I'm pretty open about everything. I generally only trust my friends with stuff that would implicate me if I have something worse on them.

But after an incident with nearly $3,000 I'll never see again, I'm never loaning them any money.
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Posted 12/16/14
I used to have a lot of friends, but when push came to shove through a couple of circumstances, one possibly involving a stranger with a gun, I found out they were just acquaintances. I now can count only 3. Three that I know would do whatever it takes for me, willing to do jail time or stepping in front of a truck. People that truly care for you.

Those are friends. So I can honestly say I trust those guys with my life wholly and undoubtedly to do whatever it took for me and I have and will forever do the same for them.
Posted 12/17/14
I trust my friends as far as I can throw them, so, not very far. I have a handful of friends irl offline I can depend upon and trust.



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Posted 12/17/14 , edited 12/17/14
I don't trust people. Usually when I tell my friends stuff, they tell other people. It bothers me. I don't really talk to them that much anymore since I started college though.
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The trust is strong. When I am with them, I can drink until I pass out in public places knowing that even if I do that, one of them will make sure I have all my stuff and will make sure I make it home safely. Sounds burdensome, but that's what friends are for, right? Haha, I don't always do this, of course.

I normally keep to myself when it comes to my own problems unless I am so emotionally charged I need to talk (rare). I prefer to meet in person rather than talk online.
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Posted 12/17/14
Not at all because I have few and the alleged ones i have had have betrayed me. Only a handful can really be trusted of people i "know".
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Posted 12/17/14
My best friends are loud mouths tbh. I know what and what not to share with them. They've never betrayed me because I stay quiet.
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Posted 12/17/14
I've got a handful of friends that I would trust with almost anything - if I needed to. Generally speaking, though, I'm not the type that shares my problems. Almost everything can be either dismissed or solved with the proper planning; telling people both results in awkward conversations and hinders any solution strategies I might develop with extra variables. That or, in the worst (and most common) scenario, gets other people worked up about something that I'll just shrug off after a little while anyway. For example, I've got a couple friends who continued to talk bad about my ex months after we broke up, and after I had explained to them that we're still on very good terms.

In that way, I suppose one of the reasons I can trust these guys so much is that I'm pretty apathetic. I've had roommates up and disappear, disconnecting the internet and vandalizing the house with a week left on the lease, and a guy run a red light and hit my car, then get me blamed for it. But my response was to have minor anxiety attacks for a day or two, then summarily shrug it off, fix the damages, and get back to what's important to me: making sure I have free time. The "betrayal" I have to worry about most with my friends is that they might want me to do them favors too often - and even then, it usually means spending time with them, so it's not like I'm not enjoying myself at all.

There are a lot of problems that you can deal with simply by not caring. ("You had to rob me of all people? This is not my day, huh? I'd appreciate if you didn't spend this on drugs.") When you've got little to lose by trusting people, you trust them more easily, which means they're more willing to trust you back in return, and that's how lasting friendships are made. Nowadays, if anything major happened, I'm almost positive that my friends and I would have others' backs. I've been close to many of my friends for about a decade now: those ones, I know I can trust. I've had some friends betray me (like said roommates), but it's not valuable to generalize people as bad or good. And hey, if they do betray me, then I don't need to go through the hassle of pre-emptively cutting off from them: they'll start avoiding me all on their own. Avoiding the drama alone almost makes it worth it.
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Posted 12/17/14
i dont really trust anyone. life kinda beat that outta me.
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