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Posted 12/17/14
I have to trust people more than I'd prefer to, and not nearly as much as I'd want to be able to.
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Posted 12/17/14

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If my friends were caught for organized crime where I was an accomplice who had managed to stay low, I'd be pretty confident to say that my name will be spilled within 1 hour of interrogation. At least for 95% of them.


haha so true right. this is why I don't have any friends.
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I trust my circle of closest friends with everything. I'd trust them with my life if I had too.
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I had some friends who stabbed me in the back and left. A decade later, they came back to apologize and gave me legitimate holiday gifts.

Huh.
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Posted 12/18/14
Even within those I consider to be close, I expect betrayal. I had a circle of people I deemed close and trusted when I started college, of those, 3 remain, and I only got back into their graces this year. I'm not sure I can trust, but I will say that I get pleasant surprises when people decide to stick to their word or invite me out.
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Well said.

I don't tend to tell anything to new friends, until they tell me something. Be it problems or something that they haven't been able to tell anyone else. For me, that means they trust me enough to not tell anyone, so that means that they understand the value of keeping secrets. I haven't made any new friends in a while, but I trust my current ones with all my heart. The longest I've been friends with someone, and I hope it continues, is 7 and 1/2 years. We have this joke that if one of us were to come up to our door with a dead body, the first thing that'd we do is get a shovel and then help hide it, no questions asked.

I really think that finding good friends are like finding the right person to get married too. You constantly get the wrong ones, and then when you finally find the right one, you try your hardest to keep them.
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Posted 12/18/14
To me personally a friend is nothing more than an acquaintance, really. I've never gotten closer to a person in that respect other than my "best friend" that I had when I was little, who I used to 'sometimes' hang out with over at their house and my house as well. I wouldn't trust my recent friends with my money, or my belongings; my laptop to be specific.

I do prefer to keep them separate from my Online life, though specifically because I don't wish to be judged as I'm WAY more open on here for example than I am in the Cafeteria or some Tim Hortons. It's probably due to some problems on my own end, but either way, yeah.

That's all I can think of to say on the subject.
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Posted 12/18/14
I trust my friends enough to not throw me off a bridge, BUT I will be there to take bullets..Just not bridged lfmao
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I don't share things that could end up backfiring on me with anybody. My friends are intelligent, and if they were in a situation that could hurt them enough, I would expect them to rat me out for their gain. And of course I would do the same. I've never been in a situation like that and hopefully never will, but I do not expect people to hurt themselves to save me.

I also believe that some things shouldn't be shared with other people at all. Don't put people in sticky situations because you told them something they didn't need to know. Sometimes people set themselves up to get stabbed in the back because they share too much info that people don't need nor want to know. And that's nobody's fault but yours.
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Well, it really depends from person to person. If it is someone I have known for quite a long time, then I can pretty much depend on them. If they are super-intelligent, then I can also trust them. But there are a few bad apples out there that just are not trustworthy at all, and for that I'm not exactly trusting of them. So pretty much it's a person-by-person kind of thing for me and it depends on my comfort zone as well.
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Posted 12/18/14
I don't really trust people due to past experiences...but I guess there are degrees of things I will tell people.
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It depends on the person that is worth trustworthy. Though, it takes a lot of experience. It's like playing on a lottery to see who's good or who's bad. And it's never easy to find one. If your desperately looking for someone to be friends with, choose wisely and be careful.
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Posted 12/18/14
If I had friends. *sadface*
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Posted 12/19/14
friends lol, #foreveralone. I only ever considered 2 people to be my friends, one of them is 2000miles away and other I've not seen for over 4 years; if either would ask me for a favor I would never refuse it. But I treat most people very coldly and I've set expectations from them and vice versa, this mostly applies to work colleges though.
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Posted 12/19/14
I used to feel I had about 20 friends and like 50 acquantances in high school. Thinking back these days many years ago I realize by an adult way of thinking it was more 1 friend and 69 acquantances. I realized that a true friend is the only one you can really trust, if you're not quite sure you can trust someone they're just an acquantance. Even today I have many acquantances but only 1 friend (who I refer to as my brother) who I'd trust with my life. His opinion matters more than any of the others ever should. It's in quality, not quantity. A true friend will accept you for what you are but also won't hesitate to tell you when you're wrong or making a fool out of yourself without telling everyone in the group as well.
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