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Do you believe in such a form of intelligence? Do you think it matters? Can Emotional Intelligence compensate for a lack of other kinds of intelligence?

I was trying to explain emotional intelligence to a Japanese friend of mine after he pointed out that I could understand a lot of subtle nuances to Japanese people and the way they talk, whereas another friend who watches just as much anime could not. Simply put, that is the situation. There is more to it than that, of course, but this is it stripped to the bare.

I failed miserably until I stumbled upon this gem, born from the coal mine that is my brain.

'Think of it in RPG terms. Intelligence, or INT, would be how smart your character is. Emotional Intelligence, which is understanding and perceiving the emotions of others, would be like Charisma, or CHA. INT is how smart you are, but CHA is how well you interact with others.'

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Hmm.. wouldn't emotional intelligence basically be the same thing as Social intelligence?
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Emotional Intelligence is like understanding how that particular person feels. It's pretty easy to tell by looking at them, and it depends on the person whether it matters or not. Or in fact, depending on how they feel about certain things.
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I can generally tell someone's emotional state while talking to them but on the other hand I can't really convey my emotion very well at all... that shit is difficult.
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I think this is what you are looking for.

I think it is important to be empathetic. I try to be empathetic. Most people are not fully logical beings. Even though I aspire to be, I must admit I myself am not either. That is why it is important to understand this illogical behavior and to minimize destructive results.

All forms of intelligence are important. Knowledge is power.
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The way I see it, "emotional intelligence" isn't going to get us genetically engineered catgirls, so I don't consider it a true "intelligence".

That being said, I think emotional intelligence and being able to KY are more like learned behaviors than traits.
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Emotional intelligence or social intelligence would be the same thing. You can have a high IQ and be able to understand complicated concepts but as in the instance of Aspergers you are unable to read people to understand the subtleties of relationships. So you can sound quite intelligent but due to the lack of interpersonal skills your life can be restricted,( friendship, romance, even employment).
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HollowHokage wrote:


NintendoFan05 wrote:

Emotional Intelligence is like understanding how that particular person feels. It's pretty easy to tell by looking at them, and it depends on the person whether it matters or not. Or in fact, depending on how they feel about certain things.


Understanding as in sympathy or understanding as in comprehending? Because I usually don't have sympathy.


I read your posts during your conversation with Nid. And I'd say the exact same thing he saids. Even I've been through periods like this. Like Nid says, you'll make it though as you find new friends. Do your best to finding someone who's nice enough to interact. And remember, we all know it's not easy finding someone who's worth getting a long with. So I strongly prefer to stay away from people who's basically makes your life even more miserable.
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Well, I am an INTP according to the Myers Briggs Personality thingy. We do perceive more than judge.
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No, I don't believe in emotional intelligence.
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Phersu wrote:

Do you believe in such a form of intelligence? Do you think it matters? Can Emotional Intelligence compensate for a lack of other kinds of intelligence?

I was trying to explain emotional intelligence to a Japanese friend of mine after he pointed out that I could understand a lot of subtle nuances to Japanese people and the way they talk, whereas another friend who watches just as much anime could not. Simply put, that is the situation. There is more to it than that, of course, but this is it stripped to the bare.

I failed miserably until I stumbled upon this gem, born from the coal mine that is my brain.

'Think of it in RPG terms. Intelligence, or INT, would be how smart your character is. Emotional Intelligence, which is understanding and perceiving the emotions of others, would be like Charisma, or CHA. INT is how smart you are, but CHA is how well you interact with others.'

Discuss!


It sounds like you are trying to describe empathy. The ability to understand another person's emotions.

The Japanese are subtle. It is in their very nature. There is a lot that goes into it, but transience is a big part of social makeup. And understanding that is to understand the subtle emotions and feelings that go into everyday life in Japan. It is not impossible to pick up a lot of this through watching Anime and talking to people who have lived in Japan. But some empathy does always help. Just as it helps in any person to person interaction. Because it can help pick up on those subtle emotions and feelings.

It is everywhere though. Politicians and people in the news are generally very empathic people. Because it helps them sway a crowd by picking up on and manipulating those emotions. When someone talks about "working a crowd" that generally involves the use of empathy to read the crowd and understand at least at a subconscious level, how the crowd is emotionally reacting.

But can it replace anything else? I would argue not really. At best you can be someone's best friend. But intelligence is a lot more than just empathy. Your dog is empathic after all. Being human is a lot more than that. Although not having empathy at all is usually not seen as a good thing either. Your average psychopath has little empathy for example, which is why they genereally do not have a conscious. Because they cannot understand the very concept of other.
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