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As a senior college student who watches anime, studies hard, and uses any remaining time to go workout (to maintain a physical build), for me at least, there is hardly any time to be thinking about.... Dating, seeing others, or finding suitable mates.

As we all grow older, I cannot help but think more and more people, which could be our suitable mates, get taken. Choices start to falter... as the number of people whom we could have chosen are taken.

Of course, many here will also say, "but the one for you is still out there" or "there are still many people out there".

Regardless of these comments which may or may not be true. I would like to bring out a topic that has been troubling me for some time.


Lets just talk logic for a min. (I hope to get both female and male answers).


Let me define first:
By hot girls and guys, I mean attractiveness ... ......yes the question of hot and attractiveness is subjective but I do believe there are some who are just regarded widely as attractive, you know, fords magazine, GQ, etc, Hottest woman of the century mags, Most handsome rugged guy of the year, etc.

So based on my thought process...there are a set amount of really attractive guys and girls in the world and some who are less attractive..

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As time passes, aren't hot guys or hot girls taken by process of elimination? Aren't they the first to get taken? and probably not up for grabs anymore?

I"m sitting here thinking...wow.. i'm almost about to get a job and i'm in my prime... Between high school and almost now at the end of college... thats a lot of time.. Are all of the really really attractive girls all taken and dating?

Not that i'm trying to sound like an ass, i'm not saying I have to or need to have someone attractive, but this idea above^ I'm hoping to understand the situation better and I want to hear all of your opinion guys!

Cheers!
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Posted 1/2/15 , edited 22 days ago
I think it depends on if you're truly ready to date and find someone to settle down with. Yes there are celebrities (and fictional characters) that the majority define as "hot", but everyone is an individual and people differ in things that they like (in a person). I've never had a boyfriend (and I just went on my first date a few months ago with a guy I literally met 2 weeks before then... awkward but we're still friends lol), and I honestly don't think I need one. I'm satisfied with my family and friends and am working on my college degree and my job.

So to answer your question, the hot people aren't taken... the world is big and you might agree with someone that someone that is taken is hot, but that doesn't mean there's not a hot person somewhere. I mean, it's very unlikely, but it happens; someone you think is very ugly can be super hot to someone else. But if a girl you think is hot is hot to a lot of other people and she's taken, then try talking to her and become her friend first. Maybe she's actually dating a douche and realizes you're better (it can happen). Your personal hot girl is out there, you just need the right time, mental state, and to focus more on what you like personality wise in a significant other. I mean, looks catch your eye first, but would you want to be with a "hot" girl with a bitchy personality? Maybe for a little bit, but that will fizzle out fast.

Wow this was long xD Hope this answers your question? Sincerely, the-never-been-in-a-relationship-but-really-observant-person-that-gives-a-lot-of-good-romantic-advice-to-friends-somehow-and-has-had-crushes-on-people
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I still think there is plenty of hot ppl in the sea. Not all are taken by process of elimination some ppl actually go for the ppl they truly like rather than the hot person.
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Relationships are a load of shit if you ask me, especially if they evolve into marriage. The man married her because she is a trophy, and the woman married him because she wants his money. It isn't until it's too late that the marriage begins to fail and they realize there isn't any love.

But then I read MoxiRoxi's post (some of it), and I will warn you, OP, not to take what I say as absolute truth. You're 20, right? That's what your age is read as, anyway, beneath your avatar. You still have your youth. Your time will come. Until then, just focus on the more important things like college and work and all that. Try not to be bogged down if you see couples sharing their affections towards each other wherever you go, because though you're alone, you might just be better off, until that time comes.
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you are still young son. you got time.
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If you simply want to date a hot girl, I'm sure eventually you'll find one who isn't dating who might be willing to date you, given you sift through enough people. That said, basing who you date entirely on physical appearance probably isn't the best idea. Plus, youth and vigor will go away, that hot girl probably won't look 20 forever.

Unless you're both sparkly vampires.
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Process of elimination? I guess. However, people tend to go for someone in or above their league. Usually the cute, popular couples are in each other's league. Let's say one of your average male classmates is chasing after the one of the prettiest girls on the volleyball varsity team, but then she's after the quarterback on the football team. Most likely, the girl will end up with the quarterback (just pretend all three of them are nice people lol). Rather than process of elimination, it's more like those "find the matching cards" game. There are 18 people (18 cards), 9 boys, 9 girls (2 of each number of any of the four suits). Match this card with a different number, it won't work out. Pretend the numbers each represented the person's looks on a scale of 2-10 (2 being least attractive, 10 being most attractive). Find the 7 for the other 7, then those cards are eliminated. Don't take anything I'm saying as an offense, I'm not trying to say that person is more attractive than you. I'm saying the person who's in the same league as the other usually makes the better pair. However, that doesn't work out all the time. It also matters in personality and everything. So now, reread my card game example except change it to "attractiveness and personality" than just "attractiveness."
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Something tells me you live in a small world, op.
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Tell you what OP, finish up college; start making craploads of money and you will most definitely find a hottie who is willing to be with you(for your money only unfortunately, or she will make you a cuckold of some sort)
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No, I would argue that they are not the first to be taken because these hotter people always believe they have many options. There isn't a need to settle for one when you get to be picky.

I once heard somewhere that attractive women are less likely to get married because they believe they can get married anytime they want--thereby putting off marriage.
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Posted 1/3/15 , edited 1/12/15
Girls with glasses, those are nice
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Gross1985 wrote:

Relationships are a load of shit if you ask me, especially if they evolve into marriage. The man married her because she is a trophy, and the woman married him because she wants his money. It isn't until it's too late that the marriage begins to fail and they realize there isn't any love.

But then I read MoxiRoxi's post (some of it), and I will warn you, OP, not to take what I say as absolute truth. You're 20, right? That's what your age is read as, anyway, beneath your avatar. You still have your youth. Your time will come. Until then, just focus on the more important things like college and work and all that. Try not to be bogged down if you see couples sharing their affections towards each other wherever you go, because though you're alone, you might just be better off, until that time comes.


what a utilitarian view of marriage
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Gross1985 wrote:
Relationships are a load of shit if you ask me, especially if they evolve into marriage. The man married her because she is a trophy, and the woman married him because she wants his money. It isn't until it's too late that the marriage begins to fail and they realize there isn't any love.

But then I read MoxiRoxi's post (some of it), and I will warn you, OP, not to take what I say as absolute truth. You're 20, right? That's what your age is read as, anyway, beneath your avatar. You still have your youth. Your time will come. Until then, just focus on the more important things like college and work and all that. Try not to be bogged down if you see couples sharing their affections towards each other wherever you go, because though you're alone, you might just be better off, until that time comes.

what a utilitarian view of marriage

Don't get me wrong; it is sad that that's how marriage is these days. A long time ago, it used to be a union between two people, a sworn love to each other for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. But the reality is that it endows economic privileges, and statistics show that divorce rates are higher than marriage duration.

Another baffling thing is the cause for divorce. I can speak from personal experience, in concern to my parents being divorced; my dad's reason was because he just didn't want to be married anymore. This news came to me and my brother on December 14, 1999, and on February 14, 2003, both my mom and dad legally became strangers. Worth mentioning also is that my dad didn't want to say it in person, so I guess he's a coward. I don't know if his reason falls into the category of "irreconcilable differences". All I know is that his reason is pitiful.....but then again, the way I was raised was under the belief that marriage is a sacred thing, a holy union between a man and a woman (or, to coincide with this day and age, two people), so because I can't grasp justifying a divorce for half-assed reasons, I guess my views of life are bankrupt, and I need to get with the times or something.
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Gross1985 wrote:


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Gross1985 wrote:
Relationships are a load of shit if you ask me, especially if they evolve into marriage. The man married her because she is a trophy, and the woman married him because she wants his money. It isn't until it's too late that the marriage begins to fail and they realize there isn't any love.

But then I read MoxiRoxi's post (some of it), and I will warn you, OP, not to take what I say as absolute truth. You're 20, right? That's what your age is read as, anyway, beneath your avatar. You still have your youth. Your time will come. Until then, just focus on the more important things like college and work and all that. Try not to be bogged down if you see couples sharing their affections towards each other wherever you go, because though you're alone, you might just be better off, until that time comes.

what a utilitarian view of marriage

Don't get me wrong; it is sad that that's how marriage is these days. A long time ago, it used to be a union between two people, a sworn love to each other for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. But the reality is that it endows economic privileges, and statistics show that divorce rates are higher than marriage duration.

Another baffling thing is the cause for divorce. I can speak from personal experience, in concern to my parents being divorced; my dad's reason was because he just didn't want to be married anymore. This news came to me and my brother on December 14, 1999, and on February 14, 2003, both my mom and dad legally became strangers. Worth mentioning also is that my dad didn't want to say it in person, so I guess he's a coward. I don't know if his reason falls into the category of "irreconcilable differences". All I know is that his reason is pitiful.....but then again, the way I was raised was under the belief that marriage is a sacred thing, a holy union between a man and a woman (or, to coincide with this day and age, two people), so because I can't grasp justifying a divorce for half-assed reasons, I guess my views of life are bankrupt, and I need to get with the times or something.


I agree with you; as a person who has yet to see a successful marriage I can understand the reasoning of having a pessimistic view of marriage in the modern world. I just hope that these personal examples are the exception and not the rule.

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