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Posted 1/5/15
I will admit that I am insecure about this due to I have a rare type of eating disorder called; Selective Eating Disorder.
In short terms, I can only eat five things. Feel free to ask me questions to clarify.

Questions I have are as listed:

1. Would you feel awkward going to each other family to dine during a cookout, holiday events, etc to find out there is one thing he or she can eat?

2. Would you feel awkward to go out to eat as a date?

3. As a guy, women would you feel bad to know that he cannot eat special meals you cooked for special events?

Thank you for your honest replies!
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unless i am in love with the woman then no i would not date someone with an eating disorder.because usually an eating disorder can be a symptom of a much larger(s) issue(S)
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Such a difficult question.
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1. Wouldn't really feel awkward as long as we have fun.
2. No, I'm the type of person who just wants to go somewhere close by, or has cheap food so I don;t really care where we would go. Also, if they are awkward then we wouldn't need to go out to eat as a date.
3. I'm a guy, but if I was a women I would be cool with that since that means I only have to be good at cooking five dishes.
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Idk, to pay less or to make them suffer with hunger?
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Probably not, if I liked you and I got to know you.

I tend to put up with a lot of shit, and have a thousand little quirks of my own.

Problem is dating these days is a quick and dirty, over and done proceedure where you don't get the time to know people.

Dealing with the issue, I'd probably ask occasionally to try different things, but that's because I;m big on living vicariously through and with others, and it might put a bit of a damper on that, but on the flip side, it would be easier to stock the fridge,
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Posted 1/5/15 , edited 1/5/15

serifsansserif wrote:

Probably not, if I liked you and I got to know you.

I tend to put up with a lot of shit, and have a thousand little quirks of my own.

Problem is dating these days is a quick and dirty, over and done proceedure where you don't get the time to know people.

Dealing with the issue, I'd probably ask occasionally to try different things, but that's because I;m big on living vicariously through and with others, and it might put a bit of a damper on that, but on the flip side, it would be easier to stock the fridge, :P


EDIT: Shit. It's a guy? as a hetero male, it may be a bit awkward to rescind the whole dating thing but trust me, it's not your eating disorder that doesn't make you my type. lol.

I don't think it's impossible for you to find love, I just know it's not going to be easy, particularly for how quickly things are expected to progress while dating, and how often little things can make or break relationships. Still, that's a criticism of today's society more than anything else.
Posted 1/5/15 , edited 1/5/15
I have and didnt mind at all. I'm not easily embarrassed unless they do something really off the wall. There was no awkward moments unless you make it out to be one. And only reason the relationship didn't work out is because I dumped him as he cheated on me.
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Well I don't necessarily have an eating disorder per se', but rather a medical condition that only allows me to eat small amounts of a certain food, otherwise risk catastrophic spasms. I also have a higher than normal metabolism, so still no matter how much I eat, I lose weight..
Currently 49 kgs. Explains why nobody ever really gives me a second glance.

Anyway, I can still understand why someone would not want to date someone with an eating disorder, despite how I think it's kind of cruel.. But I'd never date anyone period, so what do I know? : P
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I do not believe I can because as someone who necessarily dealt with a family member being mentally unstable a lot of my life and especially as a recovering codependent, I need stability in my life. I don't think I have the strength to help somebody who carries that burden, and personally, I don't think they should commit to a relationship until they are willing to help themselves and get help from a professional with the support of their family.
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OP, only until recently have people found that what you have may, in fact, be an actual disorder. But if it is an actual disorder, this may be good for people with it. People can then, in general, be kinder and more understanding to those who eat only a small, select amount of foods, as for decades people thought this was only people being 'super picky' and nothing more.

OP, what are the select foods you eat, and what are you willing to drink?
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No, not even if I liked the person. As someone mentioned above, an ED can be a symptom of larger issues and I've known people first hand who have an ED and a boatload of other problems. I don't really have the patience for it.
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OP, you should clarify in the opening post: Is the question of the thread about whether people would date anyone with any type of eating disorder, or just the one in specific (that being the certain eating disorder you have)?
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To be honest, the only reason I'd feel awkward is that I'd be worried about making them uncomfortable. If I like someone, I like someone. I'd try to understand and be supportive of their potential attempts to get help.
I wouldn't get embarrassed at cookouts or dates, I'd just be like, "Hey, are you okay in this situation?"
I mean, if people ask, we can just say, "Allergies, don't worry, we have our own packed meal!"
So yeah, I'd totally date someone like that, my only concern would be their well-being
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If I love her no disorder or sickness will stand in the way of that
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