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I just want to extend my thank you for all who replied with honestly. I understand the both sides of the party; however, I do not feel weird about my eating disorder amongst others who do not have it. I accept it is a part of me, and I do not have any deeper issues as some stereotypes through experience suggest. To clarify, I meant awkward from your perspective. Feel free to ask me any additional questions!


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OP, what are the select foods you eat, and what are you willing to drink?


Foods:
1. Brown/White Rice Only
2. White Meat Chicken (Spicy, Original) flavors only
3. French Fries
4. Ramen Noodles (Spicy, Oriental, Chicken, Chicken Mushroom) flavors only
5. Bread (Any type except for Garlic)

Drinks:
1. Soda, but I no longer drink Soda
2. Alcohol, Just about any
3. Orange Juice
4. Soy Milk (Chocolate Flavor only)
5. H20


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I am dating someone with Selective Eating Disorder. Luckily, it's things that are easily found like pizza, fries, chicken. He's picky within his limits. It's about texture and smell and it can't be complicated. He likes simple foods.

It does bother me, but I feel like SED is more of a physical thing than mental. An eating disorder like anorexia or bulimia is kind of another matter. As someone who has ED NOS (eating disorder that doesn't fit exactly into labeled eating disorders like anorexia), I can see the difference.

I would date someone with an ED as long as they're making an effort to change. Also, if I've been with them for a long time and love them very much. Those are the two situations where I would, probably.


Thank you for sharing your relationship experience with someone who has the same disorder as I. SED is indeed more physical than mental but physical deals with taste, smell, food texture feel in hand or in mouth as well as the look of the food. I did seek psychological help when I was young through my parents thought the same, but the psychologist was unable to resolve the issue. Currently, there are studies going on about SED, but there is no cure for it at this time.



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Awaken_Riceball, you should talk to your doctor about taking supplements to ensure better health in the long run. Discuss with him or her whether you should be taking some sort of fiber supplement daily and discuss with them whether you should be taking a multivitamin of some sort and discuss with them which one in specific you should be taking (talk to doctors about this, if you take medications, not all multivitamins are good for some people if they are on certain meds; certain meds can conflict with vitamins/minerals found in certain multivitamins).

Meds can conflict with certain vitamins or dietary minerals, or other things. For example, herbal supplements...I was on a medication years ago and I asked them if I can take an herbal supplement called ginko biloba, and the doctors said "No, don't take it with your medication, it will give you bad and unpleasant side effects and be harmful".
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Awaken_Riceball, you should talk to your doctor about taking supplements to ensure better health in the long run. Discuss with him or her whether you should be taking some sort of fiber supplement daily and discuss with them whether you should be taking a multivitamin of some sort and discuss with them which one in specific you should be taking (talk to doctors about this, if you take medications, not all multivitamins are good for some people if they are on certain meds; certain meds can conflict with vitamins/minerals found in certain multivitamins).

Meds can conflict with certain vitamins or dietary minerals, or other things. For example, herbal supplements...I was on a medication years ago and I asked them if I can take an herbal supplement called ginko biloba, and the doctors said "no, don't take it with your medication, it will give you bad and unpleasant side effects and be harmful".


I did most of the research on my own. I found most multivitamins does nothing. I take fish and flaxseed oil daily. Furthermore, I eat wheat or multigrain bread daily. I take no medications as well.
Herbal supplements, I drink citrus herbal tea. The last time I visited a doctor, she said my blood pressure is normal, and my heart rate is at 62 to her surprise. It is related to my Martial Arts, Gym, and I work at a college as an IT Tech / Network Specialist; therefore, I get good exercise walking all over campus
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I had a friend like that and it was awkward as hell talking to her about food and shit. She would always try to stray from our conversations when it involved food.
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I had a friend like that and it was awkward as hell talking to her about food and shit. She would always try to stray from our conversations when it involved food.


I feel the same; however, I do not mind listening to others talk about food, but do not talk to me about food as I am unable to relate. An exception, of course, if food talk relates to my selective eating disorder, then I do not mind.
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If I truly love them,it wouldn't really matter. I should stand by them in times of crisis/sickness.
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It would all depend on love
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ha... well someone dated me when i was diagnosed, and... well, i don't think i could do the same lol
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Nobody's perfect. No matter who you date, you'll always come across unique flaws. Part of being in a relationship is accepting your partner's flaws. If I wanted to date a girl and she had an eating disorder, I wouldn't let that bother me or stop me from dating her.
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Interesting, hope you dont mind if I play Psychologist. So i'm fairly familiar with SED, and was happy when the DSM V switched the criteria to include adults.

Since you are 25, were you diagnosed recently? Or was this a continuance from Adolescence?

Does your SED stem from anxiety, or physiological problems? - I'd also be curious to know how OCD you are lol, I remember reading a case study on a SED patient with OCD, which is a common co-disorder (along with Autism).

Why 5 things though? Certain food groups I get, I understand only certain textures...but what is YOUR case? Feel free to ignore me if this is too personal btw, I have my minor in Psychology so these things interest me! ------I saw you answered your 5 foods in a previous answer so scratch that.

To add some genuine thought, I don't think it would be awkward. In fact, I think it puts you in an advantageous position, you can cook special meals for her even when she knows you cant eat it (brownie points). People are pretty tolerable of others who have genuine disorders as well.
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Interesting, hope you dont mind if I play Psychologist. So i'm fairly familiar with SED, and was happy when the DSM V switched the criteria to include adults.

Since you are 25, were you diagnosed recently? Or was this a continuance from Adolescence?

Does your SED stem from anxiety, or physiological problems? - I'd also be curious to know how OCD you are lol, I remember reading a case study on a SED patient with OCD, which is a common co-disorder (along with Autism).

Why 5 things though? Certain food groups I get, I understand only certain textures...but what is YOUR case? Feel free to ignore me if this is too personal btw, I have my minor in Psychology so these things interest me! ------I saw you answered your 5 foods in a previous answer so scratch that.

To add some genuine thought, I don't think it would be awkward. In fact, I think it puts you in an advantageous position, you can cook special meals for her even when she knows you cant eat it (brownie points). People are pretty tolerable of others who have genuine disorders as well.


I also have a minor in psychology so this will be fun :)

Since you are 25, were you diagnosed recently? Or was this a continuance from Adolescence?

Answer: I am 24, and I was not diagnosed recently. I researched it and everything the research states is what I feel; therefore, it is a correlation or most likely the cause. It is a continuance from adolescence.

Does your SED stem from anxiety, or physiological problems? - I'd also be curious to know how OCD you are lol, I remember reading a case study on a SED patient with OCD, which is a common co-disorder (along with Autism).

Answer: No, my SED no longer stem from anxiety or physiological problems. I have accepted it is part of me, and cope with it. I am not OCD at all.

Why 5 things though? Certain food groups I get, I understand only certain textures...but what is YOUR case? Feel free to ignore me if this is too personal btw, I have my minor in Psychology so these things interest me! ------I saw you answered your 5 foods in a previous answer so scratch that.


Answer: Indeed, it is texture. In addition, it also stems from the 4/5 senses such as taste, smell, looks and feel. If it smells funky, then I have this pitfall feeling in my stomach. If I taste it (rarely), then I will gag and most likely throw up like I am possessed by a demon. If the food looks unusual, gruesome, etc, then I get that pitfall feeling as well. If it feels funny like pizza, then I will immediately get that feeling like I want to throw up.

I am going to bed now, and if you have more questions, then I will answer it tomorrow morning or evening
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Really haha? Go us! Well at least you have coped well with it, glad to see someone overcome adversity!
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Such a difficult question.


Difficult for me to answer as well.
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I myself have an eating disorder and because of that I can only eat very few things and I must say, never call me picky or I will honestly punch you in the gut.
but I myself would date someone with an eating disorder if I loved them and they loved me.
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For me, I think it would depend on the eating disorder in question. Anorexia or bulimia for example, requires a lot of emotional support from the people around you and I'm not sure if I would be able to commit to a relationship that involves something so heavy.

SED on the other hand wouldn't bother me much at all. I personally hate vegetables and get the same gag reflex whenever lettuce or any other green plant-thing is involved (I have no idea why). People who know me understand this and they might poke fun at me but they order their salads and I get my burger and we all get along just fine. Everyone has weird quirks and eating (or not eating) certain foods is one of them. However, I do like to try weird and exotic foods so that might be an issue since I try to get other people to eat it too, but that's about it.
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