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Let me start.
Boys Love/Yaoi is sort of a social stigma in America. As a result, many girls (or boys--hey I know you guys exist) hide their interests in the genre.

Which leads to the question....

1.Do you tell your friends you like BL?
Why or why not?

2. Would you ever consider telling others about your interests?
Why or why not?
If your friend were interested in the genre, what would you recommend to them?

3.Why do you think the interest in BL/Yaoi is so looked down upon in our society?

Lastly,
What are your fave BL/Yaoi manga/anime?

Have fun:) And please be nice to each other.

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1. I do not tell my friends I like BL. It just never comes up in conversation. Though if asked if I liked the genre, I would say yeah. And if the other person is supportive..I would say (hey let's be friends shall we?) --I met some of my good friends that way.

2. I have considered telling my friends about my interests. Though if they don't seem like the type to like the genre I keep it to myself.

A person who is just getting into BL/Yaoi--I would recommend: Seven Days or anything by Junko. (Nice, fluffy stuff)

3. In my opinion, people have bad conceptions about yaoi. They think its about rape and just a mystical girl fantasy. Which holds true for some series...not all of them. BL/Yaoi is interesting to some and not to others. I get that. But the genre shouldn't be looked down upon. All genres...yaoi, yuri, hentai, ecchi, shounen, shojo, romance, slice of life--All have their merits. People should enjoy what they like. Let people be happy.

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Yeah, though, it's same with just liking anime, gaming, or anything "childish" in society. My friend and I were approached at a small trade show by another vendor and she was feeling out if we were into anime and all that. It was a hush-hush, dropping key-words, kinda of initial exchange. But once it was established that we were into the same fandoms, we opened up to each other.

1. Those who are into anime/manga, they all pretty much know, so I don't have a problem with telling them (though, there may one or two who are "don't ask, don't tell"). When I came out in high school (that I liked anime/manga), BL/yaoi just came naturally with it. Those who I meet afterwards, I tell them if it comes up.

2. If it comes up in a conversation, I tell them I'm into it, but I phrase it depending on the other person's maturity level. Meeting new people, my default setting is to bare all, put it out that I'm interest in what (and BL is the least weirdest thing I'm into). If they flee, then that is one less person to deal with. I only pause in mentioning it if I have a friend who is adamantly against it (or anything), but we share enough other interests that it doesn't hinder our friendship. But I rarely make friends like that in the first place.

Though, for old friends, well, they just have to deal with it or get out, themselves, haha. But I keep with a mature lot, so it's all good.

3. It's probably linked to the prevailing negative views on homosexuality and sexuality in general. Like you mentioned, yaoi is notorious because many of the past titles and series become well known due to its art style, raunchiness, or the rape stereotypes. However, that is why many fans are redefining the genre as BL, instead. Now that there are a variety of interesting stories and views that doesn't cater to the supposed stereotypes, the genre is significantly different. Perhaps, it's a generation thing as well. The public just hear about the "bad" yaoi because it has been around longer.

Lastly, Junko is adorable, but my favorites are anything by Yoneda Kou or Miyamoto Kano. Otherwise, Sex Pistols and ZE have their own charms for me.
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Ok here is mine

1. I tell my friends if it comes up in conversation otherwise I do not tell anyone but online friends who are yaoi fans already.

2. Sure I would if anyone was interested in the genre otherwise if they are not interested in the genre I keep it to myself.
Well the manga that I would recommend would be Junjou Romantica,Love Stage!,Sekaiichi Hatsukoi, anything by Natsume Isaku ,Yamamoto Kotetsuko,Junko,Sakuragi Yaya,Moegi Yuu,Mishima Kazuhiko.

3. Well I think it is because of how yaoi is seen by the rest of the world as little morn then porn some of that is true but not all there are many meaningful yaoi manga out there.

4. My favorites are anything by these mangaka
Mishima Kazuhiko
Sakuragi Yaya
Junko
Natsume Isaku
Moegi Yuu
Nakamura Shungiku
Yamamoto Kotetsuko
Nekota Yonezou
Sakyou Aya
Eiki Eiki
Sakuraga Mei
Zaou Taishi
I could go on and on but I think I shall stop.

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1. I tell them all. In fact, I pretty much advertise the fact that I'm a big fan. Not many people seem to feel the same way about the genre, but they're still incredibly supportive of me. I realize that not many people have friends around them that do this, so I'm very grateful. I tell them because, why not? I can understand why people wouldn't say anything about it, but I think that, since it's an important genre to me, my friends deserve to know about it.

2. Of course; I would tell anyone as along as I am reasonably close to them.
I would recommend my friends to start out with Shounenais and the more innocent side of Yaoi before jumping into hardcore stuff. Like, Sekaiichi Hatsutokoi for example. That was my first BL related anime, and it really got me interested.

3. It's looked down upon because people aren't very accepting of homosexual relationships anyways. The genre is different from the norm, and the romance isn't between a girl and boy. Some people find it jarring that non-heterosexual relationships can be romantic and authentic too, so that's why Yaoi/Yuri has gotten such bad rep.
In addition to that, the entire genre is looked at as gay porn. Yes, I realize that some Yaois are graphic or are actually meant for pornographic purposes, but many people don't realize that sexual gratification is not all the genre has to offer. Personally, I read BL/GL for the story, which sounds like a lie, but it really isn't. I'm sure that many other fans of the genre feel the same way.

4. My favorite BL manga is a tie between two: Twittering Birds Never Fly, and Tenshi no Uta. I heavily recommend them to anyone.
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i-i'm not into y-yaoi or anything like t-that, baka

i just look at pics,i don't care a thing about the stories. i mean cmon, hot naked men doing hot sexy things. how could i resist?
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1.Do you tell your friends you like BL? Why or why not?

- when it comes up in a conversation, i tell them that i read yaoi stuff. it's not really a big deal among my girl friends, but sometimes they'd tease me for it, in a joking manner. my guy friends though were all "yikes, dude."

2. Would you ever consider telling others about your interests? Why or why not? If your friend were interested in the genre, what would you recommend to them?

- yeah. but it would depend on what sort of interests these people are into. if they're not into BL/yaoi/bara, i'm not going to open such topic. as of now all of the M/M stuff i've read were all DJs, and some scattered FF here and there of my OTP.

3.Why do you think the interest in BL/Yaoi is so looked down upon in our society?

- because rampant homophobia is still going on. certain fans aren't also hot on the fact that M/M pairings ruin canon. plus, the rape trope.

Lastly, what are your fave BL/Yaoi manga/anime?

- I've read only DJs so far but XLuffy-, thanks for the recommendations. i'd def check those aforementioned manga-ka's works.


anyway, i'm new to this whole BL/YAOI/BARA genre and i find them more entertaining and sweet than het romances. also, there's the glaring fact that these men are hot and inevitably shed their clothes off. that's a big bonus. (well, yaoi manga for older readers, that is)
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SimplyMimiOta wrote:

Let me start.
Boys Love/Yaoi is sort of a social stigma in America. As a result, many girls (or boys--hey I know you guys exist) hide their interests in the genre.

Which leads to the question....

1.Do you tell your friends you like BL?
Why or why not?


Never told anyone, because I dont like it...
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SimplyMimiOta wrote:

Let me start.
Boys Love/Yaoi is sort of a social stigma in America. As a result, many girls (or boys--hey I know you guys exist) hide their interests in the genre.

Which leads to the question....

1.Do you tell your friends you like BL?
Why or why not?

2. Would you ever consider telling others about your interests?
Why or why not?
If your friend were interested in the genre, what would you recommend to them?

3.Why do you think the interest in BL/Yaoi is so looked down upon in our society?

Lastly,
What are your fave BL/Yaoi manga/anime?


1. Not really just because I know they're probably not interested in the genre. My anime watching manga reading friends are almost exclusively straight males so there's very little chance they'll enjoy discussing an anime/manga about two guys becoming romantically involved.

2. If they asked sure. I think I would be more concerned about their views on anime/manga in general rather than their opinion on BL itself.

3. Obviously there's the general aversion to homosexual relationships since they're viewed as abnormal but I imagine part of it is also just the basic lack of variety. I'll admit that I'm a pretty casual consumer here but as someone with that perspective I've found that most of the popular BL/yaoi(Meaning the stuff someone new to BL would come across) feels very similar. This makes it feel like a very limited genre and as a result makes it hard to keep most casual fans like myself which in turn keeps the genre from growing.

That's just my personal opinion though and as I said I'm an extremely casual fan of BL(I'm talking a few mangas and an anime or two) so I'm just saying how it looks from that viewpoint.

Favorite BL? I liked Love Stage.
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I'm not really into yaoi. Yaoi is like gay porn in America. You will be looked down upon for excitedly talking about something that's like gay porn here. The thing is, all the really mainstream yaoi that everyone has heard of, is like shoujo on crack. As in the seme forces himself on uke, yet they still get together in the end.
BL, on the other hand, would be easier to explain if it's just romance. It's still weird to the average person (since it's not as common) but acceptable by society.
I have read the Prince of Recipe and it was pretty cute, so I recommend that.
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Best use of that Barakamon Gif I have ever seen.
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i love it
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No. I see no reason to.
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1.Do you tell your friends you like BL?
Why or why not?

Literally ALL my friends know I like yaoi (and the ones that dont know what yaoi is, they understand that I have an interest in gay fictional porn)

2. Would you ever consider telling others about your interests?
Why or why not?

My mom: NO. If she cant accept me having male FRIENDS then she wouldnt accept it.
As for other people, It really depends how well i know them or what their personalities are. If you're (for example) like my one friend that shouts DICKS and gives people anal beads for christmas (true story) then whatever.
If it's like (for example) my other friend, quiet, smart, outgoing, and generally doesnt look like the person to talk sex to; then no. I just feel awkward talking about stuff like that.

If your friend were interested in the genre, what would you recommend to them?
Something fluffy, good art, and gentle on the sex maybe along the lines of Junko or Yamamoto Kotetsuko

3.Why do you think the interest in BL/Yaoi is so looked down upon in our society?

Homosexuality isnt exactly accepted by everyone so not everyone will like it. Secondly, society has always been know to look down upon porn even if they themselves admit to be one of the viewers of this. However, with the anime industry, there's a popular misconception that yaoi is all fan service with its borderline rape that eventually they fall in love (???) and the badly drawn anatomy that they see online.
While yes, there is a painstakingly amount of non-con in yaoi there are the rare finds on a good manga with a good story, characters, art, and NO NON-CON

Lastly,
What are your fave BL/Yaoi manga/anime?

Elektel Delusion
Super Lovers
Ten Count
Seven Days
Koisuru Boukun
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I've been a fujoshi since I was 15, now I'm 31. I can't remember if it was Heroic Legend Arslan or Interview with the Vampire that first got me into it. My highschool friend Jessi was also a fujoshi.



Okay ladies, I gotta ask you a question. I'm in the mood for some really slashy stuff with BL fanservice that isn't technically BL. Why? Because straight-up BL tends to have really weak storylines. Here's some examples of Shounen & other non BL things with such fanservice:

*Hunter x Hunter.
*The original Arsalan Senki, the one with GOOD art, not the crappy new one.
*GetBackers.
*Cute High Earth Defense Club Love.
*Gensomaden Saiyuki.
*Free!
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