Post Reply Platonic sleep sharing: fact or fiction?
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Posted 1/9/15 , edited 1/9/15
Hi I am wondering if anyone knows if platonic sleep-sharing such as between Joon and Yona in the Yona of the Dawn anime/manga and between young Kurama and his much older (brother? cousin? not sure if that was really ever explained?) in Kamisama Hajimashita was/is a common occurrence or considered culturally acceptable in Japan, of if that's just another of the wonderful fictions of anime/manga land?

By the way, I think it's a sweet, cute thing, and have no problem with it so long as it really is innocent. I was just curious because in America, if an older man tried to invite a young boy into bed with him, we would think he was some kind of pedo.

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As a fellow american, I think it's pretty damned impossible. I've tried with the opposite sex, and it's been.... difficult.

Same sex, we (men) just aren't that touchy feely. It's probably cultural though.
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uhh idk. in high school i would sleep over at my friends place and they were girls..the parents didnt like it but it was platonic. I would think its more generally accepted if it is an older female with younger male than vice versa.
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You mean "sharing a bed"? I don't know. It really depends on who's who. I've seen plenty of bed-sharing on YuruYuri, even though it's inevitably a work of fiction and doesn't represent a population. It still looks cute to see, though, given the show's subject matter and such.


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uhh idk. in high school i would sleep over at my friends place and they were girls..the parents didnt like it but it was platonic. I would think its more generally accepted if it is an older female with younger male than vice versa.

This.

And, to tell you the truth, maybe it's something I can relate to. When I was a boy I liked being around women.
Posted 1/9/15
Platonic or non platonic does not even factor in it as just being at close proximity feels too cagey, I might even have violent thoughts towards the person. I generally dislike feeling other people's body heat, it's all a little too intrusive from my perspective.
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Eh. I've shared beds with males and females, and I tend to be cuddly with the females. Bad habit.
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I would think that it is kind of weird
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24 / M / 風の山
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asians have a history where children sleep together like that. its probably alot more common back in older days, but opposite gender sleeping together will always be frowned upon, but innocence of a child usually overpowers the frowning.

its like you sleeping in the same bed as your elder sibling during a thunderstorm, but with asians family grouping are on a closer scale than a good portion of the world.
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I guess you could call it platonic. Or you could call it me being scared to make a move
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of course not... and imo, Yona should have acted a bit more cautious when travelling/being surrounded by men, you know... like draw a line where her male companions cannot cross. but it's a work of fiction, and the author/animators probably forgot about how people are supposed to act in a historical context. But in the anime's defense, the context of the story doesn't allow her to act like a woman... she was exiled from her castle and dethroned... and forced to sleep in the bushes... so I don't think she can act lady-like in that situation.


I don't think Asians care much about potential paedophiles... I think it might be due to... they don't have as much human rights for children as western cultures. like you can hit your children and not go to jail for it because it's considered normal, and parents are always right. and like... they don't have child protection services... people coming to take your kids away.

I also heard in japan, the teachers can go to a bathhouse with the students. in Australia... you can't even touch your student on the shoulder as that can be considered sexual harassment... rofl... (I don't know if that's because there are fewer paedophiles in Asian countries... but I'm pretty sure paedophiles are everywhere though... maybe not reported as much in Asia)

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overall, I think sleeping with anybody that is not your gf/bf will create some sort of controversy... because we live in a backwards planet. just take Taylor Swift for example, she went to sleepover with her female friend and suddenly the next day the media called her a "lesbian"...

this is 2015... but we still think like the Victorian's age...

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Personally, I am 20 and I still have sleepovers with my girlfriends and sleep in their bed. or them in mine. I have never had an issue with that, nor have any of the girls/women I've been around. I think that's VERY common here in America between girls.


As far as opposite sexes, depending on sexuality orientations, it can depend on the person. In general, society views it as weird and mainly considers bed sharing an intimate experience, but I have had one or two male friends with which I was comfortable sleeping in the bed with. As with my female friends we didn't cuddle or get close. Just shared the bed.


However, if you haven't heard of Lena Dunham, she's a well-known writer/actor/director in the US. She writes and directs and stars in HBO's hit "Girls"
She published a book recently in which she talks about her own numerous bed sharing stories. She rarely had sex with men but often shared beds.

I thought it was kind of weird reading it but hey, to each his own.


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I think you could share a bed with a friend at a sleepover or something. It'd be really weird if friends of the same age, yet opposite gender slept together (assuming they're straight), but whatever... When it's like a kid and a teenager or an adult, I'd assume it's innocent, because little kids usually hate being alone.

I find sharing a bed with someone is living hell.

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When I used to go camping, I shared a tent with 3-4 other girls. One time I woke up with one of them wrapping their arms and legs around me. I wasn't close friends with her so it was a bit awkward for me. One of the other girls was her best friend and they're used to cuddling each other when they sleep so she probably mistakenly thought I was her.

One time my family was in Las Vegas and I shared a king sized bed with my sister and two cousins, one of which is male. I don't think it's a problem if it's just family. Well, as long as there's no creepers in the family anyway.

If friends of the opposite gender share a bed (assuming they're straight), then I don't know. I don't have any personal experience with this. I'm assuming for most people platonic sleep sharing wouldn't be possible?
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