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Post Reply Do you think it's foolish to be in a long distance relationship?
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Posted 1/11/15
Being one that has never been part of a "romantic relationship" I have no idea how much my word on the matter is worth. However I feel obligated to put in my two cents, cause this is the internet and I have too much free time.

First cent, remember that each individual person is unique and has unique desires, morals, and weaknesses.

Second cent, remember that people are constantly changing.

Third cent (Lucky you it was a buy two get one free day), relationships are not only about the other person you need to take the time to be selfish as well (obviously the reverse is also true)
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Posted 1/11/15
It will be a test at the very least, but it's not completely foolish.

Just hope your significant other has the same patience you do, if so, things should work out.
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Posted 1/11/15 , edited 1/11/15
Everyone gives it a shot at some point.

I think the one year thing is pretty accurate too.

It's not the lack of sex that kills it. It;s the lack of proximity. You don't share your day to day life with someone. More pointedly you don't experience things together. Slowly all that time experiencing life with other people adds up. It becomes ever more difficult to maintain a relationship as you begin to have less and less in common (and commonality comes from shared experience), and such.

Plus, people today are just too weak willed for LDR's. Our culture instead is one that encourages promiscuity and impulsive behavior.

Then again, sometimes attraction is really strong and people who are into you can still be interested years later... YEARS later.. >.>
(in that case, though, it's almost better to sit out on starting an actual relationship and then pursue one when you are able to be together regularly, and just wait and see if they remember you or not).
Posted 1/11/15
Probably. I've had a bad time with any long distance relationship I've had.
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Posted 1/11/15
I think love is love and its up to those involved whether or not a long distance relationship is worth the hassle. It's not anybody else's business. It is a personal choice made between two people and that's all there is to it.
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Posted 1/11/15 , edited 1/11/15
It's not foolish, but it isn't recommended for people who aren't mature enough to immerse themselves into something as challenging as a long distance relationship. Personally, I know it would be fine for me because I feel like I've mentally prepared and grown enough to do so but obviously I can't speak for those around me. You have to ask yourself what you value most too--it might be tougher on those who crave physical/superficial interaction more than an intellectual one BUT anyone is capable. It is definitely not silly. It's important as individuals to go down different paths in order to grow.. you shouldn't shift your own commitments and desires just so you can adhere to your significant other. At some point you'd have to spend some time apart with your partner to achieve your own goals anyway (i.e. working abroad, going to school elsewhere) unless you are both aspiring for the same thing... Anyway, if you can't handle putting your relationship on hiatus you should reevaluate your relationship with said person.
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Posted 1/11/15
They say "time makes the heart grow fonder."



Well...


It also makes the desires and needs go unchecked after awhile crocodile
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Posted 1/11/15
Since I'm currently single and in a lonely mood I'd say no, being in a long distance relationship isn't a bad thing.

But then again, I'm just jealous someone out there even has a smidgen of something I currently don't.
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Posted 1/11/15
My grandma waited for my grandpa after he went off to Europe to fight in the great war, he never made it back. She's still waiting to see him again never remarried. Memaa!! Cherish the time you have with whoever LDR can work if you make it work.
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Posted 1/11/15
long distant relationship is a waste of time if, 1. you're not serious or your partner is not serious about taking it all the way, 2. you have no means to reach each other, 3. trust and faith will be tested, 4. people who influence your life will be tested and 5. will you willing to fight for the relationship when it comes down to it.

if your a guy i'll advise you to show courage by talking directly to the parents of the girl who you are serious about, people born before the time of the existence of the internet will not understand what this long distance relationship is and will most likely be against it. this is all based off my experiences with long distance relationship and it's been quite successful.

ps: take up singing it's a good way to impress your misses from another country AHAHAHAHAHAH
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Posted 1/11/15 , edited 1/11/15
It is extremely foolish. Speaking from experience, it's the worst. Unless you two have the means to ever meet in real life (in the near future of course), long distance relationships always end in disaster.
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Posted 1/11/15
No,
and the answer is up to you!
if you think of it as foolisness then you should just move on
Right?

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Posted 1/12/15
Its not neccessarily a bad thing but you have to be prepared for what it entails and need to have a hard think about whether its worth it
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Posted 1/12/15 , edited 1/12/15
Due to past experiences, yes.

Physical contact, be it hugging, kissing, sex, even being in the same room, is essential in any relationship. Without that key component, it's only a matter of time before the relationship meets its inevitable end. Unless you favor relationships with little to no human contact, it might be better to cut off the relationship when you know that the other person will be gone for a extended period of time (6 months to a year). If you haven't been in a long distance relationship, whatever you imagine how hard it will be, double it.
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Posted 1/12/15 , edited 1/12/15
I tried, it failed. I put my mind and everything into it, it failed right before I started college and put me into a slump that has followed me through. Would I do it again? I get attached to people, more so than I would like. I think another would end up biting me as hard as that one did.
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