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Post Reply Do you think it's foolish to be in a long distance relationship?
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Posted 1/12/15
Speaking as someone with a bad experience with the long-distance thing I think it is foolish. In my personal experience, when I was with my ex in person I was her beloved boyfriend who nobody else could compare to(or so she had me believe), but once she moved away I became that guy who was only to be talked to when she needed a pick-me-up, or when her physical boyfriend wouldn't put out. She'd sleep around with people and then when they wouldn't call her back she'd call me up crying being like, "Oh this distance between us is killing me I can't take it I wish I never moved/you could of came with me!" blah blah blah saying she missed me and what not. Truthfully though she didn't miss me, she was just upset that nobody would talk to her again after she put out(because a lot of girls make the mistake of thinking that if they sleep with a guy, he'll be their boyfriend. Guys see right through that crap and don't want to be in a relationship with someone who's like that) and she had nobody else to talk to. When plan A-Y wouldn't work out she'd come to me, plan Z, and get the emotional stuff she needed for that day.

I wish I had known then that "Hey, let's try a long distance relationship after I move." translated to "I'm going to put you in the friend-zone and not tell you so I can get as much use out of you as possible.".


Needless to say I hate everything about her now.
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Is that other people waiting for you too, or are you the only one waiting?...................................
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I had an online boyfriend for four years and we met for the first time in November 2014. We are still going strong. We live together now.
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no I believe it takes more to trust though
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Posted 1/14/15
It's possible and in some cases works rather well. Depends on the couple though, their personalities, and how committed they are. I think I'd thrive in one, but that's just my opinion
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Seeing as I've been in one for 7 years and am still madly in love with the person, no, I would not say it's foolish to wait for someone who is truly an amazing match for you.

Throwing such a valuable person away simply because of an obstacle such as distance? That's foolish. And something you'd be sure to regret.

However, THIS ONLY APPLIES IF the person you're in a long distance relationship with is truly that important to you. If you both aren't seriously committed to being with each other in the long run, it's going to fall apart. Being in a long distance relationship is only going to work for two people hellbent on continuing to be with the one they love despite a circumstance such as distance. The "I think I like you. Sure you're cute." relationships aren't going to survive.

Long distance relationships are not foolish, provided the parties involved are truly serious about making it work. If you don't truly love one another, and if you aren't willing to suffer, endure, and sacrifice for the one you love, it's going to royally wreck you in the face.

For those who make it through long distance relationships (and I know plenty who have) it can actually serve as an extremely valuable learning experience for you and your partner, and can teach you to treasure the things many people take for granted. But it's never meant to be a permanent thing.
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Posted 1/14/15
No. Why would it be?
If I weren't single, I wouldn't cancel my relationship just because we're far apart from each other. And of course, time would tell when we'll come face to face. Even if we haven't done that yet, we're still together nevertheless, because we're always be important to each other.
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Posted 1/14/15
lotsss of trust...... that's what I see
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It doesn't matter.
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Posted 1/15/15
Bubble boy disagrees.
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Posted 1/15/15
if you can stand the pain of a long distance relationship, then you truly love your significant other.
un-requited love, especially given the distance...
thats something that has potential to destroy a person.

you know what though?
you'll never know until you try <3
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Posted 1/15/15
No, but I wouldn't want to be in that position. Sounds like it'd be painful after a while.
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Posted 1/15/15

CherryDynamite8 wrote:

Seeing as I've been in one for 7 years and am still madly in love with the person, no, I would not say it's foolish to wait for someone who is truly an amazing match for you.

Throwing such a valuable person away simply because of an obstacle such as distance? That's foolish. And something you'd be sure to regret.

However, THIS ONLY APPLIES IF the person you're in a long distance relationship with is truly that important to you. If you both aren't seriously committed to being with each other in the long run, it's going to fall apart. Being in a long distance relationship is only going to work for two people hellbent on continuing to be with the one they love despite a circumstance such as distance. The "I think I like you. Sure you're cute." relationships aren't going to survive.

Long distance relationships are not foolish, provided the parties involved are truly serious about making it work. If you don't truly love one another, and if you aren't willing to suffer, endure, and sacrifice for the one you love, it's going to royally wreck you in the face.

For those who make it through long distance relationships (and I know plenty who have) it can actually serve as an extremely valuable learning experience for you and your partner, and can teach you to treasure the things many people take for granted. But it's never meant to be a permanent thing.


You've been in a long distance relationship with a stranger since you were 13?
Posted 1/15/15
A long distance relationship is kinda like letting a dog off the leash. It's a good opportunity to escape.
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Posted 1/15/15

jeanius- wrote:


CherryDynamite8 wrote:

Seeing as I've been in one for 7 years and am still madly in love with the person, no, I would not say it's foolish to wait for someone who is truly an amazing match for you.

Throwing such a valuable person away simply because of an obstacle such as distance? That's foolish. And something you'd be sure to regret.

However, THIS ONLY APPLIES IF the person you're in a long distance relationship with is truly that important to you. If you both aren't seriously committed to being with each other in the long run, it's going to fall apart. Being in a long distance relationship is only going to work for two people hellbent on continuing to be with the one they love despite a circumstance such as distance. The "I think I like you. Sure you're cute." relationships aren't going to survive.

Long distance relationships are not foolish, provided the parties involved are truly serious about making it work. If you don't truly love one another, and if you aren't willing to suffer, endure, and sacrifice for the one you love, it's going to royally wreck you in the face.

For those who make it through long distance relationships (and I know plenty who have) it can actually serve as an extremely valuable learning experience for you and your partner, and can teach you to treasure the things many people take for granted. But it's never meant to be a permanent thing.


You've been in a long distance relationship with a stranger since you were 13?


Yup. No longer strangers as we've met up every chance we could since then. I was just with him and his family for Christmas and New Years.
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Posted 1/15/15
What's the age difference between you two? Like, is he the same age as you or are you in love with a pedophile?
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