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This is a forum discussing what kind of chores you are/were expected to do, if any at all.

Since I'm still living at home, I am expected to clean the entire house since my mom is unemployed and living off of my brother's disability check and he goes to work everyday. I'm also unemployed, but I wouldn't be if my mom didn't "lose" my birth certificate and social security card from me. But enough about that.

I have to clean:
-My room
-My brother's room
-My mom's room

We live in an apartment duplex and since they leave food laying around and trash, I'm scared to death we'll get roaches and ever since I've watched Terraformars I'm just a bit sketchy...

-both bathrooms
-kitchen
-diningroom
-livingroom
-pantry

I wouldn't complain so much if I actually had some help, but I don't.
My mother is too selfish to do ANYTHING and she's been that way my entire life. That's part of the reason why her 2 husbands left her; bad hygiene and never took care of the house. She would leave the house a mess for dishes to fester in the sink, and our floors to be left with stains and urine and feces from our animals because she was too lazy to take out the dogs. Ever since I could reach the sink, I was expected to do everything and what could I do? I wasn't a good cleaner at 8.

But whatever, I got a little ahead of myself.

Lesson kids: don't neglect your house or children or family because you get lost in the internet.

Too late.


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I wish my parents gave me chores to do at home or else I wouldn't have to Google "how to mop the floor properly" when I finally got my own place, haha. I'm currently at home for break but I still don't need to do any household work--even when I was younger I didn't have to do anything (I washed my first dish at 18). Sometimes I go to the store to pick up some stuff for my mom as I'm going home but I'm not sure if that constitutes as a chore.. : )
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Talking about chores seems pretty secondary based on your post. I'm just left with one question. Why not just get replacement documents get a job then move out?


My chores were always just whatever needs to be done at the time along with the various things where I am the only one with the skills or knowledge to do them.
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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

Talking about chores seems pretty secondary based on your post. I'm just left with one question. Why not just get replacement documents get a job then move out?


My chores were always just whatever needs to be done at the time along with the various things where I am the only one with the skills or knowledge to do them.


It's easier said than done especially if OP's mom employs the whole "family is everything" tactic to keep her children around and guilts them into not leaving. Assuming she does that... I don't know, obviously.
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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

Talking about chores seems pretty secondary based on your post. I'm just left with one question. Why not just get replacement documents get a job then move out?


My chores were always just whatever needs to be done at the time along with the various things where I am the only one with the skills or knowledge to do them.


It's easier said than done especially if OP's mom employs the whole "family is everything" tactic to keep her children around and guilts them into not leaving. Assuming she does that... I don't know, obviously.


Yeah, and the guilt that might come with moving out elsewhere and not knowing what's going on with the people left behind and how they're living (or lack thereof).
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Right now I live alone so I do all the chores.

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I basically do animal care around my house.
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technically everything.



from washing dishes to cooking rice to watering the plants. one of my orchids is dying, and I don't know why... is it because I use air con? it's in my bedroom lol
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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

Talking about chores seems pretty secondary based on your post. I'm just left with one question. Why not just get replacement documents get a job then move out?


My chores were always just whatever needs to be done at the time along with the various things where I am the only one with the skills or knowledge to do them.


I have ordered my birth certificate and received it, but I have to go to my state capitol to receive a social security card to get an ID made so I can apply for a job.
Problem with this, is that I can't drive and everyone I know can not make an hour trip for me.
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deer wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

Talking about chores seems pretty secondary based on your post. I'm just left with one question. Why not just get replacement documents get a job then move out?


My chores were always just whatever needs to be done at the time along with the various things where I am the only one with the skills or knowledge to do them.


It's easier said than done especially if OP's mom employs the whole "family is everything" tactic to keep her children around and guilts them into not leaving. Assuming she does that... I don't know, obviously.


Yes, Deer, that is exactly what she does.
She has psychologically damaged my brother and especially myself because she is dependent on us, mostly me.

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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

Talking about chores seems pretty secondary based on your post. I'm just left with one question. Why not just get replacement documents get a job then move out?


My chores were always just whatever needs to be done at the time along with the various things where I am the only one with the skills or knowledge to do them.


I have ordered my birth certificate and received it, but I have to go to my state capitol to receive a social security card to get an ID made so I can apply for a job.
Problem with this, is that I can't drive and everyone I know can not make an hour trip for me.


Ah, the limits of not driving. I know them well. I'm guessing then since you have no job you have no income and therefore cannot simply pay someone to take you either. Maybe public transportation? I hear that is supposed to be cheap...assuming you live somewhere that has adequate transportation services.

As for the guilt tactics and such...you just have to see things in a different way. You wouldn't be abandoning anyone just setting yourself up to be in a better position to do something for your brother since it seems he needs help as well. Disabled people get that money so they don't have to work after all...and I'm not entirely sure but I always thought that if you got disability checks that working kind of made those go away.... I could be wrong though. Despite being told that it might be possible for me to get it I still never bothered looking into how that whole system works.
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deer wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

Talking about chores seems pretty secondary based on your post. I'm just left with one question. Why not just get replacement documents get a job then move out?


My chores were always just whatever needs to be done at the time along with the various things where I am the only one with the skills or knowledge to do them.


It's easier said than done especially if OP's mom employs the whole "family is everything" tactic to keep her children around and guilts them into not leaving. Assuming she does that... I don't know, obviously.


Yeah, and the guilt that might come with moving out elsewhere and not knowing what's going on with the people left behind and how they're living (or lack thereof).


Well, she verbally abuses me when I say I am trying to move in with my boyfriend.
My mom mentally tortures me and I just break. She is also in bad shape: diabetes, heart attack, brain bleed are just a few things she is inflicted with and she tries to pull the card, "I'll just die all alone, thanks to my thankless kids"
She's had a tough life (not going to get into that), and she uses the internet as an outlet.
She's pushed every one of her family members away but she expects the world to hand her everything for free.
Such a frustrating woman.
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GrateSaiyaman wrote:

Right now I live alone so I do all the chores.




If I lived on my own, I would never complain because I'd be cleaning after myself not 3 other people.
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technically everything.



from washing dishes to cooking rice to watering the plants. one of my orchids is dying, and I don't know why... is it because I use air con? it's in my bedroom lol


Usually if it's too frigid your plants won't be able to thrive. Are orchids bulbs? If so, they SHOULD be able to live. Also, are you directing it toward the sunlight next to a window or something?
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That guilt trip sucks.

What happens when either of your parents gets really old? Would you actually take care of them or send them to a nursing home?
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