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"If he cheats with you he'll cheat on you" do you agree or disagree with this statement?
Posted 1/15/15
So has anyone heard of the old axiom, "If he cheats with you he'll cheat on you?" It means a cheater can't be faithful. I disagree with this statement, as it would say that affairs are purely sexually motivated, and I don't think that is true at all. Your opinions?
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Posted 1/15/15
I have to disagree with it. There are many reasons someone could cheat and therefore many reasons someone will stick around. So just because a person has cheated once doesnt mean they will again.
Yes, I know lots of people are serial cheaters, but not everyone
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everyone cheats someone, somewhere, sometime.
though that is if we dont limit it to romance.

i dont think "cheating" in itself is too usefull a concept in this situation.
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Posted 1/15/15

oodain wrote:

everyone cheats someone, somewhere, sometime.
though that is if we dont limit it to romance.

i dont think "cheating" in itself is too usefull a concept in this situation.


elaborate?
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Posted 1/15/15
i agree with the statement. cheating isn't just about having sex with someone else.
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Posted 1/15/15 , edited 1/15/15
I disagree.

Being a guy I think that the reason a man will cheat is because he's unhappy and usually looking for a quick fix or not man enough to admit he's unhappy.

If he cheats with you, it could mean something about the girl itself or it could mean the fact that said girl is just a "quick fix".

It's a valid statement to say "If he cheats with you, he could cheat on you"
It's a invalid statement to say "If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you"
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Posted 1/15/15
I believe it, but it also applies to women too.
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Posted 1/15/15 , edited 1/15/15
I agree with the sentiment which is that if someone does it once then they're capable of doing it again. It's meant to convey that you should be aware of the type of personality they're demonstrating, and you should know that if your relationship ends up at a similar point then they're comfortable going behind your back.

Basically it's the same as most relationship advice which is to genuinely look at the person you're interested in rather than idolizing them and assuming they can do no wrong. It's also a good setup for a potential "Told you so" down the road.
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Posted 1/15/15 , edited 1/15/15
i thnk its more about being spiteful and wanting revenge than it being sexually motivated. Also, cheaters always cheat so yea.
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Posted 1/15/15

itzbeaver


elaborate?


on which part?

if you mean the last sentence then i think that the concept of cheating is too broad and as such the statement presented by the OP, while sounding fancy, is too broad for there to be any real meaning behind it, also why i qualified my first sentence with the second.
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Posted 1/15/15
Cheating is a bad habit. no matter from what aspect you try to look it. sometimes there are the benefits but there must be some negative consequences that will exist in the future. this is my personal thought.
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Posted 1/15/15
bigger question is why they cheated. ive known couple that cheated, got married and 20 years later are still happy.

did you cheat cus you fell in love? or did you cheat just cus you wanted some?
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Posted 1/15/15
I agree with it, at least in my experience of watching my sleazy uncles and cousins, they cheat, leave their wife, then later on cheat again and repeat. I don't see how there could be a good reason to cheat on someone, if you fall out of love the best thing for everyone is to be honest and separate. In my personal opinion, I think it's stupid to jump from one relationship to another without allowing yourself some time alone first.
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Posted 1/15/15

jeanius- wrote:

I believe it, but it also applies to women too.



Febelas wrote:

I agree with the sentiment which is that if someone does it once then they're capable of doing it again. It's meant to convey that you should be aware of the type of personality they're demonstrating, and you should know that if your relationship ends up at a similar point then they're comfortable going behind your back.

Basically it's the same as most relationship advice which is to genuinely look at the person you're interested in rather than idolizing them and assuming they can do no wrong. It's also a good setup for a potential "Told you so" down the road.


I agree with both of these statements.

It's also not that fucking hard to break up with someone if you found someone else.

I found that I was falling in love once with someone while with someone else, and after I confessed (not planned, nor was the falling in love part), I told my current girlfriend at the time about it and that I had to end it. It wasn't painless for the person I broke up with,but they deserved to know and they deserved to know sooner rather than later.

There's no excuse to be seeing one person when you have found a new person. End that shit ASAP.
Cheaters don't have the strength to be honest, or they are gaming the system. That's not a personality type I want to be around.

On the other hand, I will admit, cheating is far more common these days, and emotional cheating versus physical cheating, emotional cheating can be far worse (and I was unaware in my previous example that I was walking down the road towards emotionally cheating in my example), and far more prevalent (and one form of cheating tends to lead to the other), so that kinda makes a statement about what is going on in most relationships perhaps? but... There's just no damned viable excuse.

And why the fuck are you going after a person that's taken? Isn't that kinda low in and of itself? What's wrong with the single people out there? Is being someone's piece on the side really all you are worth? SMH.
Posted 1/15/15 , edited 1/15/15
It's not a law, but it's probably a good principle to live under. I would never take a girl cheating with me seriously.
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