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What do you think? When the honey moon phase settles down and reality kicks in.
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If they had separate bank accounts.

Trust is a large issue, but you can't be too trusting.
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Separate spouse.
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Lives?? lol

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house?
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Savings, bank, and credit account.
My parents divorce was rooted in the fact that they'd built an enormous wall of debt.
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Beds. Gotta love that leg room.
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You have to have some interests that are separate from your spouse's. Something to maintain your identity as an individual. Almost every week my wife will enjoy a quiet day at home reading while I go skiing or fishing by myself. It can even be something minor. She doesn't care to watch anime, but she is happy to take the little demon upstairs before bed-time, so that I can watch an episode or two in my office undisturbed. She loves playing little games on her iPhone to unwind, so I am happy to cook dinner and have the kid help me in the kitchen so she can veg-out with Candy Crush.

Depending on the laws of your state/country, having separate finances may offer little or no protection from the irresponsible spending of a spouse. When it comes to money, it falls on the #1 tool of a good relationship. Open and honest communication.
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nekroneko wrote:

Beds. Gotta love that leg room.


That means you're eager to spend two Temper-pedic beds?

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House.

According to dailymail.co.uk, most marriage problems start because of I differences in decoration taste, one woman filed for divorce after her husband bought a garden gnome.

(No implication that dailymail is a reliable source for information)
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It depends on the situation. If one spouse has a serious snoring problem that keeps the other awake separate rooms may be needed. If there's fights over covers just have separate covers. If it's bed space get a bigger bed or have separate beds that can be put together as needed.

I think separating happens because one or the both have doubts and they just find something minor to bring those doubts to surface.
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I agree with what PapaNeko said. Having different interests from your partner.
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GayAsianBoy wrote:

House.

According to dailymail.co.uk, most marriage problems start because of I differences in decoration taste, one woman filed for divorce after her husband bought a garden gnome.

(No implication that dailymail is a reliable source for information)


Fun conversation to imagine

Wife to friend
Wife: "He bought a garden gnome, I just don't know what to think of him anymore. I am considering divorce "
Friend: .... "wut?"



I would agree with other comments. The important thing is having different interests and giving each other breathing room once in a while. Contrary though, it can be equally important to set-up a date night (especially if there are kids, gotta keep the romance alive and [ahem] "uninterrupted").
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I_am_DJ wrote:

Fun conversation to imagine

Wife to friend
Wife: "He bought a garden gnome, I just don't know what to think of him anymore. I am considering divorce "
Friend: .... "wut?"




I would agree with other comments. The important thing is having different interests and giving each other breathing room once in a while. Contrary though, it can be equally important to set-up a date night (especially if there are kids, gotta keep the romance alive and [ahem] "uninterrupted").


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Clothes. Clearly my wife & I don't share a wardrobe.

But seriously, I know there are lots of issues people have with money, etc in marriages, but I don't think keeping stuff separate like that will make a difference if, in the end, they shouldn't have gotten married.
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