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Post Reply Most Marriages Would Be Successful If a Couple Have a Separate What?
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Posted 1/21/15
that's an easy one.

Separate Hobbies~
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Posted 1/21/15
Sleep issues tend to be understated problems that drive stress levels sky high in relationships. Separate mattresses so energy isn't transferred and proper treatment of sleep apnea caused by snoring would go a long way to fix that.
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I'd guess separate bedrooms would be of benefit. That way each spouse has their own personal space where they can go to to unwind, get away from the insanity and not have to deal with the other hogging all the bedsheets.
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Underwear! (lame. I was late to the party)


On serious note, though: you can generalize all you want, but you and your spouse are unique individuals (I hope), so the relationship dynamic won't be the same as your buddy and his/her spouse.

I would recommend feeling it out and talking about it to reach those conclusions rather than just getting a cookie-cutter solution and trying to apply it to every problem.

But what do I know, I'm single.
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Bank accounts and credit cards is the absolute most essential thing to keep separate and personal.

More often than not financial problems are the cause of marital disputes, and quite frankly, I see way too many men out there that go with a joint account with their girlfriend/wife and let her manage the finances only to find out she's broken up with him and took all the money, or she has funneled money into a separate account of her own. (not saying the reversal of the sexes cannot or doesn't happen. This is just a personal observation).

Also a good idea: separate the bills and each of you pay for your designated bills ("I cover rent, you cover utilities, cable, and internet" sort of deal)... and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have a prenup. Divorce court can seriously fuck you over. It's not "romantic" but it's a safety for the possibility that your current "romance" turns ugly.

Finally, I like the idea of separate hobbies, (I used to have the same as an ex of mine. I wasn't competitive, but she apparently was... or at least judged her own worth based on others. So for us to do the same thing, and for me to have a bit of success, it caused rifts).

But instead I suggest to have interests that do not coincide can lead to disagreements as each person chooses to live life along different paths. I prefer to say that it's best when you have complimentary interests and hobbies. Like, for instance, my grandfather likes woodworking and makes little wooden decorations, my grandmother likes painting, and she paints them. They're different but they overlap.

I also disagree with separate "lives" (social circles, etc...) because of the same reason. You should grow together, but as two people, not one, and not growing apart. Things should compliment and overlap.
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Posted 1/21/15 , edited 1/21/15
Bank Account

Workspace

DVR System
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31 / M / Minnesota, USA
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Posted 1/21/15

AiYumega wrote:

Separate spouse.


ROFL that's awesome!

My answer would be bed. I can't tell you how much sleep I've lost since loosing my bed freedom. I love the extra warmth and I love cuddling. But when it comes to actually trying to sleep I need freedom to stretch out and find that perfect position.
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Posted 1/23/15
bodies...hard to stay a happy couple when its just you and your hand
Posted 1/23/15
they need separate marriages. They need to cheat cheat cheat their way to success.
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22 / M / Houston TX
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Posted 1/23/15
Like someone said earlier, separate interest or hobbies.

Its not bad to have similar ones, but sometimes you need a little space to enjoy whatever you like to do alone.
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Posted 1/23/15 , edited 1/24/15

tsakalove wrote:

bodies...hard to stay a happy couple when its just you and your hand


Posted 1/23/15
Bathrooms.
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Posted 1/24/15
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Posted 2/11/15

ssxtitan wrote:

that's an easy one.

Separate Hobbies~


I agree. Hobbies
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Posted 2/11/15 , edited 2/11/15
Separate computers. When I die I have a pac with my friend to delete my internet history no matter what.
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