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Post Reply Why do humans believe in monogamy?
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Posted 1/19/15
Something I've been curious about, why do we only have one on one relationships? We don't have some kind of mental connection mate for life thing going on. There isn't a real reason we couldn't have multiple partners. And a lot of the arguments about having multiple partners make sense ( i.e. - shared resources, mutual child raising, increased family support, etc.). So why do we accept only having one partner as the normal thing and stick to it?

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Posted 1/19/15 , edited 1/20/15
I'm for monogamy.


Why?

Because alot of people can't be attracted to every one they meet.


And yes, I feel good with just ONE partner.
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short answer is we dont,

long answer is we dont but it is more common in a lot of societies (at least in modern times).

think about it, plenty of people dont like exclusive relationships, have fuck buddies or outright cheat on their partner, even in societies where monogamy is the norm.
in some societies multiple wives or partners is the norm.
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I just wouldn't like my bae cheating on me simple as that
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again wrote:

I just wouldn't like my bae cheating on me simple as that


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We've developed and evolved to the point where relationships are more than just mating... like did you not realize that
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Because from a psychological standpoint, humans lack multitasking skills.
Posted 1/19/15
Bluntly I think it has to do with jealously and societal norms,however I do believe that it can come about even without those factors. I'm pretty sure it only became as big as it is today after we started incorporating agriculture and creating cities, Many aboriginal/indigenous people practice other forms like polyamorus and polygamy it differs from culture to culture. In our culture monogamy is just the set default and if your anything other than It your likely to be put down for it (which is just fucking stupid).
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As many others pointed out, part of it has to do with emotions (jealousy, only for you, etc.)

Another influence are social norms, many of which began with civilization (mainly revolving around inheritance; monogamy cleared up who inherits what ...)
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I find that it mostly came about to secure family lines and inheritance, in an effort to help eliminate confusion and drama. I think that it was once more popular among the upper class in a secluded area, though. Then, it seems that "monkey see, monkey do" came into play, along with monogamy eventually being strongly attached to morality, etc... By nature, however, I don't believe that we humans are monogamous. Elsewhere in nature, monogamous species don't really appear to have the capability of "cheating," unlike humans.

Personally, I'm monogamous. I'm territorial, simple as that.
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If you take something for granted you don't enjoy it nearly as much.

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/07/opinion/07douthat.html
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It's so much simpler that way.
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I guess as when we became more self aware we were greedy with a partner or jealous if that partner moved on to somone else so we ended up having one on one relationships. But biologically animals become monogomous as to have a surefire partner to mate with instead of mating with one partner and then not mating again.
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Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.
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There are plenty of people that go completely against monogamous relationships and are much happier that way, so I wouldn't say that humans as a species "believe" in monogamy. It's just the social norm.

With that said, I think a lot of people feel more comfortable in a monogamous relationship. And that's okay. There's nothing wrong with being comfortable.
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