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Post Reply Why do humans believe in monogamy?
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Posted 1/19/15
A man can only handle one woman nagging him at once...otherwise he wishes to jump off a cliff just sayin ;-)
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Are you getting laid? Do you even have ONE partner to start with?

cause between this and the incest post, I'm starting to think a lot of people have these pent up sexual frustrations, and are pissed off they haven't got any (satisfying) outlets.

1. As for monogamy, we're not typically lifetime monogamists. BUT we're serial monogamists Which means that, generally, we have multiple partners over our lives, but we tend to only have one at a time.

2. Emotionally, cheating hurts people.

3. having to "time-share" someone sucks. They're people, not condos in florida.

4. typically, multiple wives or partners actually leads to less resources to go around. BlueOni posted on this in the PREVIOUS polygamy thread.

5. FFS CR, step away from your computer and go meet people. Have fun making babies. Christ... (and this comes from the celibate man. )
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It's easier to focus on one partner at a time. Add another person in, and I might get flustered over whether I'm playing favorites and not giving the others the attention they want. Then I'll feel bad...and more chaos ensues...
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This completely depends on the persons involved.

Those for only "one-to-one" think either in the lines of:
- a sense of pride, either "I am good enough for ..." or a need to know that your partner is only only one for you.
- a sense of possession; one or both parties want to make their partners completely theirs.

Keep in mind when people believe in one way of thinking, their will be people out their who are okay with it. I know a few people who are commonly referred to as "Swingers", where they are married but don't really care if their partners goes and sleeps around, under a few conditions (health reasons).

To answer the OP question is simple, because the thought is there, why not believe in it?
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If you go by the anthropological argument, we shouldn't be monogamous. The sounds made during sex are supposedly intended to attract other mates (true of evolutionary relatives of humans on the phylogenetic tree). That said, we have a general sense of taboo, and at least in most "civilized" <--(I hate that word, but I'm blanking on anything else to call it) cultures, polygamy is frowned upon. There are cultures, the one that comes to mind being the Asantis of Africa, where polygamy is accepted. So, why do we? I would say that a part of it is how we are raised. Your dad didn't have 5 wives, you probably won't. Your mom didn't have 6 husbands, you probably won't. The other part is that it takes a lot of effort to maintain relationships, and multiple relationships can cause tons of trouble.
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I can see benefits to both sides. So i'm not quite sure what you want from me.
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The biggest reason why most countries finds it as taboo has a large factor to due with the influence of religion. MOST, not all, of the religions now-a-days say that a proper relationship is done between a male and a female. Since religion is one of the biggest driving forces in the world, it usually goes to show that this would be the reason why.
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The reason humans practice monogamy is simple biology. It is a behavior that significantly helps both the male and female pass their genes on to future generations. Human children take an inordinate amount of time in gestation and then even longer to mature into self sufficient creatures. So it is vitally important for both parents to invest the time and resources to ensure the survival of their offspring, which would be sticking together for more than a decade.

And yes, it is a viable reproductive strategy for a male to try to impregnate as many women as possible. Although it would have been much less so in the formative years of mankind. If the male is not there to help protect their offspring, it would be less likely to survive. Either the mother fails to find assistance in providing for the child and the child perishes; or, as is common in other primates, a male she does pair up with kills the child that is not his.
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I think it's mostly a compromise, you don't see other people I don't see other people, that's not to say either person wouldn't be fine seeing other people if they were allowed. Many aren't monogamous but rather territorial and possessive of their significant other.
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I am for monogamy,

I am a christian that is why i believe in it. I also feel that most people like feeling needed by someone and in a multiple person relationship you can always go to someone else if you are not satisfied with the initial person in question. This would then mean that no individual is "needed."
Posted 1/19/15
I am inherently loyal.
Posted 1/19/15
Society brainwash us to think that way.

You can be attracted to as many people as you want.

There's nothing in our brain that limits us to one person.. Your ego just feels better when someone swear loyalty to you...
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rather than getting married to multiple people just don't commit to anyone and screw around all you want
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Ronxz wrote:

Something I've been curious about, why do we only have one on one relationships? We don't have some kind of mental connection mate for life thing going on. There isn't a real reason we couldn't have multiple partners. And a lot of the arguments about having multiple partners make sense ( i.e. - shared resources, mutual child raising, increased family support, etc.). So why do we accept only having one partner as the normal thing and stick to it?

-Ronxz


HUMANS dont believe in monogamy. Here in the western world we do, but there are plenty of other countries and cultures who are encouraged to have more than one husband/wife.

And even here, there are lots of people who like having more than one, or open relationships.
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Posted 1/20/15
Idk, it's a good idea though. If people were more monogamous (sp?) then we'd have less STD's running around right?
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