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My first thought was to be the guy that checks for spiders and makes sure everything's safe.
But there must be a way I can just trick them into liking me somehow.
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Be funny, but by accident.
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Every one loves you just the way you are sweety
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IRL I tend to rely on being able to supply a skill.
It's arguable that human relations are strengthened by denying other people the option to get their needs fulfilled by anyone that isn't me.
This would create a dependency where being likable isn't even needed for the bonds will be strong.
But I think I want to be liked.
At my current job there's a specialist that barely ever shows up for work and many have never seen him.
I have some years experience in the same line of work but it's not my duty to fill in.
My co-workers found out I can.
I will still refuse to do it.
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smiling and hard work makes people like you
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But I think I want to be liked.


Do not, under any circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.
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smiling and hard work makes people like you :)


I don't mind working hard, but smiling doesn't really help because people usually stick me in the corner.
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:
But I think I want to be liked.


Do not, under any circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.


How do you mean?
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I don't mind working hard, but smiling doesn't really help because people usually stick me in the corner.


when your smile doesn't make people like you then the next best thing is to make them smile, small talks with jokes thrown into them can go a long way, first impression is the key, stand out for not in a weird way more of the happy-go-lucky type. it's really simple in the mornings for example just greet people with a friendly "good morning" and mean it, when you leave say something like "bye bye have a good day" and go on your way don't look desperate or anything because people have a natural instinct and knows when someone is approachable or not.

i don't know if this is going to help you out but for me and my experience wise it's doing wonders. were talking about real life situation here not anything online related if its online friends you want then you're better just pretending to be a clown xD
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:

I don't mind working hard, but smiling doesn't really help because people usually stick me in the corner.


when your smile doesn't make people like you then the next best thing is to make them smile, small talks with jokes thrown into them can go a long way, first impression is the key, stand out for not in a weird way more of the happy-go-lucky type. it's really simple in the mornings for example just greet people with a friendly "good morning" and mean it, when you leave say something like "bye bye have a good day" and go on your way don't look desperate or anything because people have a natural instinct and knows when someone is approachable or not.

i don't know if this is going to help you out but for me and my experience wise it's doing wonders. were talking about real life situation here not anything online related if its online friends you want then you're better just pretending to be a clown xD


One thing I never appreciated about greetings is that they are almost never followed up by conversation.
"Guess what? I have nothing to say"
"Ditto"

It might as well be a bleet or a moo.
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One thing I never appreciated about greetings is that they are almost never followed up by conversation.
"Guess what? I have nothing to say"
"Ditto"


do you watch the news? greaaaaaat conversation starters trust me on that
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:

One thing I never appreciated about greetings is that they are almost never followed up by conversation.
"Guess what? I have nothing to say"
"Ditto"


do you watch the news? greaaaaaat conversation starters trust me on that :)


I don't, It's just tabloid.
I wouldn't want to talk about anything that's not relevant because it's not just my time that I'm wasting.
Mabe I'll just listen to music and wait for someone to ask what it is.
Seems kind of passive aggressive, though.
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I don't, It's just tabloid.
I wouldn't want to talk about anything that's not relevant because it's not just my time that I'm wasting.


nothing is wasted when you're trying to build good rapport with people if you don't make the effort in small talks then why should they do the same with you? like the saying "treat people the way you want to be treated" you gotta talk if you want them to do the same am i right?
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Benediction wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

I don't, It's just tabloid.
I wouldn't want to talk about anything that's not relevant because it's not just my time that I'm wasting.


nothing is wasted when you're trying to build good rapport with people if you don't make the effort in small talks then why should they do the same with you? like the saying "treat people the way you want to be treated" you gotta talk if you want them to do the same am i right?


I don't want to talk to them, I just want them to like me!
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