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I could never be in a relationship with a girl that doesn't see eye to eye with me. Don't get me wrong, I like 'em short, but water and fire don't coexist for a reason.

However, I could be (and am) friends with all sorts of people; that doesn't mean I'd marry them or could become intimate at the level required for a healthy marriage. Anyway, I'm military currently and because of this already have all the statistics against me. Trying to force a square into a round hole (I suck at analogies; clearly) is just asking for more trouble.

In addition, "religion" is an eternal concept (in that it affects people eternally as opposed to temporarily). If you're willing to forget eternal things for an easy marriage, then I suggest you find someone who thinks the same way. I believe that if religion was such a trivial thing, there wouldn't be so many wars in the world (past and present) fighting about apparent nonsense. Want to avoid potential conflict? Marry the right girl/guy.

You might be a beautiful girl. You might genuinely find me funny. You might be smarter than me. You might know how to cook. But if you don't see what I see, you might as well be a goat. Maybe a very cute goat, but I couldn't marry you. And it'll be better for both of us not to go through the pain of something that could never be.

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People are people, if you even have to question being with them because of their religious views, don't get involved.
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I don't really have a problem with it as long as I don't have to join their religion . . . or vote for their political views...

The problem that I see with most people is that they are woefully ignorant of their faith. That can be a huge problem if you want some one you care about to join you on any kind of a deeper level than "just showing up for Christmas and Easter."
This is also one of the reasons I do not like to talk politics at work or many other places, people are lazy in their religious views and they tie their religion to their political views in very inflexible ways. This hold true for atheistic people as well.
All these things figure into relationships.
As with most people, I don't mind as long as they don't mind. Just be aware that if you are going to espouse your views, I might take issue with it.

.... make sure you know what you are talking about.
Posted 2/1/15 , edited 2/1/15
It's down to your confidence. Nothing wrong with it if he can convert you but if you have your own mind and able to make your own decisions without primarily making this about whether your parents accept his religion, then they would certainly trust you. They just won't abandon you even if like most relationships, it goes to shite. Their biggest fear is that you get pregnant. Your mom coming up to you and confessing he seems like a good guy attests to this.
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I can go out with a person from any religion as long as they're not that religious...but they'd still be a bit religious which would eventually begin to get under my skin and the I might feel I have a problem. Also, you're not "half atheist," you're an agnostic theist.
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It's unlikely for me. I'm a pretty thorough skeptic (to put it in perspective, I'm even skeptical about my skepticism) by nature, which in terms of a relationship, means that it might be hard to understand each other at an intimate level. However, there is a small subset of religious people whose faith I understand, and who can make a convincing defense to my intuition. And thinking about it further, this isn't all that different from the rest of the population -- there's only a small subset of people, in general, with whom I would be happy in a long term relationship. So I suppose I've no real problems with religious differences in a relationship. At least, not any more problems than I have with the rest of the population. There are other factors which are more likely to hold importance.
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UnComikal wrote:


You might be a beautiful girl. You might genuinely find me funny. You might be smarter than me. You might know how to cook. But if you don't see what I see, you might as well be a goat. Maybe a very cute goat, but I couldn't marry you. And it'll be better for both of us not to go through the pain of something that could never be.



^^^^This right here.

I think religious and non-religious people live in different realities or at the very least view it from a much different perspective. If you can't even agree on the basic why and how of the world then how are you going to have enough common ground to maintain a healthy relationship.
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23 / M / AZ
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I'm Catholic but I have friends that belong to different religions.
I respect their beliefs and they respect mine.
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being friends with people from other religion is easy. marrying them can be tough depending on how serious they are about religion.
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I'm Christian (and if it matters, non-denominational Christian). I go to church every Sunday, and I'm also fine with people of any sexual orientation or religion/belief, however I would not like to be in a serious romantic relationship with a person of a different religion. Just being friends, to me it doesn't matter, and just dating each other for fun, that's fine with me too. But I wouldn't consider marrying someone of a different religion; I think it would complicate things too much. If a friend of mine or one of my future kids or something wants to marry someone of a different religion, I'd be fine with it. I personally wouldn't want to marry someone of a different religion, though.
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In my view of things, I have no problem with it as long as the partners can tolerate the differences in religion and it does not stir into a volatile conflict. If differences in religion cause quite a problem then they probably wouldn't have been romantically involved in the first place. In the end, just as long as they respect each other and allow them to express themselves, then all is well. There will be always be someone who thinks this kind of relationship is bizarre, but that's something only few would think about.
Posted 2/1/15
I don't have problem with it. But she or he must respect that I not going to believe on their religion. That does't mean she or he can't talk to me about their religion,or ask me to a company them on a religius event or their church. I can do anything for my partner but he or she must not force theirs beliefs on me.
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I'm Christian but despite having a fairly religious father, I never was that big on religion. A majority of my friends are atheist but I couldn't care less. So as long as I think you're a pretty cool person, religion couldn't be farther from my thoughts.

For a significant other, however, I would prefer to find someone in the same area like Catholic or whatever. Sharing a religion would get past all the awkward talks with my dad, who has specifically told me that it doesn't matter who I choose, just that they share our religion. Aside from that I feel like it would be strange to be with someone but not share the same beliefs.
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I wouldn't have a problem with that. If you respect the differences in our religions, I don't see what the big deal would be. Aside from parents and such, I wouldn't mind it if you didn't believed in any Creator or what have you.. But if the difference in beliefs is something that cannot be settled, I wouldn't convert, nor would I expect them too. I do admit, being near to or the exact religion would be preferred, but that's just more for convenience if we were to have children.
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Religious affiliation doesn't matter in the slightest if someone loves you and you love them.
Religion is often used as deception, anyways.
There's too much emphasis placed upon someone's beliefs as opposed to who they are. Don't get wrapped up in the ephemeral and noumenal.
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