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Posted 2/5/15
Sweeeeet emooooooooooootions
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Posted 2/5/15 , edited 2/5/15

potentsativa wrote:

So the other day I was having a discussion with one of my friends, and he was saying that he in two years would garner the ability to never feel sadness, I had to interject by saying,"That's fucking stupid". He followed up by saying something along the lines that he no longer finds the emotion useful and that he's experience enough sadness in his life time. I was wondering if other people have similar desires?


Been there, done that, and yes, it is "fucking stupid". I "turned off" sadness for years. It is more like burying sadness to such a degree that it isn't readily recoverable. When someone buries an emotion, they usually just stop outwardly showing the emotion, so it builds up to the point that they "explode". But, one can also bury an emotion internally, causing themselves to up unable to feel the emotion. It takes more time to do, but the emotion no longer builds up, so it doesn't "explode". You can still feel happiness even if you can't feel sadness. However, it sucks not being able to feel sadness. There are times in life where not being able to feel sad can be worse that feeling miserably sad, such as when someone close to you dies. Because of such an experience, I turned sadness back on and can feel the emotion again.

Edit to add:
It takes time to "turn off" an emotion, but it also takes time to "turn it back on". It isn't something you can just switch back and forth for the situation.

Edit2:
There are a few different ways that I am aware of to prevent or stop oneself from feeling a particular emotion:

1. Feeling numb to an emotion. I don't believe this is something that one can intentionally trigger, or an least I don't know how one would go about doing so. Typically one would experience this if they experience the particular emotion for extended periods of time or experience a traumatic event.

2. Overriding with a different emotion. This requires a skill that few cultivate, and it's possible some may not be able to cultivate. The skill is being able to trigger an emotion through intention. I am able to trigger any emotion I can think of at a moments notice, from elation, to sadness (with weeping), to seething anger. I just have to picture the emotion that I want to feel. I've been able to do this for as long as I can remember, so I wouldn't be able to describe how it is done. It is mentally draining to maintain, though, because you have to be continuously thinking in that direction.

3. Turning off an emotion, as described in the original post. I've done this, but it isn't something I could do quickly, nor would it be something I would ever do again.

4. Repressing an emotion. This is typically from trauma as well. Where you never deal with an emotion from an event or series of events and unconsciously bury them. The emotions may spring up at a later time, forcing you to deal with them.
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Life isn't a single piece, it isn't a straight line, nor is it simple. There is always that day where I was walking alone on a dusty sidewalk. Just because I pretended all the time that everything was okay doesn't mean it ever was. Life is a compilation of broken chapters, we are always changing and always moving forward. It was in the afternoon of a high school day where I was with my friends at our usual table. It was the fourth group of friends in six years... apparently my friendship has a high turnover rate. As my friends were talking amongst themselves, something came up in my mind. All the past friendships that have dissolved I will never have again, never again experience the laughs and fun I've had with all the different people I'd met over the years.
I stood up and left the table to go outside without a word. Realizing that I couldn't hold on to the past was tough, realizing it would never happen again was even tougher. It's not a single event that I was sad about, it's the past itself. Every moment we are striving to be the sun, burning on all sides and never going out, without noticing that what is burning is our pasts. As I walked outside, old friends and new waved hello, asked whats wrong. Of course I said I was perfectly fine. I'm very adept at masking how I feel, I've done it my whole life. When you hold things like this inside, they tend to break parts of your character. I never thought about the fact that I could the past wasn't ever going to repeat itself until now, I felt like if I could just grab time and hold it here I could be happy.
Time makes it important to live every moment to it's full potential, but in the end it doesn't matter. If I want to ever be successful in this one life of my own to live and to lead, I have to learn that I need to let go of the past and focus on what I can do in the present. Each second is immeasurably precious and there is no time to spend it thinking about the past. This story is just my own and of no significant quality or purpose to anyone else, but as all these thoughts ran through my head it allowed me to better shrug off the false consciousness we all start to develop in this shallow world. Everything I do I must leave behind, it's that realization that shapes and molds my future everyday now... every day since walking alone on a dusty sidewalk.


TL;DR : When you try to take away your own emotions, you will only end up hurting yourself.
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Posted 2/5/15
Sounds like an angsty teenager, your friend I mean.
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I personally think of emotion as an experience. You're less of a person without them. Even being without sadness makes it so you miss out on so much. Good shows play with your emotions - making you sad at the best times and happy at others. Not being able to experience that would remove a lot from life.
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I'm the type of guy who used to wear my heart on my sleeve. I was more readable than J.K. Rowling's Harry Potter Books (lol). Yet, experiences happened which showed people take advantage of certain emotions and I sort of lost faith in trusting people fully. Has that made me a cynic? Probably. Has that made me emotionally dysfunctional? Debatable.

I definitely have a higher threshold for being upset and disappointed now, so I don't easily feel those emotions. Also lost the passion to hate people because it gets me no where in life.

Growing up and experiencing different situations has definitely helped in keeping my emotions in check. Either that or I'm just becoming desensitised to everything.
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Posted 2/5/15
i don't think a normal person can omit an emotion, not feel sadness etc. though emotions can be controlled. i've seen people who make wrong decisions due to their emotions and those who calmly analyse situation and usually take the best decision without getting too emotional. is the 2nd person unemotional? no, s/he knows (practised) to not be controlled by their emotion all the time.
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Posted 2/5/15
I don't cry anymore.

It doesn't matter how god awful something is, I just can't.

My childhood and teenage years into my early twenties had been.... "unique" to say the least. When I was 18, I had a weird quirk where a handshake seemed like too much personal contact with another person to feel comfortable....

When a friend or family member dies, I honestly have no fucks to give. Except... I feel like I have to react so that others don't consider me a cold hearted bastard. And then I get a bit of anxiety about making sure I show the proper emotion and the the right amount at the right times... It's hellish.

I was suffering depression and anxiety and thought it was just a head cold... I was just that disassociated from the emotions.

I still suffer this to some extent today.

There's just a point where emotions, and extreme emotions, combined with extreme physical or psychological stress that just burns out emotion. The only way for the mind to continue on is to short circuit those emotions out.

Do you remember this girl?

In the anime series she's a perfect example of what it's like to be completely disassociated from your negative emotions.
It's a weird way to live. (and no, I'm not that bad, it's similar enough).

You know the traditional Yandere characters? That's what happens when supressed negative emotions come out in various ways.

I remember in my early twenties dealing with the concept of being a truly "good" person. I hated being percieved as a threatening person at all time, and I hated that earlier in my life I had been willing to do a lot of really bad things. I didn't trust the "evil" inside me. I tried to get rid of every negative reaction, every "evil" thought, I had, and I was pretty damned good at it. But I ended up crying (this was before the total short circuiting of my emotions) because I couldn't find a place to donate books I no longer wanted and had to toss them in the trash once.. Since probably about the age of 24, I have been working on accepting both halves of what I am, and am trying to get rid of my aversion to certain situations and behaviors.... Just trying to find a way to either be... Well, I don't know what. More stitched together? I enjoy the disassociation at times, though I'd like to be able to choose when I feel things rather than simply have those moments where I'm incapable. Same with my good/evil split. Same with the many many other ways I'm split...

It's not a life I would want anyone else to have though, (although... some of it all might be good for people to experience VERY briefly so as to add... "perspective" to their lives...
Posted 2/5/15 , edited 2/5/15

mordant221 wrote:

Sounds like an angsty teenager, your friend I mean.


Yep, He just has a complex on being happy and anything that's the polar opposite is not welcomed in his view. We all have ways to cope with our past and I guess that's his way.
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Posted 2/5/15
I'm not sure if it's possible. In my opinion I say everything is relative and there is a certain threshold that gets moved by your past experiences. Myself I am rather hardened to such negative emotions. I experience them very mildly until that threshold is reached upon which I don't explode with emotion but rather feel them the same as I have in the past.
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Posted 2/5/15
Its dangerous for a person, I mean the iner id could take ranpant action at random moment, the strees attacks could happen.
Posted 2/5/15 , edited 2/5/15

potentsativa wrote:
"That's fucking stupid".


I would have said the same thing. But replaced 'that's' to 'you are'.
You can't just decide not to feel sadness, it's a human emotion.
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Posted 2/5/15
In my younger years (12 to 27) I suffered with anger management issues.

While in the military I spent 18 months in Seoul, Korea. Out of a need to do something I started to hang around a martial arts dojo.
After about a week the Masters Asst came over to talk to me with the help of his middle school son.
After two 45 min. talks the Asst. offered me training for free if I was willing to teach the students english conversation/pronunciation


Long story short the 7th Dan Black belt master helped me control my anger problems. Starting with meditation.
I was taught that I could visualize my anger as a wild beast and imprison it in a sealed box with heavy chains around it.
It took about a year to work to the point I could feel the difference. I have lived the rest of my life without fear of my anger.


There are times full or part removal of an emotion is a good thing.
Just remember that most emotions have a flip side that will be affected
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Posted 2/6/15
I don't think you can just shut off an emotion, like sadness or anger and never feel it. Like previously written, that's fucking stupid. But training to be able to feel when the anger rises and suppress it, of course. The same with sadness, if you feel it enough, through bad experiences or depression, it will hurt less and less, but that's just because your mind adapts itself to it, as a method of protecting you.

I, like everyone else feel sadness and anger, but I started off not knowing how to show it. I felt sad, but on the outside I would be just the same. Even when people dear to me have died, I wasn't able to show my sadness. Saying that an emotion has been shut off is stupid. And if by some means it has(who knows), it will hit you in the face like a freight train some day. I think.

TLDR: It's fucking stupid.
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Posted 2/6/15
If only we were able to completely dispose of certain emotions, that would be so great.
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