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How did your parents raise you?
Posted 2/5/15 , edited 2/5/15
Alright, I have yet another question. How did your parents raise you? Or how are they raising you?

My parents were always very strict, and cared a lot (maybe a little too much) about manners. Basically it was either be polite or be grounded. And there were a lot of things that qualified as "rude"... Anyways, because of that, I've learned to become a (somewhat) nicer person. We had a couple of gay/lesbian relatives in our family growing up, and my mother always told me that no matter what, a gay person is still a person. She was also the "I'll love you no matter what type of person you are" kind of mom. I still got yelled at a lot though... Now, when I say my parents are strict, I mean they're strict. I was always never allowed to use/have any electronics after I went to bed (for some reason... I really don't know why. She always says it's because I might "stay up all night"), and I always had early "bedtimes" compared to the other kids I knew. My mom always got worried easily, while my dad was kind of the opposite. He never really talked to me unless it was to give me chores. I know he probably still loves me, but he never really did a good job of showing it... Because my parents were so strict growing up, I always felt the need to rebel. I would sometimes sneak electronics/food up to my room, and lie to get what I wanted. Eventually due to the strict parenting and some other things that happened during my childhood/preteens, I grew a "mean-streak", according to some people I know. Meh. I'm still not that bad of a kid though.

I could go into more detail about this, but I don't feel like it.
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let's say my parents are authoritarian and that pretty much sums up everything. However, I'm really close to them and we always joke around
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Posted 2/5/15
By the book.
One I didn't read.
Posted 2/5/15
My parents aren't really in my life and never really have been. Too focused on my siblings so I pretty much raised myself (bar housing, clothing and food obviously) and i've been pretty independent from an early age.
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Posted 2/5/15
My parents cared for me a lot (and still do), and that could be because I'm an only child, so they didn't have to make time for multiple kids. I was raised to be polite, respectful, and kind. That said, I was given more freedom the older I got, since they trust me to make good choices. They've raised me well.
Posted 2/5/15
They didn't my grandma and grandpa did and they were old school. Till this day I still use yes sir, yes ma'am as a sign of respect. They raised me right. I believe I am the only one that still follows what I was taught.... their kids however..... forgot somehow down the road which is why I can't stand my family.
Posted 2/5/15
they weren't good, but no humans are without flaws.

trying too much to control my life... e.g. trying to matchmake me into a straight relationship even fully aware that I'm gay, pushing me into a career path (that they think is respectable), telling me what I should do with my money. (I understand they do this with good intentions, but like... they've known me for 26 years, isn't it obvious by now... that I'm not controllable?) O_o...




Like the saying goes, "If you love somebody, you have to set them free"... this saying doesn't only apply to romance, imo. It can be applied to any type of relationship, whether familial, friendship or romance. You have to let people be free, not try to control them like a puppet. (Unless you're in a BDSM type relationship, I suppose).



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I don't remember
Posted 2/5/15
To be the very best....like no one ever was.
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They did I good job. It wasn't perfect, but not parents aren't. The good outweighs the bad significantly, so, that's good enough in my opinion.
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I've been sheltered a lot, being the youngest. They ruled with an iron fist and tough love. Thankfully, it kept me away from drugs and bad company that all the other kids around my age were falling in to. I'm fit and healthy thanks to that!

They also made education a priority. Without knowledge, I would have faltered. I have a lot to thank them for.
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My dad disappeared from my life when I was roughly 4 years old - which is actually something I believe was a good thing. My mum raised me afterwards. There weren't much rules but I was expected to follow them. I was allowed to be exposed to violent games and violent movies but nothing with nudity. My mum would also make up new rules as time went on but none of them were unfair. I started life on benefits and she worked hard to earn enough money to raise me well. She made sure that I went to a good school and we would both sit in the living room under the covers to keep warm to save on energy costs. We lived in a council house at the time but I was raised well enough that I really didn't know we had no money. I wasn't expected to do any chores though so I spent my early childhood learning to read apparently as, looking back, I was way ahead of the school curriculum at the time - and Scotland's education system is quite good. This would lead me to a life as a gamer - which is still the case today as I'm in one of the top universities for game development. She also encouraged me to stop supporting Rangers FC (which I did after realising that it only stopped me being friends with Celtic fans) so I became a huge wrestling fan which I still am today. I think that my mum raised me perfectly. I couldn't ask for more.

My mum did have many boyfriends over the time though. Each brought different games into my life and eventually moral guidance. They basically were the adult in the house though and it was really the games that were raising me at the time. The one who fathered my little brother was probably the most important of them. As my mum was atheist I wasn't raised in a religious household. He introduced me to agnosticism so I dropped the Christianity that my school had taught me and adopted agnosticism - which evolved into my weird religion that I have today somehow. He's probably also the reason why I care so much about politics.
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I was very free... Except that there were a lot of not so nice people who came and went. It was very "survival of the fittest" combined with "unique punishments" from those not so nice people that popped in and out. When it wasn't that, it was a lot of "figure out how to clean your own clothes, figure out how to cook", etc... due to absenteeism. Other things, like work and finance were very much like how the real world is.

I'd say overall, I think it was good, save for the creative punishments bit, and if I'd have children, I'd prefer to not coddle them into a false sense of security, or figure things out for them, though I'd prefer to be present more often and avoid strict (or much of any) direct punishment. The consequences of one' actions should be more than enough to learn from.
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Posted 2/5/15
Very lenient, gave me a lot of freedom, I had a very comfortable childhood. I don't really get along with my mom though
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Posted 2/5/15
Raise me? Well, they didn't kill me, though my stepfather and my mother both tried at least once. My father came into the picture when I was 14, with the intent of buying my love. I learned how to handle making sure the bills got paid-a skill my mother is not competent in. I learned how not to die when confronted with violence and or armed threats. When my mother was in a more sane mood, she was pretty liberal about how I was raised, I was free to go where I wanted, I was allowed to gamble from age 11 up (bad idea, for the record), I got to have pretty much any pet I wanted as long as we could afford it. I've lived an extremely high stress life since I was seven, which started to screw my health when I was 12.
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