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How did your parents raise you?
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My dad was good parent, my mom was generally lousy and abusive parent.
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Both my parents were good. They were very strict and integrated discipline and manners into my life. Back in the day I used to think they were mean and hated me lol. I'm glad that they were like that though. It really does help all these years later.
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Distantly seeing as there's a lot of workaholics in the family and relied on grandparents for the strict spare the rod and spoil the child sort of life. None of us spend a lot of time with mother now that she's semi-retired and has time because we're not used to having her around. We get awkward and after a few hours or day ask when she's leaving.
Posted 2/5/15

Sun_Seto-san wrote:

My parents cared for me a lot (and still do), and that could be because I'm an only child, so they didn't have to make time for multiple kids. I was raised to be polite, respectful, and kind. That said, I was given more freedom the older I got, since they trust me to make good choices. They've raised me well.


Yep. Pretty much is the same for me.
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let's say my parents are authoritarian and that pretty much sums up everything. However, I'm really close to them and we always joke around


You sure you don't mean authoritative vs authoritarian?

Authoritarian parents:

A) Have strict rules and expectations.

B) Very demanding, but not responsive; Don't express much warmth or nurturing.

C) Utilize punishments with little or no explanation.

D) Don't give children choices or options.


Authoritative on the other hand is much more democratic; establish guidelines/rules, but rarely punish & actually listen to their children's opinions. Which sounds much more like what you meant. - or my assumption at any rate, don't see you getting along with an authoritative parenting style. If you truly did mean authoritative im curious how that works out? - My parents were always authoritative, and i couldn't imagine a household where I had no voice =/

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My parents were awesome. They had an authoritative parenting style which gave me a genuine voice in my house, almost like I was a prince. I rarely gave my parents any trouble, but I never felt the need because I was able to do what I wanted most of the time. Not to say I didn't get my punishments when I needed it! My curfew at 16 was midnight, i was always allowed to have friends over or go to my friends when I wanted; I got pretty much anything I wanted as long as we could afford it, although I honestly wasn't a needy child.

I can remember my mom picking me up from school when I was young, from 5-8, and every Friday she would take me to the park to play after I got my Happy Meal from Mcdonalds. My dad use to always take me around on the 4 wheeler every weekend when he was off because I loved playing in the river & riding with him. We would always go over to my Aunt & Uncles who lived right down the road & have a BBQ once a month; we would all play in the pool & dad would throw me off of his shoulders even though I knew he was wore out after the 50th time haha. When I became a teen I remember my favorite surprise, I was 15 & had just came home from a summer trip; we were fairly poor until I was about 17, but out of no where they bought me a brand new 4 wheeler & surprised me with it in July. My friend had left his with me for a month and I enjoyed it so much they got me one!

My dad got a new job when I turned 16 which required him to travel a lot, and it made our already strong bond even stronger. I have idolized my father since I was very young; I have so many of his personality traits that it scares me sometimes, but I couldn't think of any other person I would rather emulate. Me & my mom are very close as well, but she gets on my nerves a lot because I am the only child & she can be overly clingy at times, but she is awesome. At 18 my mother moved to be with my father, and they left me the house to run & maintain, just shows the kind of trust they have for me. I threw sooo many parties haha, and my mom knew; I have a very open relationship with my parents - they let me be who I am, and I love that so much. My first time to ever get drunk I was 18, half a fifth of vodka (mistake) & I called my mom from my friends to come get me; she took me home, cooked me a good breakfast & really wasn't very upset with me. She made me call dad, and all dad said was I needed to be careful because im a minor & he didn't approve of my actions, but was proud I did the right thing & didn't attempt to drive. They have always been there for me when i needed anything.

The biggest obstacle that our relationship had to overcome was when I became an atheist. I grew up in a church basically, I was a state bible drill champion by the age of 8; every morning before the bus would arrive me and mom would go over my verses i was trying to memorize for that week. I went to a private christian school where I would lead chapel for the entire school, only in 5th grade, teaching theology to the high schoolers lol. So that was a test for our relationship; many times I watched my mom cry to me because of it, me and dad would get into yelling fights because of the wide difference in opinion, and quite honestly the gap in our education. Now things are great, we can have conversations about our beliefs and they take a genuine interest in why I believe certain ways. I'm 24 now, so they now recognize me as an individual rather than just their son, and I have had the gratification of educating them and critiquing their views on things.

I get drunk with my mom when we are camping with the family or at other family dinners. It took my dad a long time, I was 20, to finally drink a beer in front of me lol, but he has lightened up now & will drop the F bomb in front of me. I work alongside my mom, dad, and now one of my best friends i've known my whole life, and it is amazing. My father is a great worker, and it is nice being able to see him in his element being a real leader in our line of work. It is nice being able to be so far away from where home is, but still have a home cooked meal from my mom. It is the first time we have all been together in 5 years for longer than a week at a time - so it has truly been a great year for my family, and I can tell my mom has really enjoyed having her son around. I am a baller at my job as well, and it makes me the happiest just knowing my parents are proud of me in all that I do, and never hesitate to praise me when I do good or scold me when I need a reality check. I HAVE THE BEST PARENTS IN THE WORLD - NO DOUBT IN MY MIND.
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They planted me, watered me, and with a little sunlight I became the person I am today
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I'm Asian. Does that explain enough?
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My mom was stern but fair. My father bailed.
Posted 2/6/15
They didn't. My aunt did. It was like being raised in a monastery. Corporal punishment and all. Fun stuff.
Posted 2/6/15
I was raised by wolves~
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Navy brat.
My father will tell my bro and i "I don't care what time you boys go to bed, be advised i am waking your sorry butts up at 6:00am"
My mother said "the moment those boys get bigger than me, is the moment i will hit them over their head with a 2x4" We aways bow down whenever mother is around to this day.
Even though they sometimes would say things, we knew when they were strict and when they weren't
Mom would make sure my bro and i went to church. She would was also the same lady who took us to see "Animal House" and "Cheech and Chong Next Movie" at the drive-in.
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My father has always been the one stable influence in my life, while giving me all the most practical advices I needed. He also taught me to play instruments and we share a passion for music(although he hates all modern music and that's lame). He's the support.

My mother has been the creative influence in my life, teaching me not to believe everything the schools and society say, giving me the opportunity to walk my own path. She's the one I can talk about anything with and she inspired me to do things I love. She probably knew what I wanted to do in life before even I did, and always supported that.
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My Parents spoiled Me...Made it known early that Money isn't an issue. With an 11 Year older Brother having made mistakes and delves into Drugs, and Crime, I was Sheltered and put on a Pedestal. It left Me awkward in Childhood, and it took Years before I came to be Okay with several things that left Me stunted Emotionally and Developmentally.

My Parents did the best they could, however. Of that, I KNOW COMPLETELY. Especially My Father. <3
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Well my Dad left when i was about 2 years old and i was pretty much completely raised by my Mum and my Nan. My Mother worked really hard to give me and my Brother a good life working 2 jobs at times until she finally found her passion in the Ambulance service eventually training as a Paramedic which she did until a back injury forced her to quit but she married my Step Dad by then and was in a comfortable position. She now fosters children short term who have specific medical needs.

She was only really strict when she needed to be, gave really good advice and was always there for me when i needed her. She taught me a lot about not patronizing your kids and being controlling because of what they might do. If i did something stupid she'd get mad but then she'd sit and talk about why i did those things and what reasons it might not be good for me. Allowing me to learn about life and make my own choices i think made me grow as a person and i made several changes. I live a really healthy lifestyle these days and have my own beliefs. Don't drink,smoke or use drugs anymore like i did in my teens and College years because i learned on my own why these things are bad for me.

Amusingly when i think of my favorite anime characters many of them are these strong female characters i think a lot of that is kind of a reflection of myself as a kid because i saw my Mother with a lot of respect and very strong like a super hero so maybe i have some sort of female worship from that when it comes to media XD.

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