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How did your parents raise you?
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let's say my parents are authoritarian and that pretty much sums up everything. However, I'm really close to them and we always joke around


You sure you don't mean authoritative vs authoritarian?

Authoritarian parents:

A) Have strict rules and expectations.

B) Very demanding, but not responsive; Don't express much warmth or nurturing.

C) Utilize punishments with little or no explanation.

D) Don't give children choices or options.


Authoritative on the other hand is much more democratic; establish guidelines/rules, but rarely punish & actually listen to their children's opinions. Which sounds much more like what you meant. - or my assumption at any rate, don't see you getting along with an authoritative parenting style. If you truly did mean authoritative im curious how that works out? - My parents were always authoritative, and i couldn't imagine a household where I had no voice =/



yep, authoritarian, I've studied this in ap psychology that's why I said however. coz even if they are really strict against me and it's always their rules, we can still have bond and joke around. or actually a mix of authoritative and authoritarian coz they can be lenient if I want to use internet trust me, they even make me change my clothes if they don't like it Dx and they make me go to church stuffs even if I don't like it
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jhanna_12 wrote:


Shishiku wrote:


jhanna_12 wrote:

let's say my parents are authoritarian and that pretty much sums up everything. However, I'm really close to them and we always joke around


You sure you don't mean authoritative vs authoritarian?

Authoritarian parents:

A) Have strict rules and expectations.

B) Very demanding, but not responsive; Don't express much warmth or nurturing.

C) Utilize punishments with little or no explanation.

D) Don't give children choices or options.


Authoritative on the other hand is much more democratic; establish guidelines/rules, but rarely punish & actually listen to their children's opinions. Which sounds much more like what you meant. - or my assumption at any rate, don't see you getting along with an authoritative parenting style. If you truly did mean authoritative im curious how that works out? - My parents were always authoritative, and i couldn't imagine a household where I had no voice =/



yep, authoritarian, I've studied this in ap psychology that's why I said however. coz even if they are really strict against me and it's always their rules, we can still have bond and joke around. or actually a mix of authoritative and authoritarian coz they can be lenient if I want to use internet trust me, they even make me change my clothes if they don't like it Dx and they make me go to church stuffs even if I don't like it


That's interesting. I couldn't imagine, my best friend had parents like that & staying at their house made me so on edge because of the rules that were always dictating our behavior. I'm glad you have a strong bond though; different styles certainly doesn't mean a lack of love!

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TV and the internet raised me.
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I was raised by authoritative parents, as a single child both of my parents taught me on what's right and wrong, they let me make my own choices, and they're always there for me during my tough times at Middle School, my dad taught me on how to be tougher and my mom on how humility helps you move forward. My mom is still with mr and my dad continues to work hard in order for us to have basic needs. I really want to get a job to help my parents out, but they recommend me to work until I'm 18.
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My mother was in he 30's when she had me and my father his 40's(early 60's when he died when I was 14) so I was kinda left alone to my own devices most of the time. My dad had 2 much older kids from marriage #1 (like they were all ready grown and out on their own for a few years when I was born) and my mom had 2 daughters who were 10 and 14 when I was born. They left me to my own devices for the most part, my mom has done newspapers my entire life so I would help her on the weekends and holidays and in exchange I got whatever video game I asked for when we went shopping. They were never very emotional or anything, I don't remember my mother saying she loved me really until after my father died, don't ever remember my father saying that :/ but they are/were nice parents, I keep in touch with my mom though I'm very worried about her ):

part of their style may have also been that once I got a playstation at age 8 or so (this was back in the early 90's) I became a video game addict :p compared to my two older sisters I was easy to raise probably because I didn't get into any trouble at school really
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I was abandoned by my father as an one year old, and spent a portion of my childhood in an abusive household. To say the least, they didn't raise me.
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I was really raised by my father and his guy roommates. My mom was busy drinking and sleeping with others guys. Not that I don't love my mom, of course, she's still my mom. My dad's roommates were very protective of me while growing up. And dad worked a lot so I was usually playing by myself or out with some friends. When I did something bad when I was little my dad would discipline me (like for killing my older brother's hamster). But I didn't really do anything bad when I was older, except being dishonest about my grades one time in 8th grade. I love and look up to my dad. He's a responsible man who works very hard even with all the sh*t he goes through.
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My parents gave me plenty of freedom within reason. They were always supportive of things I wanted to do and pushed me to keep at it even if I didn't like it at first. Though it was more or less my mom that was doing that stuff, I know my dad works hard as a surgeon so that we could live a comfortable life. Of course there were frustrating times but they're just another life experience, like all the DIY projects ranging from wiring the house ethernet (the small spaces are real) to packing up and moving everything from my grandma's home in Arizona to here in California over the summer.

Generally I think I was raised extremely well considering I want to be as good a parent to my future family as my parents were to me. Several of my classmates from high school commonly made comments on how my mom is amazing because of how hard she works. I am who I am because of my parents and I'm pretty pleased with who I am so I think my parents did an awesome job.
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