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If somebody offers you to pay for your college or tutor, and living expenses.
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No. I hate and would feel very guilty accepting ANYTHING from someone, so something as big as that..
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I wouldn't. Even if it's theoretically no-strings-attached, it still gives them a degree of control/influence. I refuse to let anyone have that degree of control over me; I'd rather wait until I can afford it myself.


By that logic, you wouldn't work a job. Jeez, how old are you to be this paranoid?
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Probably not , the reason being is I don't know anyone with that kind of expendable money. I didn't get any assistance for college from family, but some of my other siblings did. When you spend your own money, every failure feels like your putting everything at stake. It makes you work harder and be more motivated. Also, if you mess with your own money, you will only disappoint yourself. If Bill gates was my uncle...yes,otherwise probably not.
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Probably not , the reason being is I don't know anyone with that kind of expendable money. I didn't get any assistance for college from family, but some of my other siblings did. When you spend your own money, every failure feels like your putting everything at stake. It makes you work harder and be more motivated. Also, if you mess with your own money, you will only disappoint yourself. If Bill gates was my uncle...yes,otherwise probably not.


I would feel bad about raising money, isn't that enough motivation? It's the same reason I eat food when offered and try to finish up my meals.
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kamahl01 wrote:

Probably not , the reason being is I don't know anyone with that kind of expendable money. I didn't get any assistance for college from family, but some of my other siblings did. When you spend your own money, every failure feels like your putting everything at stake. It makes you work harder and be more motivated. Also, if you mess with your own money, you will only disappoint yourself. If Bill gates was my uncle...yes,otherwise probably not.


I would feel bad about raising money, isn't that enough motivation? It's the same reason I eat food when offered and try to finish up my meals.


I started at a school that was 3000 a year and transferred to one that was 28,000 a year.Trust me, spending that kind of money will motivate most people. Of course not wanting to feel bad about wasting other peoples money would be motivation,but depending what happens after graduation, you may still feel you let them down. What if someone spends 50,000 of their money on your education and you get good grades, but struggle to find work when its over?
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I would take the offer and use what was given to make the very best of my future. If, for some reason, I don't accept the offer I'd try and point them to someone who might (and would actually need it/use it wisely).

I would most likely save it for when I transfer to a four year university. If I ever make it that far.
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So someone is paying all of my college money and the only condition is that I go to college? Is there any logical reason to refuse? The only alternative would be having thousands of dollars of loans every year and no sane person would want that.
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Yup. Sounds like a good offer.
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Assuming they're not driving themselves into financial ruin by paying for your school there's no reason not to take them up on the offer. If you feel bad about it pay them back later or in installments, it's just like a student loan but you're getting it interest free instead of from a bank.
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*cough* some of the u.s. military branches do all this btw. Not all of them, but some of them do all of it.
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Bushido_Dragon wrote:

I wouldn't. Even if it's theoretically no-strings-attached, it still gives them a degree of control/influence. I refuse to let anyone have that degree of control over me; I'd rather wait until I can afford it myself.


By that logic, you wouldn't work a job. Jeez, how old are you to be this paranoid?

A job is different, because the compensation is being given in return for specific services provided, there is a written contract that lays out the nature and limitations of the relationship, and there is recourse available should the contract be violated. I'm not sure it's paranoid if it arises from first-hand experience of how it can go wrong.
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PeripheralVisionary wrote:


Bushido_Dragon wrote:

I wouldn't. Even if it's theoretically no-strings-attached, it still gives them a degree of control/influence. I refuse to let anyone have that degree of control over me; I'd rather wait until I can afford it myself.


By that logic, you wouldn't work a job. Jeez, how old are you to be this paranoid?

A job is different, because the compensation is being given in return for specific services provided, there is a written contract that lays out the nature and limitations of the relationship, and there is recourse available should the contract be violated. I'm not sure it's paranoid if it arises from first-hand experience of how it can go wrong.

They're giving you money to do something, and a boss has control over you in a job. The money can only be spent on education. I don't see any real difference other than distrust of other people's magnanimity. Yes, it is paranoid and cynical, regardless of previous experiences.

It's theoretically no strings attached, and you talk about some perceived control a person has over your life, which is virtually nonexistent as I see it. Most loans people take out for colleges give more control to a bank than a scholarship. That's the truth. We're not talking about a loan to be paid back, but a scholarship.


If you went to college, you most likely received grants. Are you advising people not to take grants? That would simply be idiotic.
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Yup.
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This should get a resounding 'YES' from anyone who isn't an idiot. There's very little reason not to accept.

Isn't this what many people are doing when they get grants and scholarships and go to college anyway?


I wouldn't disagree but the doubter inside me would always ask what the catch is, or when they are going to fail me, and eventually as I try to decide, I'll eventually decide not.
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PeripheralVisionary wrote:


Bushido_Dragon wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


Bushido_Dragon wrote:

I wouldn't. Even if it's theoretically no-strings-attached, it still gives them a degree of control/influence. I refuse to let anyone have that degree of control over me; I'd rather wait until I can afford it myself.


By that logic, you wouldn't work a job. Jeez, how old are you to be this paranoid?

A job is different, because the compensation is being given in return for specific services provided, there is a written contract that lays out the nature and limitations of the relationship, and there is recourse available should the contract be violated. I'm not sure it's paranoid if it arises from first-hand experience of how it can go wrong.

They're giving you money to do something, and a boss has control over you in a job. The money can only be spent on education. I don't see any real difference other than distrust of other people's magnanimity. Yes, it is paranoid and cynical, regardless of previous experiences.

It's theoretically no strings attached, and you talk about some perceived control a person has over your life, which is virtually nonexistent as I see it. Most loans people take out for colleges give more control to a bank than a scholarship. That's the truth. We're not talking about a loan to be paid back, but a scholarship.


If you went to college, you most likely received grants. Are you advising people not to take grants? That would simply be idiotic.


A job these days is more than just "I work, you give me money" in most cases. There's a lot that you're implicitly expected to take home, and a mannerism you are expected (sometimes explicitly) when talking of your job or in general the mannerisms you might have outside of work.

work sucks and it gets worse every day. But without work... yeah, you're really fucked.
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