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you could take her on walk in the park, or go roller/ice skating, mini golf, bowling, or just go out to eat. but dont take her somewhere were you cant talk to her (like the movies)
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Boardwalk-Angel wrote:

you could take her on walk in the park, or go roller/ice skating, mini golf, bowling, or just go out to eat. but dont take her somewhere were you cant talk to her (like the movies)


That's such a valid point haha. I never understood why the movies was the first thing that comes to peoples' minds.
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A camera and a bottle of tequila. Press record and both get super wasted. What ever happens and is said.... happens. Then next date invite her over for dinner and watch the recording. Profit.
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Most important thing on a first date is being able to talk. So go somewhere you can talk, and have fun!
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Well, I guess dinner would be good, yes? Probably going to a cheap diner or restaurant would suffice. Fast food usually doesn't go well with dates unless the other party suggests or agrees to it, so you might be able to get away with going to a cheap restaurant. Then probably go to the mall and check stuff out, I guess? Personally, I would take my S.O. to a theme park so we can have some fun on our date. It's all up to your tastes anyway. And try not to make yourself seem like some kind of Superman in front of your date. That just makes you seem narcissistic, idiotic, and maybe even a little too desperate. Just be yourself, act casual, and don't fart.
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For a first date i'd do something simple. Get some lunch somewhere, nothing fancy nor anywhere that has anything to do with deep fried crap. Talk with each other about random things, get to know each other better by learning what the other realy likes, how he/she thinks about certain subjects. Don't stretch it out too long, keep it within 3 or 4 hours, don't make it last all day and try to bring up a second date (if possible set a date for it aswell). The reason not to make it last too long is that it will become extremely dull at the end otherwise. Also make sure you don't part with a "see you later" or something like that. Walk the other home or to the bus or w/e and say something like "looking forward to next time".

Don't be too stiff on the first date, keep things simple and stay relaxed. One way to stay relaxed is not to think "this is a date" but to think "im walking arround with a friend having a good time".

As for the second one, bring out a bit more, like a dinner somewhere a bit special. Doesn't mean a restaurant that only serves fancy crap and will rob you blind for f*** all. But a place where you can both feel pretty relaxed and serves good food and can have a somewhat romantic atmosphere (maybe sushi?).

After that you should know enough about what the other likes and can take it from there on out.

Anyways, thats just my advice, in the end its all up to the person in question.
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Make sure they aren't dumb.
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1. Take to private area
2. Have water bottle
3. Cut off top portion of water bottle
4. Take off pants
5. Put bottle over penis
6. Profit


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Me I would shrug my shoulders and ask this friend why he is going through this farce. I mean really why pretend that you are interested in someone for something beyond sex? That is all a date is a waste of time pretending like you are interested in more than just sex. I would hope that such questions would make this friend realize that I have no interest in dating and and not going to offer up any good advice.
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My cousin went rock climbing on her first date
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Get them KNOCKED UP after you ask if the rag smells like chloroform.
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1. Do not tell them to "be themselves!"

2. Dates can include any type of activity. It depends on what the friend likes to do. But generally I'd suggest doing something that is not ordinary. That is, don't just go to a movie, or get dinner somewhere. Go rock climbing or something cool like that. This has two advantages: A) It will make you stand out and make you interesting, and B ) psychology: exciting activity elevates heart rate, dangerous activity makes us nervous but also floods us with hormones and gives us a rush. If you can be that person who will subconsciously be associated with excitement or having a rush or being nervous, you are more likely to spark a romantic interest. There are studies on this.
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anti-freeze wrote:

Me I would shrug my shoulders and ask this friend why he is going through this farce. I mean really why pretend that you are interested in someone for something beyond sex? That is all a date is a waste of time pretending like you are interested in more than just sex. I would hope that such questions would make this friend realize that I have no interest in dating and and not going to offer up any good advice.


I'm so confused. Have you not experienced an intimate relationship, or are you generalizing "first dates"?
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mordant221 wrote:

The be yourself thing is bullshit, especially when you're a teenager... did anyone know themselves at that age?

What your "friend" should do on his first date, is follow the movies. We are heavily influenced by pop culture, and every lady likes to feel special, experience that Notebook romance.

So first, dominate. You need to lead and make sure she knows it, don't ask her where she wants to go, just take her, she'll probably appreciate it. Make it memorable, doesn't have to be expensive, just something unique. Is it raining? Take her to the side of the bridge in the pouring rain, wind blowing you guys back and forth, then kiss her. You know a spot on the top of a hill over looking your town, take her there, then sit and talk all night till the sun comes up. 1st dates should be about you and her, so anywhere without people (no movies or malls or bars or clubs, that's second date and onwards stuff).

Second, use common sense. Think before you say anything so you don't end up saying something stupid (if you think it's stupid, it's stupid), DO NOT talk about anime or video games unless you are absolutely sure she's into it as well. Most importantly, don't talk so much period, just listen to her. Be the cool guy, nod and say of course an definitely all the time while always maintaining eye contact so she thinks you're interested (remember, dominate. Always maintain eye contact when reasonable, even if she turns away). Also, make sure to actually pay attention so you know how to respond in case she asks what you think.

In the end, if she wants to have sex then awesome, otherwise NEVER be the first to initiate it. Guys make that mistake all the time, women always have it in the back of their heads that all men want is sex, don't prove her right.


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