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Post Reply Which do you think is more effective, rewards or punishments?
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Posted 2/20/15
And why do you think that way?

I was debating someone about parenting styles, and want to get some other opinions on this topic.
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I would say Reward as it has a more positive impact, you do something correct/well you get something desirable. Everyone prefers praise to punishment. I think punishment if it is too often or severe has a negative effect that simply leads to a downward spiral, if the punishment is too severe and disproportionate every time the child will simply loose respect for their parents/adults and go their own way. But if the reward is too great/often you get the opposite and it will become expected and the child won't listen until they know they will get something in return.

At the end of the day I think both have their place, though I would rather reward than punish. Following through is what I believe in, if you say to them 'you can only go to the park if you tidy your room' this gives them the choice of the reward, the punishment is there but it's their decision but if they kick up a fuss and don't do it and you end up going to the park to keep the peace they know you can fold so next time will try and push harder.

That's my take on it anyway but every parent is different therefore every child is different and it's the variety that is required later on (Providing they don't move onto criminal activities!) in life.
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rewards but depending what the meaning of the reward it could also be a punishment too srry i had my mind in the gutter for a moment there but yea rewards are better
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other: involvement (this means talking to your child, being a part of its life), compliments (honest ones, don't say your child looks like a movie star when it looks like a pig) and support (supporting the child's true goals) are way more important.

it isn't black and white.
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Posted 2/20/15
Wait...what about FUNishment? huh, huh, huh?
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Posted 2/21/15 , edited 2/21/15
I'm a stingy little thing because my parents constantly used to use spankings as punishment as a child (mainly my mother who was abusive emotionally as well, seriously, screw her). I personally don't think punishments are that effective compared to rewards.
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I think as punishment people should be perm banned and have everything revoked, force them not to be a lazy TV watching bums, and to exercise for once. It may hurt sales, but it works.
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Rewards I say. Punishments in some cases might leave the person mental scars even if it might be affective, depending on the situation. So, yeah. That's all...
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Kaeru69 wrote:

Punishments in some cases might leave the person mental scars even if it might be affective...


To this, and everyone else talking in a a similar vein, punishment doesn't psychologically disable you; if something something gives you a disorder its not punishment, it's abuse. A punishment is a form of manifest disapproval, and grows in equal proportion to someone's actions; a child is not physically or socially capable of incurring wrath great enough to permanently scar them, they quite simply do not have the capacity to do so. When you punish a child you are showing them your disapproval and the unacceptability of their action. Should a situation arise in which it appears like the child has done something monstrous, then the fault for that situation arising in the first place lies on the guardians of the child. If a child ever receives "punishment' to such a degree that it would lead to scarring then it also reflects the guardians' poor capacity to raise the child, and more like reflects a psychological unbalance in the guardian.
Just as rewards encourage you to be good, punishments discourage you from being bad. They both have their place, and both are necessary to raising a healthy, stable child. Too much of either is bad, just as too little of either is bad as well. It is with consistent and fair application of both these methods that a child is raised to be an ethical and well-behaved individual.

That's my two-bit sense anyways; everyone has their own opinion, and all' will always disagree.
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It depends on the situation, but from what I remember from AP Psychology is that negative reinforcement (i.e., doing something undesirable to the subject until they have done the desired action) is the most effective.
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Punishment, but not so much that they become immune to it. Rewards leave a person thinking too highly of themselves from what I've seen at school. Punishment makes a person afraid of repeating the same error.
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An9el wrote:

rewards but depending what the meaning of the reward it could also be a punishment too srry i had my mind in the gutter for a moment there but yea rewards are better


This pretty much states My feelings as well.
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I remember reading this in Psychology class.

Someone argued punishment makes more sense because pain whether mentally or physically is more long lasting or some nonsense along those lines.

Rewards can lead a more positive outcome I think.
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Posted 2/24/15
Both. Mild punishments for bad behavior, rewards for good behavior.
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Posted 2/25/15 , edited 2/25/15

jordancharacter wrote:

Both. Mild punishments for bad behavior, rewards for good behavior.


Couldnt agree more. If you only reward them you'll spoil them and they'll become those little brats that show no respect to anyone and if you punish them all the time then they only know fear and can't trust anybody anymore or they get violent and want to make other's suffer like they did.

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